Ex-Wife in prision, father cant take child, what happens to child?

Question

My fiancee and i are currently in a hard position. We took custody of his 14 yr old child last year but had to give her back because of false alligations made by her about EVERYONE including her mother, aunt, grandparents and my brother. All of the alligations turned out to be false.

The child is currently in her mother's home but her mother will be going to prision in a few days for 15 yrs. We moved in with my parents where my brother lives so we cant take the child back.

What is going to happen to the child? What will happen to my fiancee for not being able to take her?

My fiancee and i are currently in a hard position. We took custody of his 14 yr old child last year but had to give her back because of false alligations made by her about EVERYONE including her mother, aunt, grandparents and my brother. All of the alligations turned out to be false. The child is extremely bi-polar, we committed her twice. My fiancee is afraid of more alligations. We have tried everything to get this child on the right path but nothing has worked. I do agree that my fiancee is responiable for a child he made that is why we took her in the first place BUT we are still reling from the drama 3 months later.

The child is currently in her mother's home but her mother will be going to prision in a few days for 15 yrs. We moved in with my parents where my brother lives so we cant take the child back. To be honest, we are very scared of what this child will do next.

What is going to happen to the child? What will happen to my fiancee for not being able to take her?

My fiancee was an achohlic for many years but has been clean and sober for 3. We all make mistakes and he tried to make it right with her.

This child has never been abused. Only claims she has. She lived with her mother's parents for 7 years and they treated her like gold. She claimed that they beat her with wire hangers and another alligation was that her grandma held her down while her grandpa beat her. BUT IT NEVER HAPPENED. Since she is a minor nothing happens to her when she lies about abuse. The adult gets looked at like they are horriable yet they never did anything. Its a situation of your guility til u prove otherwise. Which they did.

Answer 1

You state that because of your living situation you "cannot" take her in. I can guarantee you that if she goes into foster care, he will be charged an astronomical amount for child support, as the state pays a foster parent close to $700/month per child.

She did not ask to be born and her behavior sounds reflective of her parental rejection and situation. He really needs to take her, and if you can't take that, well.....you aren't married yet. You knew going into this that he had a child.

Answer 2

You have two choices. You can either have her placed into foster care or have another family member take responsibility for her. The second one is not likely unless this girl is an honor roll student and will be a wonderful addition to a family. My guess is that she is not. There aren't many people that want to take on the liability and responsibility for a 14 year old girl. If she was a great kid, I think you would figure out how you could keep her.

Answer 3

Unfortunately,the system fails to see at times when it's wrong. If no one in any family,yours,or hers can take care of the child,she will be going to either another foster home or a teen shelter. What I would suggest is that your parents should apply for her care and see how D C F responds. Sounds like the kid's trouble anyway;I hope you're not blinded by love and see things for what they are. I commend you for caring for the child. Very few people really care about others nowadays.

Answer 4

Unfortunately the child will become a ward of the state and could end up in any number of situations.

Is your finance really that shallow and selfish? If it were my kid it wouldn't matter what I had to do, the child would be with me.

Sounds like there is more to this story than you're telling but the bottom line is even if you have to find another place to live the child should come first.

Answer 5

Well, she will be awarded to the court and put into a foster home or group home until she is no longer a minor. If your fiance really wants to do what is right, you guys to need to move back out and into an apartment atleast so that you can have her. You do not have much time, but if he advices that he is in the process of getting an apartment, they may hold off on awarding her to the court. But you need to get on it asap. Maybe get an apartment to move into by the 1st which is this weekend. I wish you luck though. Just tell your fiance to do what he can to fight and do what ever he needs to so he can get her. She will have emotional issues with him for a long time if she doesnt. Good luck.

Answer 6

This is a very sad situation for you and the child what will probably happen is that she will be placed into home. since there is no one else to care for her, but let her no that you love her. Your fiancee will probably be going though some emotional issues with her self because she cant do anything, but just let her no that you are there for her also if she wants to talk.
best of luck

Answer 7

The child will probably become a ward of the court and the state where you live until she reaches 18. There are too many situational things that could happen to cite them all here. Personally I will keep her in my prayers as she must have just a cracker jack opinion of adults in life.

Answer 8

Nothing will happen to your fiancee' The child, if she causes issues with you and your family again will more than likely be put in Foster care.

Answer 9

More than likely the child will be put in a foster home if no relatives are willing or able to take the child in.

Answer 10

Sadly unless someone else in the family can take the child in, she will probably become a ward of the court and be placed in a foster home.