My boyfriend works a lot. He works as a manager at a store. About three months ago he started to be at work a lot more than usual. When I asked him about it he just said there are things he has to do. Now he is pretty much there al the time. Even on his days off he says he has to go do something. I Don't think he is cheating on me I believe he at work I just think he has become work obsessed. We hardly ever get days off together when we do he always says he's got something to do at work . In the past month he was transferred to another store which he says is why he says has to be there all time. I can understand he might have to do extra work but I
can't understand why he has to be there all time. It has started to make me feel hurt and rejected like I am not as important as his work. I don't think I can handle coming second all time. Am I being too needy?
2007-08-23 06:23:03 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was like your boyfriend about 2 months ago. I've since switched jobs & focused on my relationship. I took her for granted far too long and it almost ruined us. You both need down time to make your relationship work. He has to leave the job at work.
You might want to ask him why he thinks it necessary to spend his waking hours there. Maybe he's under a great deal of pressure to improve things at the new job?
When he's off next have something for the both of you to do together. Get his mind off work! He's obviously a hard worker.
Ask him to work on your needs.
Jobs are a dime a dozen but a solid relationship is priceless.
2007-08-23 06:34:25 · answer #1 · answered by Fixguy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to understand that work is a big priority in a guy's life. Especially if he is work-driven in the first place. It's not completely needy, especially if you never get to spend time with him. You need to talk to him and ask him how much the relationship is worth to him. Let him know that you're not asking him to devote his entire being to you - but that you would like to see him more often than not. Try to arrange a certain day of the week where you both can see each other and spend some free time. Things may work out or they won't. Good luck!
2007-08-23 06:27:39 · answer #2 · answered by TegLover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way, not too needy. He may just need some time to get this new store together before he can relax. It could be he is working extra hard to do it quickly as opposed to working hard & doing it is less quickly. Honestly though, it sounds like a bit more than work... I wish I didn't have to say that..
2007-08-23 06:28:39 · answer #3 · answered by Lady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think that you are being too needy. You definitely need to talk to him about this. Balance is important in life, and relationships require time just as work does. If the relationship is important to him he has to realize that he can't spend every waking hour at work or things will eventually fall apart. Good luck with this!
2007-08-23 06:36:23 · answer #4 · answered by Tom T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not being too needy but you also need to lay off him cause you could have a scumbag that wont work at least he is working give it time it will get better nmy wife was a manager of a store i know first hand what your saying but it gets better
2007-08-23 06:45:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are to needy. Social needs are the second most important psychological need. The first is breathing. The social needs include; love, a feeling of belonging, a desire to be wanted, etc. Just talk to him about your needs and wants and try to come to a compromise of a time that you both will spend together. It's a win win situation.
2007-08-23 06:31:38 · answer #6 · answered by Ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand that he wants to be there all the time when he first takes over the store and try to get the store running efficently. But to be there all the time on his days off is strange.
I would go out to the store and surprise him just to make sure he is at work and he is not their with another girl. Tell him came to see him to have lunch with him.
2007-08-23 06:33:22 · answer #7 · answered by Lou 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think your being too needy but your only feeling normal to be wanting to spend at least part of your available time with your significant other. Have you tried talking to him about your feelings? He needs to understand that there needs to be time set aside for you and for work. Tell him it is good that he wants to bring home extra income but there needs to be time spend with you and he needs to make you feel just as important as his job. Hope everything works out for you!
2007-08-23 06:30:50 · answer #8 · answered by Txgirl23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is just my opinion. Yes, I think you are being a little needy. You need to find something to do, a hobby or some girlfriends to occupy your time when he's not around. It sounds like to me he's trying to advance at whatever it is he does for a living... and that takes hard work. Not sying you should be treated as number 2. But you should be glad he's being responsible. Find something else to do with your time and show him that you can continue to hold it down while he handles his business.
Men like stong independent women who don't always need them to be around. So get out and do something on your own. Create a life outside of him. Then maybe he'll start to open his eyes and see you are not as needy and be willing to make more time for you.
jmo. good luck, hope everythign wrks out for you.
2007-08-23 06:33:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Such is life as a retail store manager, it's a 24 hour a day job,
you have to do your work plus all the work the others shrug off,plus cover for those that don't show up for work.
Plus you're being needy...
2007-08-23 06:30:55 · answer #10 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋