We just went up to a family reunion last weekend. He kind of has been depressed and I could tell somthing was going on. He finally texted me and said I now whats goin on since the family reunion I have been thinkin about my brother in law passing away. I dont know what the best thing to do for him and I feel talkn is the best way to help him he doesnt want to do it at work so I am waiting for him to get off. Any answers will be benificial.
2007-08-23 06:13:53 · 6 answers · asked by stephanieaadland2000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Try to just listen and not tell him he shouldnt feel that way.Try to tell him grieving is not the enemy. Dealth is the enemy and grieving is a tool given to us to accept what we can not change. It also makes a difference how the person died. Murder for example is different than a disease. If he is a christian then he has hope to be together again. Even christians grieve as they lose but not forever. Grieving comes in waves and can betriggered by the strangest things. I lost my brother many years a go and my eyes are tearing up as I write this. Tell him to help others and dont let it destroy him as that is not what his brother in law wants. Notice I used the present term. God bless you and him.
2007-08-23 06:30:49 · answer #1 · answered by Grampa B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope someone here gives good advice because my husband's father died 24 years ago and he is still all fvcked up about it and not a week goes by that I don't hear about how much it hurts when personally my feeling is that he wasn't a father in any sense.
2007-08-23 13:50:26 · answer #2 · answered by Teresa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is willing to talk then be an ear for him. Don't force him to talk about it though. I lost my mother a few years ago and, frankly, I got tired of all of the cliched "I'm sorry for your loss" and "You're in my prayers". I really respected the people who let me come to them when I was ready. Let him know that you are there but don't pressure him.
2007-08-24 17:37:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing i think you can do is let him know that you are there for him.... and then back off. If he wants to talk about it, then make yourself available to listen. But don't presure him. Everybody deals with grief diffently, and sometimes people just want to be left alone to grive in their own silence. So if that's what he wants, then let him do it. Just let him know you love him and is there if he does want to talk about it. other than that, just leave it alone.
2007-08-23 13:23:22 · answer #4 · answered by thick & beautiful 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to get some counseling........ its been long enough to grieve over a death......even if they were very close, he has to get on with his life............... but everyone feels like this at family events....... you always miss the ones that are gone........but you have to go on...and not dwell on it.............. listen to him...... advise him if he asks.......... but counseling would be best.
2007-08-23 13:20:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let him grieve in peace.
When he wants to talk, he will.
2007-08-23 14:51:18 · answer #6 · answered by Beach Saint 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋