and not self examination and obedience to God.
2007-08-23 05:04:45 · 26 answers · asked by I Wanna Know 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Because it is the easy way out (or so they think), because people are selfish...putting their happiness above what is right and/or what is best for their children, and b/c Christians are wrongly following what the world does and not what we are called to do. It is unbelievable that so many "Christian" couples are getting divorce...it is a disgrace.
2007-08-23 05:08:45 · answer #1 · answered by hooahwife 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Fire_side_2003...you seem to be the almost only voice of reason. The Bible makes a good place to start when the subject of marriage is considered. Recall how many times in the book of "Instructions" (Bible) marriages were arranged by the parents. sometimes the couple not having even seen the other person. While I can not agree that women should have or should traded like live stock, or for political reasons, still the wisdom of the parents knowing their child should be given greater respect. Oh so many of today's marriages are like the 24 + of the rock star in Las Vegas a short time ago. It is a game played by individuals that have not thought beyond the forces of youthful hormones, and not "LOVE". The word love has been badly corrupted in to days world.
Why, do we do it, we have not become adults and matured enough to know more the the very "Primal Drives" Food, shelter, reproduction. In the female add the nurturing aspect. Man has not "evolved" up the ladder, but has regressed down to below the level of good sense. Grant also that the "devil", regard of name delights in tyaking amnkind in to Adultery and there by sin, to defeat the purposes of the Supreme Being.
From the Biblical point of view no matter how you read about divorce except for infidelity, divorce is causing disaster. It clearly states if a man divorces his wife or the wife her husband and turns to another and marry it is ADULTERY. Count how man times, the social world we live in commits that act under the guise of a "legal divorce"! Perhaps legal in man kinds social world but not by the Supreme Maker of All there is G-D in his records you are still married.
2007-08-23 06:09:25 · answer #2 · answered by quietgrandpaforchating 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very, very few people think divorce is THE answer to marriage problems - even the ones who divorce.
On the other hand, not all the pathologies and cruelties of a really bad marriage are easily overcome, or overcome at all, especially when, for example, they constitute a physical danger for one of the spouses. In any case, religious banalities are unlikely to add anything positive to the process of remediation and reconciliation.
I have been with my wife for 40 years, but I am not blind to the reality around me. I've seen people who make it their business to make their spouses miserable. I've seen the horror this inflicts on their children.
So before we mouth the absurdities of "ecclesiastic" norms, especially from those who refuse to marry and even deny their own sexuality, let's take a hard look at REAL people. Do we care about them or is our issue with disobedience to some sectarian principle - in itself of highly dubious origin.
There may well be a more stupid injunction than: "Stick it out, regardless:" but I bet there aren't many.
2007-08-23 05:22:52 · answer #3 · answered by JAT 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because it is the easiest solution to their problems. No one is willing to work through things anymore. People don't take marriage as being something sacred like in the past. People just marry someone else without realizing what a responsibility it is and that it is a LIFETIME relationship. Divorce is so common nowadays that people keep that in the back of their heads as an option if they want out of a marriage later on in life and people marry too soon
2007-08-23 05:19:56 · answer #4 · answered by M.J. 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
because we live in a disposable society.
So easy just to walk away. Easy to "fall in love", then "fall out of love", and never spend any effort "building love."
ironic how just living together doesn't do anything to improve the chances of a long marriage, when in fact, it looks like it actually shortens the marriage time.
Will agree...self examination does a lot for marriage. Otherwise, why waste time going to marriage councilling? That alone calls for self-examination, and will not work if it is expected to be nothing more than "referred verbal wrestling matches"
Sad when there are kids involved. Guess their not worth fighting for. Can't imagine convincing myself that I won't be affected by only seeing my boy on the weekend and for two weeks in the summer.
2007-08-23 05:12:54 · answer #5 · answered by Last Stand 2010 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am divorced, and have remarried. My first husband was not having sex with me, ignoring me all the time, and hitting on (and perhaps more) my best friend. He never wanted to do things with me. He wanted a maid and a cook, not a partner in life. He didn't want children. After the divorce, he moved in with my former best friend, and took on the responsibility of her child. Should I have stayed and tried to "work it out" or "ask God for help"? I don't think so.
What about women who are beaten by their husbands? They shouldn't leave? Will God help them if they stay? Or men or women who's partners gives them a disease like AIDS or herpes? Are you saying they should not divorce? They should stay and pretend to love each other? That way of thinking is quite naive. You obviously have never been married to a bad spouse.
2007-08-23 05:10:03 · answer #6 · answered by nottashygirl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know many people who would lightly divorce his or her spouse. Yes, I know some people do - but most people I know are committed or entangled enough that it's the absolute last option to problems.
It's not always the "easy way out" as other posters are claiming - sometimes it's the only way out. Such as: When one spouse refuses to seek counseling or to admit there are problems, or when one is abusive and is a danger to his/her family.
2007-08-23 05:16:22 · answer #7 · answered by milomax 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because self examination and obedience might make you agree to stay with someone you don't like, but it can't make you happy that you are with someone you don't like.
2007-08-23 05:14:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thank Henry VIII for making it so accessable. I don't agree with the obedience to god part, but I do think that people divorce far to quickly, perhaps because they marry far to quickly.
2007-08-23 05:09:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some relationships should not be maintained. There is nothing wrong with ending a marriage that you are no longer invested in. There is nothing wrong with terminating that commitment, if that is how you feel.
Really, it's okay. What would be the point of continuing a hollow relationship, especially when you could find happiness with someone else?
2007-08-23 05:12:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is so sad that people now a days think when they get married if it doesn't work out they can just get divorced. Divorce except in cases of sexual morality (adultery) is not condoned in the bible. However I would say there would be an escape clause for abuse.
2007-08-23 05:13:42 · answer #11 · answered by fire_side_2003 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋