My parents are trying to get my address in an attempt to control me, although they don't have anything to post to me, live 2000 kms away from me and don't even like me.
They have filed a report with the missing persons department although they know that I am alive and well. My father has my e-mail, and has nothing to say to me.
My parents are devoutly religious and I am not; and they have never given me a single word of encouragement or praise in my entire life. They deliberately took every opportunity to undermine my self-esteem and always gave the excuse that "I needed to be taken down a peg or two".
My mother ignored me or blamed me for making mistakes as a child and my father never listened to me and always hit me in a religion which encourages physical punishment.
They are trying to force my address out of me, what should I do? Should I disown them?
2007-08-23 04:58:35 · 10 answers · asked by hayden_fun 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Get outa their lives and don't let them have any part of yours, do not share your personal information or whereabouts with them if they don't know how to love and respect their own child.... God this sort of bs make me mad... Take care of your own self from here on!!! <3
2007-08-23 05:08:48 · answer #1 · answered by Jeska J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really can't tell you if you can mend this situation. I am going to assume you are an adult and that due to your parents controling nature you want to remain without them in your life.You may want to get counceling for yourself so you can come to terms with this and not carry guilt for your search for independence.Sometimes parents think they are being helpful and are blindly unaware they are alienating their children.The only thing I want to suggest is that you notify the police that you are alive and well and do not want to waste their time investigating a false report. Perhaps the police in your area could notify the police in your parents'town and at least they will know you are well.I would also make it clear that at this time you do not wish to make contact with your parents.It sounds like you need to forgive yourself before you can worry about reconnecting with your parents.Do not be forced into making a decision at this time.Tomorrow is a new day. Never say never.You wouldn't want to live with regret either.Take care.
2007-08-23 05:13:28 · answer #2 · answered by gussie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say disown them that sounds harsh. BUT you should keep your address secret. Your on your own and can live YOUR life as you see fit. Your an adult now, that is something they have to come to terms with. They sound as tho they were very controlling. I think you did a good thing to get out on your own......how old are you??
2007-08-23 05:14:08 · answer #3 · answered by pa_wildflower 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they harass you in any way get a restraining order. Document any contact they make. Make sure if they contact you that you tell them to leave you alone so that there is a point of reference you can use legally that you wanted to be left alone. Block them from being able to email you, get a private phone number. If you have to, get an attorney and talk to him about what legal action you can take to make them leave you alone.
2007-08-23 05:06:06 · answer #4 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps a P.O box?
Either that, or cut them out of your life altogether.
2007-08-23 05:09:19 · answer #5 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry your childhood sucked but I could tell you a way worse story, but I grew up and just dealt with what was handed to me. So, be blessed that you still have parents on this earth.
2007-08-23 05:03:40 · answer #6 · answered by Mommy2 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just stay away from them. What, you like this drama in your life?
2007-08-23 05:17:27 · answer #7 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound like you've already disowned them.
Keep your distance or they'll drive you nuts.
2007-08-23 20:38:50 · answer #8 · answered by Fade To Black 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have them correspond with you on snail mail, or create one that works just for them (with out there knowing its JUST FOR THEM ... After they have proved them selves, then give them the real one....
2007-08-23 05:07:36 · answer #9 · answered by Edward W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from that drama,
2007-08-23 05:03:55 · answer #10 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋