Ok... I told this girl i like her... 2 weeks later my ex hits me up... now i got stuck in a tight situation and dunno what to do cuz my feelings for my ex came back and accidentally told the other girl that i liked that... I know i messed up... what should i do to fix this... since all this occurred i dont wanna relationship with anyone right now i just wanna be close friends... how do i go about telling her... (not my ex)
2007-08-23 04:24:48 · 10 answers · asked by spontanious 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, why not start out as friends with the girl you like. Get to know her but tell her right now you aren't ready to date officially but you really do like her, I'm sure that hasn't changed..& tell your ex that you just aren't ready to date. You need to re evaluate or remember why you 2 broke up and decide if it's even worth trying again..
2007-08-23 04:35:27 · answer #1 · answered by Unique Soul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sh** happens...what can you do? Right?
Anyways, look your best bet is to be honest with the both of them. Tell the girl who's not your ex, that you like her as a friend, and that you aren't really ready to jump into any type of a relationship just yet.
Then tell your ex, that you're not ready to jump back into a relationship again either. Also tell her that you two need to "get to know" each other again, that way you can decide if that's really what you want.
*I think that if you have stronger feelings for your ex, you probably should let the other girl down easy..and just say that you do like her as a friend, but for now you'd rather just be friends and hang out and get to know her better. That way you don't hurt her feelings and you're being honest with her, because I think if you mention your ex to her, you might insult her in more ways than one...do you know what I mean? Plus you will hurt her feelings, and she might not ever talk to you again either.
~Oh yeah, and it would be in your best interest not tell that girl that you don't want a relationship and what not, then be seen with your ex holding hands etc. That could be a dramatic mess for you.......so just be aware.
*BUT if you must....tell all. Meaning tell that girl that you were feeling her at one point, and your ex happened to come back into the picture and now you've realized that you still have feelings for her. So you wanted to let her know, so that way she didn't become too attached to you..and think that you were leading her on etc.
Honesty is the best policy, and sometimes the truth does hurt...but spare her feelings and let her know :)
.....good luck.
2007-08-23 11:40:07 · answer #2 · answered by Murphy's Law 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them both that you're not ready for a relationship like you first thought you were, which is true. Being honest is the best way in this situation BUT don't tell either of them abt the other. You really don't have to do that. It will only hurt the first girl that you told you had feelings for. Goodl luck!
2007-08-23 11:29:53 · answer #3 · answered by asldfkjdfj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell the girl you like not( not your ex) There is a reason why she is your ex and not a current girlfriend. Forget about your ex and move on.
2007-08-23 11:32:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
man thats confusing. See if you did that to me and i was the other girl. Yeah you'd hurt my feeling but i'd send you to mars. I dont know i guess you better follow your heart. And look at the cause of why you n u'r ex broke up.
2007-08-23 11:31:27 · answer #5 · answered by C.C. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is always the best policy!
The most import of any relationship is trust... you obtain trust through being honest even if it hurts.
Be humble and truthful with both.
2007-08-23 11:33:26 · answer #6 · answered by Friend 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, decide whom do you really love. then go to her, kneel down before her, hold her hand and kiss it. tell her that you are sorry for whatever you did to her. then stand up and hug her really tight. (maybe she would be in tears already in this part). then stare at her and say that you're sorry, SINCERELY! then kiss her. that should fix the thing
2007-08-23 11:37:07 · answer #7 · answered by lifeless_abyss_netherworld 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest!! It may be hard but it will be rewarding in the ending!
2007-08-23 11:32:16 · answer #8 · answered by Caylie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur single, u dont have any ties to any of these ladies...
be honest and do what YOU want!!
2007-08-23 11:31:51 · answer #9 · answered by LoLo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so quick to move on, eh.
2007-08-23 11:31:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋