Is 16 too young to get engaged?

Question

My bf is 21 and he is hinting that he is gonna propose?.. Am I too young?

Answer 1

I was engaged at 15. Luckily, we broke up a few years later. I was crushed, but then I learned that we all change and our personalities and who we are grows over time. You have a lot of life to live and experiences to go through to shape the woman you will become. If you are in love, wait, and grow together. I had different ideas about life at 18 than I did at 16, 25 than at 21. I would hate to see two people jump into something and discover 3, 5, or even 10 years down the road that they have different expectations and are unhappy. If it is true love, you will grow together in your relationship and can plan a wedding after you focus on your immediate goals such as school or college or a career. I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 2

I would say hang tight for a little while. Maybe mention something about a promise ring. While it is still a committment it doesn't come with all of the baggage as a formal engagement ring. And he can propose to you in a few years when you are both a little more mature. My fiance' started dating when I was 16 and he was 20. We dated for about four years and when I was 20 we got engaged. Marriage is a very important symbol that represents your love. It is not something to be taken lightly. While I think that's wonderful if you found your true love at 16 (I did too) I think it would be best to wait a few years until you maybe know him and yourself a little bit better. No matter what you decide, just remember only you know exactly what your heart is feeling. Don't let anyone else try to make your mind up for you.....Good luck and live happily

Answer 3

First of all, he is too old for you...Second of all, yeah, you are way to young to be thinking about getting engaged. By the time you even turn 21, you will not even be the same person that you are right now. People change over time. Just because you may think this is a good thing right now, it probably wont later on. You only get to be young once. You havent even experienced life yet.. Dont be in a hurry to grow up!!!!

Answer 4

i wouldnt say its too young. my friend got engaged at 16 and nows she's happily married..think about in the olden days..some girls got married at age 13 or 14...why would t matter now..and there is nothing wrong with having a 21 year old bf because how much older or younger someone is than u shouldnt matter when it comes to love as long as u love them. Just make sure that u two have been together for enough time to know who u two really are. Make sure that he can support u cause u probably arent done with school yet and no matter what...make sure u continue ur education. I'm not hoping he will but just in case he does propose and ya'll get married and then he leaves u for some dumb reason they always find then at least u will have ur education still under u...but i wish u the best and make sure u think about the decisions and that can accept good and bad consequences..have fun and be happy and make sure ur in love!!! good luck!

Answer 5

Yes, you are too young...and, for that matter, he is too old to be in a serious relationship with you.

The difference in ages between 16 and 21 is vastly different than between 25 and 30. Right now you and your boyfriend are at different stages in life. You are half way through high school, he has completed high school (hopefully), is in college (hopefully), is already old enough to drink and party...he has a lot more worldly experience than a 16 year old does.

You need to finish school....including college...then consider settling down, getting married and starting a family.

If your relationship is meant to be and built to last, it will survive you graduating high school and college, so you are financially secure and more prepared to be an equal partner in a marriage. You are too young to be involved with this man.

You have a lot of time to get married. 85% of people who marry before age 20 end up in divorce within 5 years. Those are huge odds.

Also, be aware, if you are intimate with your boyfriend, he is committing statutory rape. Even if your age of consent in your state is 16, he is 5 years older than you....he is outside of the age limit where an underage person can be with another underage person. He needs to wait until you are 18.

Please don't rush your life dear. We only have one life to live....and ruining it by ending up 18 with 3 children, no education and divorced is such a waste of a future....

Answer 6

ok, well you probably already know the answer to this question, but let's walk through it logically, first with general questions, then with specific questions.

1) can you support yourself financially? (that means with no bills being paid by mom and dad)
2) do you two have the same values, morals, backgrounds, religion?
3) do you plan to attend college?
4) will marriage make achieving your future goals easier?
5) will your family support your decision? (having pissed off parents is not good for a marraige. it adds tons of stress and drama)
6) have you talked with your boyfriend about where you'll live, how you'll get bills paid, how you intend to discipline children? whether you both want children? your expectations of marriage?

did you have more yeses or nos? if more nos, then you're not even ALMOST ready.

1) do you think marriage is all romance and love?
2) do you think you'll only be sexually attracted to your boyfriend for the rest of your life?
3) do you feel that your boyfriend is your knight in shining armor?

if you answered yes to any of these, then you are analyzing marriage from an imaginary, childish view rather than a realistic view.

1) why is your boyfriend in a hurry to get married?
2) is he trying to possess you or make sure you are "his"?

again, analyze the answers.

marriage among young adults has a much higher divorce rate than the 50% national average.

btw, i'm a sociology student conducting an anonymous study on marriage. visit: http://geocities.com/sbiv37/marr

Answer 7

You are too young. Too young to have a 21 year old boyfriend too. Don't get settled on one person so young. You haven't had the chance to really live and date around (not sex) and meet guys. If he knows you love him then you should wait to get engaged.

Answer 8

If you have to ask us, I'd say you're too young.

You'll be amazed at how much you'll change in the next 5 years or so. If I had married the guy I was dating at 16... Wow, that would have been bad. It would have been the biggest mistake of my life. And at the time, I really thought I was going to marry him.

We grew up, we changed the first year of college, and we broke up... We would have never worked out. We had to follow our own dreams to find out who we are, and that led us to different people.

Give yourself time to grow up and find out who you are, then commit yourself that fully to another person.

I'm not some preachy middle-aged person, either, I'm only 23. :)

Answer 9

If you make it a loooooooong engagement it's not a huge deal, but you're still 2 yrs from being considered an "adult" so it's unlikely you've had nearly the Life or relationship experience to be making a decision about who you want to be with long term.

It sounds all kewl and romantic right now...but say you marry as soon as you are of legal age, it won't be long at all before you'll be wondering what you missed out on, by committing to someone at such a young age.

I married at 19, and I was too young...what's the hurry?

Answer 10

you can get engaged but please bare in mind that you have the whole of your life in front of you and lets face it at sixteen you only think you know everything, i have been there, you just dont know what the future holds. getting engaged at this age is only a possesion thing your boyfriend only thinks he wants to marry you because you are good together and he doesn't want anybody else to have you which is fair enough but see where life takes you. Once you have the ring on your finger your guy will start bleating on about getting married and when. All you need to do at your age is have fun see if he still wants to marry you when you are 21 i bet you dont even know each other by then.
Anyway good luck