Asking all christians?

Question

You know they say that you should kill people with kindness
I.e. as a christain if someone is being quite mean to you even though you are trying to be nice to them or you are being friendly to them and they are acting like you dont exist?
As a christain how should you be should you still be nice cos Joyce Mayer says that she goes the extra mile to be nice to them and sometimes even sends a gift etc?

So how should I be shold I ignore them as a person of the world or as a person of god should i still be nice ?

P.S. how are Joyce Meyer, Benny Hinn, Creflo Dollar, Kenneth Copeland, etc.
FALSE PREACHERS?

am 23 and I am finding it really hard being a christian. I am borna again and I am not really sinning i.e. not having sex not drinking not going to clubs etc. I am reading the word and going to church and seeking god but I am finding it so hard and not very much fun. It looks like people of the world are having so much fun and I am not. I feel like giving up but maybe god is testing me?

Any one expereinced this?

Answer 1

Ignore them. If they change ...be nice.

Answer 2

HOW you should continue to be nice really depends on (a) the relationship you have with this relative or friend or coworker or boss or teacher or whatever they are to you and (b) the level of "mean" you are experiencing from them and (c) the frequency of your interaction with them, etc. So there is no hard and fast rule that works for every situation. Sometimes the best and most productive thing you can do is to fast and pray for the person. Sometimes the best and most productive thing you can do is some sort of enormous favor for them (like paying their rent/mortgage when they are in dire straits).

I know Joyce Meyer. Heck, I've been poked in the stomach repeatedly by Joyce Meyer when she was putting on a Brownsville Revival show at my church. She's really good at marketing, speaking in memorable "sound bites," rewriting the theology of other people in her own vernacular and getting people to pay $$$$ to hear her speak or buy her books. She's getting materially rich, but nobody gets spiritually rich off her works. And a lot of people worship every word she says, which is a real shame. Keep your eyes open, think for yourself and be sensible about her -- don't put her on a pedestal because she doesn't deserve it -- and keep your focus on JESUS not charismatic preachers, and you should be okay.

Answer 3

As much as I respect Joyce Meyer. I cannot wholeheartedly agree with her on this point. I believe that you must be respectful of others but to actively pursue their friendship when they have clearly told you that they do not want to be associated with you, a bit wasteful isn't it?
I am not into "casting my pearls before swine".
I am not saying that I don't give it a try. I do.
There comes a time, when I just move on to someone that will really appreciate the hand of friendship and not bite it!
Respectful? Yes! Pursuing the friendship? NO!

(** Surely your church has some activities for you rather than the club scene. Night courses, associations, charitable work, volunteering are all possible outlets for social interaction. Isolating yourself with church and home is not good for you! You are too young for that!)

Answer 4

Love your neighbor as yourself and quit listening to a false teachers like Joyce Meyer, Benny Hinn, Creflo Dollar, Kenneth Copeland, etc.

Answer 5

I don't think I would send gifts to someone who is hostile towards me! Manners matter and kindness counts, but if the other folks can't or don't respond in a similar fashion, sometimes the best you can do is limit your contact with them and leave them as they are. Just because we are nice and kind doesn't mean everyone is going to like us. Don't go so far that they lead you away from your Christian behaviour.

Answer 6

Yes. be nice but don't be a door mat. I think sending gifts is a little over the top. However, I do like Joyce Meyer. Stay sweet.

Answer 7

The bible says put off the old man which grows corrupt and put on the new man which was created according to God in true righteousness and holiness. Do not give place to the devil. Put away all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor and evil speaking. Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth. In doing so you will be edified. Imitate God and walk in love as Christ also has loved us. Be kind to one another tenderhearted and forgiving even as God in Christ forgave you.

Answer 8

As a Christian or otherwise the best course of action in my view is to treat them in a civil and polite manner. I learnt from a fellow student who was Muslim an old proverb from their culture and I think it pertains to this issue. The expression goes "don't read scripture to an ***". The reference here is to a donkey.

Returning rude or negative behaviour will obviously only make things worse. Going out of your way to overcome the indifference will serve only to waste your positive energy and exploits. Let the person be who they are and accept that they have made a conscious decision to be as such. Forgive them for their failure but do not in doing so forget this conduct. Limit your exposure to brief and civil conversation.

The concept of your positive nature being contagious is valid but as soon as you conclude this then the same must be said of the other negative nature.

If you consider the phrase "evil consumes itself" then rest easy in the knowledge that if you continue to be positive eventually that persons issues will run out of excuses and their philosophy will implode. Trying to force that to happen more quickly than is natural for them will only serve to fuel their excuses.

Answer 9

Anyone who teaches anything other thatn the Holy Bible and Jesus Gospel is a false teacher. search the scriptures to be sure the truth is being told to you. Those who preach anything else are accursed according to God and will be punished worse for leading his children astray.

Answer 10

Christian or not, I don't see the purpose in being anything but nice. It's a basic human need to be treated fairly and with kindness. But it's an evil world we live in and it's people's own insecurities that cause them to be unkind. When you're at peace with your God it's easy to be kind.

Answer 11

We are called as Christians to love as Christ loved. If the other person never changes, never is kind, never says "thank you", never acknowledges our existence - we are still called to love him/her.

Being kind, loving others is NOT a way to change them, convert them, cause them to feel guilty ,etc. - God may use our efforts but that is not the point. The point is our obedience to Christ's command to love. We love for love's sake - not to get anything out of it for ourselves.

God bless