Why do parents of young kids....?

Question

think its ok to let them run around in places such as waiting rooms and public transport. Keep them under control. When me and my sister were kids we never run riot because we were taught not to and we respected other peoples space. And why do parents let kids scream and shout on trains too, have some consideration for your fellow passengers. we are raising a generation of louts!

All you people answering saying 'Be tolerant' you are obviously the sort of parents who have no respect for others. I would be embarassed if my child was screaming at the top of its lungs on a train. You should be ashamed, your kids will grow up spoilt brats.

All you people answering saying 'Be tolerant' you are obviously the sort of parents who have no respect for others. I would be embarassed if my child was screaming at the top of its lungs on a train. You should be ashamed, your kids will grow up spoilt brats.

Answer 1

I take it that you don't have any children! Believe me, when you do, you will not be asking this question!
I'm sure you remember yourself as a little angel when you were little, but ask your mother, I bet she has a whole different story!

Answer 2

1.) Yes, I am. 2.) On the news. 3.) That is irrelevant. You need not be a parent to be bothered by such a senseless loss of young life. Furthermore, you are trying to appeal more to emotion and protective parental instinct, and less to intellect and reason. That being said, you're inviting, or seeking, biased answers. 4.) The shooter did have Asperger's syndrome, yes. But since the shooter is dead, we cannot know if it was a contributor, or it was something else. It is all speculation at this point. Still, he made an informed decision on what he did. 5.) NO. Strict gun laws do not stop criminals from getting them. People's push for gun control legislation, in this particular instance, seems to be inspired more by emotions and less by informed decision and common sense. 6.) Yes, this could have been prevented, if the following things were done. - Adam Lanza's mother should have made a more concerted effort to keep her weapons hidden, locked away, and accessible only to her; including keeping the combination and/or the location of the keys a secret. - Exercising foresight and mulling over every possible scenario that could have developed if anyone, including a loved one, went bonkers and got a hold of her guns. - Not teaching her son to operate her weapons when she herself held his mental state in question. Limitations and outright bans are not the answer and do not stop murders and other violent crimes. The only real solution is the cultivation of the right mentality and attitude to create and maintain a safe gun culture, as well as not selling them to those who are not supposed to have them. People need to regard and appreciate them as tools that can take a life if misused, and not use them as ego toys. Personal responsibility needs to be held above all else. While access to mental health services should be improved, the problem is convincing mentally ill people who are of sound mind to seek and comply with treatment. Some just don't want to, and you cannot force them if they are deemed able to make their own decisions. Additionally, experts have stated that there is no link between Asperger's syndrome and violent behavior. So please, don't start ostracizing or shunning people who have it. I will also add that, as proven time and again, anti-gun groups, and other groups with similar purpose, realistically never contributed a thing to fighting crime, ending wars, or stopping genocides. @ Fay: I don't think you read the Daily Mail enough. Before you denounce the United States or think that banning guns will solve the problem, take a look at your country, the United Kingdom. The UK does enjoy a low rate of firearm-related murders, but is subject to the following, as sayeth the Daily Mail: - The most violent country in the European Union. - Ranks in the top 10 in the categories of robbery, burglary, and homicide of all EU countries. - Ranks higher in all types of crime than the United States and even South Africa.

Answer 3

It always amazes me that my cousins (just the kind of parents you are talking about) let their kids be so out of control. From the 3 year old to the 13 year old, they all are a pain. So I reminded them that when we were kids all of our family members were allowed to call us down when we acted out, not just our parents. This thing that only the parent has the right to correct a child is for the birds. It didnt hurt us!

The other day someone who works for a family member said he hated to see the 8 year old come through the door. She screams, runs and draws on the desks in the business and throws tantrums in front of customers. I happened to be there one day when her grandmother was trying to take care of a customer, while the grand-daughter was acting out. I took her in the lounge and took care of the problem by the seat of her pants. Now he says you can always tell if I am there because she acts so much better. And NO, she does not hate me for it, I am her favorite "Auntie".

Parents need to learn that they are parents, not friends. This means LOVE, TIME AND WORK!

Answer 4

Many people become parents and then realize they dont want to parent. They find out it is actually work. They are lazy and have no real love for their kids. They are selfish people who cater to themselves rather than lift a finger to discipline. Later they will be asking where they went wrong. Keep in mind the average IQ is only about 90 which isnt too bright at all.

Answer 5

Oh god doesn't it drive you mad ! i had a kid kicking the back of my seat on the bus for half an hour and her mum said nothing, my face was scarlet ! I have an 8 year old and shes always had lovely manners even though im not a strict parent, i think if the parents have good manners the kids will follow x
By the way Missy me ........you can bloody well tell the kid to stop kicking the chair is what you can do, gags unneccesary ! Let me know when your next on a bus and ill sit behind you kicking ten bells out of your seat luv : )......should be entertaining if nothing else !

Answer 6

I have a 6 yr. old girl and a 1 yr. old boy, I am 26 and my mommy skills seem to work.

When we are at home, they can pretty much run around, go outside, and express themselves in a loud manner, because we are not bothering anybody, but when we are in public, it is time out for all of that.

My kids are not perfect, but they know ( even the one yr. old) that we when are in public places, I will not chase you, I will not have to tell you "no" more than once, and I will certainly not, ( not even at home ) have you have a temper tantrum because something does not go your way.

At the grocery store, my 1 yr. old knows he is in a cart, and at the mall, he is in his stroller. period.

Not only do I do this for my convenience, and the peace of mind for others, but it is also for safety.

If a predator sees that your kids are running wild, or your baby is crying and having a fit, they will seek the other child as a sitting duck, because you have so much going on, you cannot keep your eye on both kids at the same time.

Answer 7

How do you know if these children you are talking about have a disability that makes them act like this? Would you prefer to listen to an adult screaming and shouting at the said children? You sound like you think children should be seen and not heard, and you definitely sound like you don't have any children of your own. Chill out and look for the good in people - you'll be much happier!

Answer 8

A lot of people don't want to hurt their children's feelings by actually being parents. I personally think your nicer to your children when you teach them manners and how to behave, because they will be more successful later. My children know that when we are out in public they better behave, or they will be in trouble. I don't hesitate to take them out of a place if they are acting up. It is very annoying to have children not behaving when their parents stand right beside them and do nothing.

Answer 9

I agree. My parents always expected me and my three sisters to be seen and not heard. If went out for a meal we were expected to sit quietly throughout and if we misbehaved we were taken to a private spot and given a good talking to.
However my sister and her husband still have high standards with their two children and I will too.

Answer 10

I totally agree. Kid are not taught manners, respect or morals these days.

I'm inclined to take all the badly behaved kids and keep them chained under ground until they learn to act appropriately!