My sister and sister in law both get SS checks evey month because our mothers have died and killed. But my parents or my sil dad doesnt let them have the money or even put it in seperate accounts for them. I didnt see any of my check until I was 16 after my car was paid off. But my sisters both have cars and jobs and dont get any of it. I was wondering what everyones thought are on this because Im going to talk to my dad this weekend and I need a little something to go on.
2007-08-23 02:33:26 · 8 answers · asked by ? 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My parents wouldnt buy my sister new clothes or supplys for school. My aunts bought it all.
2007-08-23 02:43:06 · update #1
Im 19 and married. I dont live at home, Im doing it for my sister.
2007-08-23 03:03:10 · update #2
when you get married they cancel your SS checks. (just me)
2007-08-23 03:12:55 · update #3
The social security is intended to help provide for the child. . If they are being fed, have adequate clothing, and are living in a comfortable home, then the SS is being used as intended.
Some parents choose to use the money to help pay bills and other living expenses, some choose to put it in a savings account for the children. I would say as long as the guardian isn't spending it lavishly on themselves then it is being used in an appropriate way.
You can ask your father how the money is being used, and if he has a legitimate reason then you really have nothing to go on. You could suggest that a percentage goes into a saving, but as long as the needs of the children are being met, then there isn't a lot you can do.
2007-08-23 03:10:21 · answer #1 · answered by deerogre 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*Edit: When I say "child" I'm referring to whatever age you are, hopefully not offensively. Also, since you gave additional info. on the marriage part, perhaps that is part of the reason you get it and they do not? Hard to tell though...have to ask and you may just get told it's an adult issue and none of your business. Not that I mean you all aren't adults, but just that parents will probably always see you as children no matter what your age...you can't get older than your parents! (:
For me this question is like the child support one. When you pay child support, it is supposed to be used on the child but not necessarily given to the child - roof over their head, utility bills, etc. There are advantages and disadvantages to each. Some parents use the money as intended, and there is less reason to give the money directly to the children. Some parents spend the money completely on themselves, and giving it to the children directly instead might be a good idea. The truth is, it's really hard to tell what is best in which situation, and almost impossible to require accounting for where the money went. So in my opinion, if old enough to talk to your parent about it, old enough to have some say in where the money gets spent if there's enough left after roof over head, utilities, etc., and/or be given part or all of the money. Also depends on the child too though - is it all going to be spent on candy bars or given to a boyfriend/girlfriend, for instance? Or will some be spent as "mad" money and some put away for education? My personal choice would be to give some of the money directly to my children with minor restrictions such as part of the money going into a bank account for emergencies and education and staying there - and the rest being theirs to choose how to spend. I say part - because part I would want to decide myself where it got spent, as a parent with more experience and bills to pay.
2007-08-23 02:55:14 · answer #2 · answered by Hoosier Mom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
SS is to pay for the cost of raising the child. It is intended to replace the income of the deceased parent, and extra cost of single parenting.
Is the house payment and utilities paid? That is what it should go for. As for the girls working, GOOD! It teaches them that things are not free, and get them ready for real life.
2007-08-23 03:06:30 · answer #3 · answered by twyla c 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ask your dad why he does not give it to the sisters or put it in an account for them . I mean surely they might need it for clothes or something . Does he provide new clothes for them or let them buy new clothes for themselves ? The money is to help support the children not for silly stuff , good luck .
2007-08-23 02:41:47 · answer #4 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually the SS is to provide support for the child. It is to pay for food, shelter, clothing, etc. Some parents do give it to the children, others do not.
2007-08-23 02:37:17 · answer #5 · answered by tricia49841 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't have to give the checks directly to you but they are supposed to spend the money to support you (this can include household bills if you live in that house). If they aren't then it's called FRAUD.
2007-08-23 02:42:03 · answer #6 · answered by stargirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That money is for raising the children.
If someone is taking the cash but not spending it where they should that would be reason to question.
If they are raising the kids and having trouble making ends meet, well you have your answer.
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2007-08-24 02:38:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋