Ok...I have this friend who dated a guy and they broke up few months back but we were talking about how he was a bad guy and all that and the subject of sex came up and she was saying that when eva they did (which was every night she stayed there) she was not really up for it everytime, well pretty much all of the times. She is very shy and gets nervous when confronted and I dont think she would say no even if she really did not want to...she also let slip that he once made her give him head...positioned his 'you know' in front of her face and pushed 'it' towards her so she just did it...now she says when eva she thinks about it or does anything like that with her new guy she feels sick and almost throws up...I said you could talk to some one cos that is serious she keeps saying "but i let it happen". then she also says she cant do anything bout it cos she feels guilty...what would you call that and what should she do!!?? plz im worried about her
2007-08-23
02:33:00
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He also put her down about how she was quiet...and they had a fight because one night when she was ment to be heading of to stay at his place she stoped to talk to her mother and her brothers friend who had asked her a question...and being as nice as she is she text him saying she is going to be late that she stoped to talk to her mum and bro's friend...he flew of the handel saying why are you talking to other guys...that P me off big time...also he broke our friendship up cos he dont like me but we worked things out as you can see.....
2007-08-23
02:36:40 ·
update #1
there age gap was only a few months and it was not her first...she is seeing some one for her shyness and trying to work it out
2007-08-23
02:42:33 ·
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She could use some help. See if she'll consider a trip to a counselor for advice. A trained counselor/therapist would be able to explain how she was taken advantage of (and why it's not her fault).
2007-08-23 02:37:35
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answered by sci55 5
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that is statutory rape (i think) but the fact that she doesn't say "no" ever means she cannot go to the court of law about this because he could just claim she never complained which is true. so she should just go see a councellor about it.
your friend has had a bad experience of sex. it sounds as if it's her first time in a relationship or something. sex should be done because both sides want to do it not because it's one sided.
tell her she must say 'no' to the new boyfriend until she feels it in her heart to do it with him. try and encourage your friend to make more decisions herself by asking her opinion and all that. it sounds like she lacks self-confidence/esteem to make her opinions heard.
it's not really any of her fault though. it's his for being a wanker. a relationship should be equal.
2007-08-23 02:39:38
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answered by Anonymous
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It is not date rape. Although she may have not wanted to do anything, she could have stayed home, or maybe said NO! It is sad that many people are taken advantage of but if she would go to a court he would not be convicted for she never expressed her feelings to him. If she would have said no and he still forced her then she may be able to do something.
2007-08-23 02:44:59
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answered by Anonymous
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mine or anyone else's opinion isn't really relevant - the crucial factor is that she just doesn't have much of a case in the eyes of the law.
sorry but maybe the best advice you could offer you friend is move on and try and be a bit more assertive.
this is maybe a matter for a counsellor but certainly not for a lawyer i'm afraid...
2007-08-23 02:41:59
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answered by Anonymous
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I would not consider that date rape. Date rape is when you clearly say "no" and the person still takes advantage or invades a person. Unfortunatly, her bf did not respect her and she did not respect herself or have the courage enough to say "no". I think she should take it as a learning experience to be able to speak up about what she wants to do or not. Too many women are afraid to say no and then get themselves into prediciments that they later regret.
2007-08-23 02:39:09
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answered by Isis 3
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Nope.
2007-08-23 02:49:31
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answered by Anonymous
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That breaks my heart...that poor girl.
Was there a big age difference?
2007-08-23 02:40:12
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answered by stolen car 3
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it could be considered date rape but since she didn't say no so it might not it just depends.
2007-08-23 02:38:21
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answered by ~*lovin' my life*~ 3
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Any forced intercourse is RAPE no matter who it is coming from.
2007-08-23 02:44:59
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answered by NUrDreams 3
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its a fine line,if she said no or felt intimidated by him then yes
2007-08-23 02:38:16
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answered by Anonymous
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