Like, I am not looking for smartass answers like when you are in the bathroom, or at a funeral or etc etc etc....
But I am talking about the kinda "weird" moments in the day where it might still be weird to ask a girl out....such as....
-Driving in the car? Can you seriously say that if a guy wrote down his phone number and held it up to you while you were driving, that you wouldn't think it was cute or funny?
-Shopping for groceries? This one I don't think is super weird, but would it be nice if a guy walked up and wanted to carry yor basket or push yor cart becuz he wanted to ask you out?
-At yor job? I don't mean like office jobs, cuz eveyone know's office's are just breeding grounds. But how about if you work at like a customer service place (restaurant, DMV, gas station, at the mall...etc etc etc) Is it okay for a guy to ask out while you are working?
I am trying to find out if all women would rather be asked out at a bar or whenever is a good time? Thank you!!
2007-08-23 02:31:24 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A question seriously asked, so I will give a serious answer.
Bear in mind, I can only answer for myself.
As I am somewhat of an introvert, I don;t like it when people suddenly pop up out of nowhere and ask me out. One man even proposed to me, and I only met him 2 minutes previously! Naturally I laughed at him. I met him subsequently, he still harps on me being his wife. (He's in the community I work in) He's already married! It's a polygamous society here, and men can have up to four wives.
Your examples...
Driving in the car? it depends on whether I knew the man? Is the man in the car with me, or in another car? If the man is in the car with me, I would flush beetroot red, but that's me. If he was in another car and held up his phone number, I would just look at him, and drive on. Cute or funny? Not to me, no. though it never happened to me.
Shopping for groceries...
Now, that's different. A man helping me because he wanted to ask me out. He can ask me out, but I will make it very clear to him I would have to be friends with him first.
At my job? I work as a volunteer, as a community development worker. No less than 4 men proposed to me, declaring undying love. I told them all... thanks but no thanks. A man asking me out while I'm working, that's no problem. The only issue I would have is the pace taken. Is the man a slow mover or a fast mover? I get unsettled if he's a fast mover and shrink back. Other women may like the fast movers but not me. Ask me out, sure, for a soft drink, and a chat. No untoward moves. Certainly not by strangers.
Bars as a place of asking women out... count me OUT. I'm not comfortable in bars, the artificiality of the whole shebang. Please don't think all women are the same. No, I'm not playing hard to get. I'm just being myself.
In brief... a bad time? If you never met me before and asked me out... whoooo, sorry, who are you? As I said before, I'm a bit shy.
You asked. You got your answer from an ordinary woman.
2007-08-23 02:48:05 · answer #1 · answered by Balaboo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When younger ,some of my female friends would all turn their backs on me at once, and not talk to me anymore and I'd have no idea why and they'd never tell me. I was outed from groups. I used to be very quiet and shy, never backstabbed or stole boyfriends. A few years after I had two good female friends who dumped me as a friend when my money ran out, thought they were real friends but sometimes a person learns life's lessons the hard way. I only have one good female friend now, we've been mates for more than a decade and we never use each other or abuse our friendship. One good and trustworthy friend is more important to me and means more than 50 friends who just want something out of me. Am more of a loner for the most part, but while I keep my distance, I still enjoy other peoples company, just it takes a long time for a lasting friendship to develop. Am nice and not stand-offish, but like my mum said, there's a wall that she couldn't get past with me and she had trouble getting close.
2016-05-20 23:00:05 · answer #2 · answered by selena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest the best time to ask a woman out is when you feel comfortable with it. Yes a phone number held up to a window is cute but who has a pen an paper handy to write it down when there driving! Location doesn't matter and women like spontaneity! So if you wanna ask a woman out in the supermarket go for it!
2007-08-23 02:38:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
All of the scenarios you just mentioned are weird. Holding up a phone number in a car? I think you have been watching too many movies.
A bar is the worst place in the world to meet anyone.
A good time is when you have gotten to know them and they have a chance to know you and you both realize that you might have something to build a relationship on.
2007-08-23 02:38:11 · answer #4 · answered by Angel Baby 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are driving together in a car...aren't you already 2gether? Anyways...most girls don't have a specific place that they want to be asked out. It's just got to be a spur of the moment type of thing, and if she likes you in return...it won't matter where you ask. But you are right...funerals and such are not very good and don't ask them out if you know that they just got out of a relationship.
2007-08-23 02:35:39 · answer #5 · answered by Ray Ray 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I could be approuched at the gas station( in the daytime, when there are people around), while I'm shopping, at a museum(symphony,etc.).
Say--"I think you're beautiful,Could I have your #?" Don't stare at my boobs, take the #, call me later.
Do not ask for my number at work, I won't give it to you, I'm working...
The car thing probably won't work with me, although the line above might work in a parking lot.
The secret is once you get the # , don't hang around, call me later....
2007-08-23 02:45:47 · answer #6 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A bar well i don't think so.
Don't let it be any flirty areas.
The other examples you gave were kind of good, like more to romantic and funny at the same time.
Those examples were kind of good maybe because if they are at work or shopping something like that they might be tired,pissed off, or bored, then you just might get them happy!! Good Luck =]
2007-08-23 02:36:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it does not matter when or where you ask her out, it matters HOW you do it. If you're nice about it like "I really like you and I've benn thinking about you a lot, and I was just wondering: Do you want to go out with me?" that's nicer than saying "Yo, babe, wanna hang tonight?" my example was just to show you the difference between a nice way to do it and a bad way (you don't necessarily have to say it that way) you can even ask her in the shower or in the car, she won't care about the time or place as long as you are really nice about it.
2007-08-23 02:42:30 · answer #8 · answered by Desiree 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the appropriate opportunity presents itself, anytime. I, personally, did not accept dates when asked at a bar. If it's at her work, make sure there's not a manager around (so she won't get in trouble), but if she seems interested/flirty, go for it. Anytime.
2007-08-23 02:35:51 · answer #9 · answered by ladygodiva0220 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the woman is not comfortable or attracted to you, it is always a BAD time to ask her out.
By building attraction and then comfort then it is a GOOD time no matter where or what she is doing.
2007-08-23 02:36:01 · answer #10 · answered by Nitro Pipes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋