Do you think stay at home moms are wasting their lives?.?

Question

Should all moms work or should some stay home?. ARe educated moms who stay home failures?. What do you think?

I am not judging.. I am at home with my little baby right now, but the last year I have heard many strange opinions and I am just curious and trying to decide if I should return to work or stay home a little longer.

Answer 1

To me there is no higher calling than a mother who stays home with her child. Not everyone is able to do that but if they can you are giving your child that unconditional love 24 hours a day.
Failure only happens when a parent is abusing their child. Education can only make a better stay at home mother.

Answer 2

Personally, I think the womans movement did us a disservice. Now it often requires both parents working just to make ends meet. Staying at home with baby is one of the most important jobs a woman can have. It's certainly one of the hardest, most exhausting and fulfilling job a woman can have.
On the other hand I think it is important for the child to know that others can offer much too. If there is enough money, allowing the child to go to daycare however many times as possible, or wanted can give mom the break she needs, and the child the fellowship needed.
The hardest part of being a stay home mom is there are very few breaks from work. Even when taking a nap while baby is down for one, mom is still at work. Makes it stressful. There are no breaks unless they leave the home. Most men who help in the child-rearing don't really get that.
I've done both, I think a part-time job is perfect.

Blessed Be

Answer 3

I don't understand why this makes a difference to other people. I am a SAHM and I do plan to work part-time when my son starts school - or volunteer at the school. Or I may not, my plans may change. But the problem I have with this question is that my husband makes enough money to support all of us and if it is fine with him that I stay home then why is it not fine with others? I'm not going to be a drain on society and there will be one more job available for someone who really needs it. No, I don't feel that I will be wasting my life if I don't work when my son starts school.

Answer 4

I believe that it should be up to each individual woman. If I have kids, there is no way that I would stay home with them full time as I would be extremely ineffectual as a mother. I need professional stimulation that I could not get by not having a job outside the home. Plus I feel that it is a good idea to expose your children to different types of people that way they do not become so attached to you that it's hard for them to function on their own.Remember it takes a village to raise a child. I don't see anything wrong with sending children for a few hours a day to professionally trained, often college educated professionals in day care.

But this is what I would do. As stated before, it is up to each individual to decide what is best for them and their family. There are excellant stay at home mom and there are terriffic working moms. It all depends on the level of commitment to the children.

If someone feels that they would be more effective as a parent by staying at home, then they should do it. The only way one's life is wasted is by doing something that makes them unhappy and gives them regret.

Answer 5

I dont think so...I am a stay at home mom with 3 kids...... I dont feel like I wasted any of my life because I volunteered alot at all 3 schools, high school, middle and elementary... non of my kids have any been in trouble and all have made above average grades....I could work now ,since my youngest is 11 but choose not too, I want to be here when she gets home from school...... I just loved being an at home mom, I could dedicate more time to my kids and the community..I have no regrets and hope some day they will appreciate it......

Answer 6

No way! Its hard to be a stay at home mom if you do it right. Keeping the kids safe, entertained/learning and doing all the household stuff isn't a walk in the park. I have 2 children and have worked as a part time teacher since my second was born. In my case, I needed to get out of the house for some part of the day to find a balance that was right for me. During the summer, I am able to give my kids all of my time. When school starts up, my schedule allows me to be very involved in their lives. Some moms need to work full time and some really enjoy their careers. Each mom needs to choose whats right for them and their families.

Answer 7

Most working moms I know are doing jobs that are pretty lame... honestly, you think it's more "important" to be checking out groceries all day, filing paperwork, or selling houses, than to be there for your children? Few jobs are more earth-shatteringly more important than your own family!

Kids get a lot more out of a stay-home mom than just diaper changes. They get emotional interaction, one-on-one language development, guidance, security - those first 3-5 years set the stage for the rest of a child's life. Our society tends to focus on the desire for intellectual advancement (which can come from mom just as well, probably better, than preschool - my children were reading and writing by age 3, and people were always asking me what preschool they were in. NONE!) but at the expense of social, emotional and psychological adjustment. Yes, I say social. Throwing a kid in a daycare with one adult to every 10-20 kids is not "socializing." We learn proper socialization, emotional interaction, etc., from loving parents and family.

And there's no reason a stay-home mom can't be also be educated and continue to set an example for her children. I have a BA, run my own business from home, and do volunteer work coordinating charity and community events. But there's another "example" I'm also setting - the "example" that my family and my children are the most important things to me and that I'm here for them.

Answer 8

No, stay at home moms are certainly not wasting their lives. However many mothers may regret not persuing a career. If children come unexpectedly, the education or career path thus far may seem in vain.

Basically being a parent is a full time job and a career is a full (or part time) job. Most people do not have the luxury of picking one or the other.

Someone who works a lot of overtime may feel like they are wasting their lives and are a failure at parenting.

Answer 9

I am a stay at home mom who works full time from home. I have a lucrative job that I created for myself. When the children need me I am here, when something in the house needs to be done, I am here. I am also however not just doing those things - I am keeping my mind and interests occupied while at home by working and loving it. You can do both, raise your children seeing you as an intelligent income producing force in the home along with giving them all of the hugs, guidance and snacks at the same time. Personally I tried not working, it isn't for me.....I need the stimulation.

Answer 10

My fiancee is a stay at home mom. Only for the reason of giving our children the best start in life.
She's teaching them proper etiquitte, and manners, and they are both very well behaved. With daycare, you don't know who's watching your children, if they're getting enough proper attention and you don't have as strong of a parent/child bond.
If a family can fund a stay at home mom, without endangering a good way of life, I feel that it's a good thing. If a family needs 2 working parents, then that's what's needed. But only if it is truly needed.
Her job IS watching and raising the kids. It IS in fact a job. If it wasn't why yould people WORK in a daycare?