My girlfriend is going to Central Michigan for her 3rd year. I have never had to worry about her partying and going out with girls to clubs.
Since we have been going out, she has not bothered to party or go out and drink. I am very clean and straight edge when it comes to smoking and drinking.
She has broken news that she and her friend are going to go to another university sometime when there big rival week is going on. ((most likely to drink with her friends))
How should I feel about this?
It really really bothers me and I tell her that, its not that I dont trust her, I just dont accociate with that. Please Help, I have been with her for 4 years, and I feel that it has been a hidden thing for her. ((she might of missed doing that, Drinking and Partying)
2007-08-23 01:01:05 · 5 answers · asked by Novice Ring Buyer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dude, you gotta give your girl some space. Don't smother her. If she wants to go out drinking with her friends and experience that type of life for a while, let her. Trust her not to cheat. Not to get arrested. Then let her go.
Much better for her to experience this now then to get married and 10 years down the road decide she missed out on something and go looking for it.
2007-08-23 01:06:38 · answer #1 · answered by Mike 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It appears that you and I are similar, minus the girlfriend...haha.
But you need to realize that just because YOU "don't associate" with partying doesn't mean that she can't enjoy herself once in a while. If it really bothers you and you think that she will get out-of-control, go with her! Even if you don't drink, you can keep an eye on her and make sure her friend is okay, too.
If you've been dating for four years and she hasn't been partying like she used to, I'd say she's committed herself to you. It's about trust... Do you think she'll really go berserk and do something stupid? This is a decision you have to make.
Good luck, bro!
2007-08-23 08:08:53 · answer #2 · answered by bluedevil1642 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She doesn't need your permission to go have fun and enjoy college life.
If you insist on guilting her into not going then you're going to make her resent you with your controling attitude and by telling her that you don't trust her.
Support her in going and stop assuming that she'll be doing naked keg stands at some fraternity.
2007-08-23 08:12:46 · answer #3 · answered by Zero 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't control anyone. Just be honest with her about your feelings. If you two are not on the same page, you might just have to give her space and hope for the best
2007-08-23 08:06:49 · answer #4 · answered by Clueless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm i don't think she's gonna go buckwild after one weekend i seriously doubt that ....but on your end you should be honest and let her know that u are concerned about what u think could possibly happen after one weekend...
2007-08-23 08:09:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋