im following the advises given by the online community to me.. and now, i wanna ask again...
my best buuddy and i were close, he almost told me everything about his life..
his got a gf just last 3 weeks ago, and actually, my best buddy has doubts on this girl.. he confessed to me that he cannot feel his girlfriends love to him...
i told him that maybe he has quite a high standard when it comes to relationship and his gf didnt meet that expectation... was this right to say?
he also told me that he is now tired and his love life is cursed or something... i told him that if he will decide to break up with his girl, they must talk about it.. am i again right about this?
i told him that it is unfair to the girls part if that would be the reason i mean, i know his gf loved my best buddy so much and my best buddy cant see this..
he has doubts from the start, and i dont wanna that my best buddy will be hurt! what should i advised him about this girl? what should i do?
2007-08-23 00:46:25 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
about our friendship
actually i quite dont agree with the situation my best buddy and i having today.. cause we SELDOM TALK PROPERLY in person becasue there are many OBSTACLES (hahaha) in our school and many distractions in which we cannot talk properly! we talk in YM and i think this is informaL!.. what do u think? am i right? we always got no time at school because at Senior High, there are many things to do, were both active but we make it a point to say hi if we see each other.. so what about this?
again, about his love life, would he abandon and break with his gf?
i hope someone can understand this..
im not that really good in grammar and english LoL... immediate help... tahnks!
2007-08-23 00:51:16 · update #1
Your first question: You're right. May be he expects too much from his girlfriends so when they cannot fill his requirements he gets dissapointed.
Your second question: You're right on this one too. If he decides to leave her he should talk to her otherwise it's disrespectful and may hurt her feelings.
Last question: If it is your best buddy you should find a time to talk to him. In weekends or after school. Talking for a few seconds or just say "hi" won't solve any problems. Besides you could spare this time (time for writing to yahoo) to your friend.
2007-08-23 01:04:08 · answer #1 · answered by Ardelia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, if the problem here is that your best bud doesnt like his girlfriend anymore, he shouldn't prolong the relationship. That is truly unfair to her. But you are right, they do need to talk about what is going on. As for the "high standards" you claim I can't say for certain if that is the case or not, but if it were, you could try to show him his wrong. Unfortunately, in the end it will be his choice if he wants to change. And if he still sticks with these "high standards", then its best that he doesnt continue with someone he doesnt see good enough for him. She deserves something better than wasting her time in a meaningless relationship.
Second, as for your friend issue, it can be tough when life gets really busy; school and clubs can really cut into your time, but you guys should make time to see eachother once in a while. Cybertime might be convenient, but real quality time is neccessary to create a greater bond.
2007-08-23 08:08:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
about your buddy's love problem, let him sort out his doubts and insecurities first and then he will be able to love and trust his girlfriend. is he honest?does he know what kind of girl he wants?is he trustworthy?if so, he should not have a problem in trusting another person.
about your friendship,..friends are friends, even if they dont see each other often. but if you really treasure each other, you can always create time for hanging out together.
2007-08-23 08:06:25 · answer #3 · answered by eversmiling1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what i got from all this is he wants to find someone else hes not in love and therefore bored. well i do think he would be justified in leaving and telling her good bye. that would be the best thing for her and him and he can find someone sometime when he is ready again.
2007-08-30 21:35:55 · answer #4 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to give your friend some room to make decision for his self alone.
Do you want to make decision for him?
Don't if that is what you have in mind.
You make this sound like a Soap Opera AND REALLY WEIRD.
2007-08-29 21:40:33 · answer #5 · answered by dadw5boys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes your right they need to ttalk and try to work things out.
2007-08-23 07:56:29 · answer #6 · answered by betty m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋