Im 18 and my boyfriend and I have been having a sexual relationship a long time. He wnats to be free, but he tells me he still loves me. Should I still go out with him, but let hime have casual sex with other girls? This is realy stupid but Im very confused. He said it is only because our love life isnt that great at the moment because Im very busy with uni at the moment. I know he is being selfish but I do love him and I dont want him to break up me. Casual sex with other girls, while I sit at home studying or should I break it off. It Would break my heart, I love him so much that it hurts. This sounds pathetic but I need advice. I dont have any close family anymore because my parents and siblings were killed in an accident four years ago, so I need advice from somewhere.
2007-08-23 00:04:18 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know it's probably hard to comprehend, but you should break off this relationship whenever your boyfriend immediately if he suggests to casual sex with other girls. A problem with this is that the consequences if you do accept this is that you will keep your relationship, but probably only for a short time because it's probable that once he starts to meet new people, your relationship has greater chances of jeopardy, and if you do continue and agree about meeting other people, it'll just open to bigger scars, with questions about "oh will he leave me," etc. etc.; And I know it's a big step, to put yourself out there and sacrifice this relationship, but you've got to remember, they'res always other "fish in the sea." Once you quit this relationship, after a while after the rollercoaster of emotional phases, you'll understand why it was better to quit this unhealthy relationship. And no, in my opinion, it dosen't sound pathetic, because everyone needs a little uplifting once in a while.
I'm really sorry about your parents and siblings, hang in there!
2007-08-23 00:15:30 · answer #1 · answered by brianhere 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If everything your saying is true, you need a little more than advice, you need professional help.
If your letting a man get over on you like this at 18, I'd hate to see what your like in ten or fifteen years.
Let him go, he'll be bring back some deadly nasty STD and then you'll be sorry...You're so young and have so many more opportunities to fall in "love" with the right kind of guy.
He's what I call a Bailer, they bail out when the going gets a little tough.......stick with you're studies and be the bigger person or the more mature one and open your eyes to what he's doing, Yes, love hurts, but you'll get over it and be a better person for it.Good Luck!!!
2007-08-23 07:17:45 · answer #2 · answered by MKM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loves you - he will ride out the tough times with you - if it is all about sex for him - you need to find someone else. Right now, you're busy and you are trying to focus on making a better life for yourself by studying and trying to keep up with your schooling - he needs to support that. It isn't fair of him to even ask you to continue seeing him while he's out having sex with other girls - it puts you at risk for contracting diseases and if he's so irresponsible with your feelings - how is he going to be when he gets another girl pregnant while you're at home studying? You deserve someone better!
2007-08-23 07:14:11 · answer #3 · answered by JVar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can he talk about love when he wants to have sex with someone else? Ask yourself this: do you still actually love him or are you so used of him being around that you think you do? It’s scary to break up and start new, but sometimes it’s time to move on. You deserve someone better than this guy.
2007-08-23 07:19:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break it off with him and don't speak to him again. It is gut wrenching either way, but it will kill you to know you love him and he is sleeping around with other women. Better to be done with it and find someone who will respect that you need to make yourself better for your future. You don't deserve to be treated like that. Don't worry about him. It will be hard, but in time you will find someone who loves and respects you, not a dog who thinks casual sex is all important. I wish you well. (And don't take him back, because once he gets his way, it wall always be the same, you'll never be able to trust him again.)
2007-08-23 07:13:40 · answer #5 · answered by Princess Picalilly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First he is being selfish. Dump him, the causual sex thing is his way of tring sow some wild oats. I believe that sex should mean something to the parties involved, and you don't need to share the results of everyone he has been with. Remember that this is a good way to get bugs. (AIDS, Herpes etc). Say no, or move on, you are doing the right thing right now!!
2007-08-23 07:20:12 · answer #6 · answered by proof1958 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah... he's not that into you, get someone who is! Why be miserable and you know you will be every time you think he's out with others. Think of it as necessary surgery- hurts like heck for a bit, but then you get healed- better than slow pain and wasting your life. Besides, when he figures he can't have it all, if he loves you, he will be back, and if he doesn't, you are better off without him.
2007-08-23 07:13:12 · answer #7 · answered by Down to earth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to know of the accident.
You don't love him. Actually this is your temptation for sex with him which you feel you love him still. How can you or he be in 'love' having several sexual partners? No. Please save yourself from his 'lustful love' and concentrate on your uni program. When you feel need of advice for anything, write here, you will get answers.
2007-08-23 07:14:15 · answer #8 · answered by sv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only you know the real answer to your question. but to get to that answer you need to ask yourself.
- if he loves me as much as he says he does then why can he not put up without sex for a period of time if it makes you happy.
-if we did break up, would i be able to go on.
its true that when you first break of a relationship the future looks bleak but it soon turns around.
you just need to figure out whether or not he really loves you
hope that helps, good luck
2007-08-23 07:12:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be a doormat. Make him chose: You or everyone else. Have some self respect.
2007-08-23 07:09:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋