Most guys have someone they can consider as a good buddy/pal/mate. I've never had a best friend before, and I find it easier to relate to girls than guys. I'm not athletic or into sports like most guys and I'm quite intellectual and like reading, music and movies. I'm also quite sensitive and emotional. Most guys are so unemotional and uncommunicative.
Is there anyway I can make it easier to relate to guys and find one/two close friends? I'm only 20 y.o.
2007-08-22 23:08:39 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Be yourself,and be Confident old mate!!
2007-08-30 20:07:40 · answer #1 · answered by nickson faction 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. You have to start hanging around people (men) who hold your same values and likes (at least some of them). You have to find something in common. It doesn't have to be sports. It can be music.
2. Usually but not always, good friends tend to be around the same age.
3. You start off being acquaintances first, then casual friends (maybe even in a small group of other friends) and then over time, you may become close friends. It takes longer for two men to become close friends than it does for two girls or even a boy and a girl. Men like to be around other men but they also have a mutual mistrust of one another until they know each other for a while.
4. This will take a while Stanley. You have to be patient because men are wired different (psychologically) than women.
5. Men can be emotional -- or at least understand what you are going through -- and they can give advice -- but when they do, oftentimes they seem drained, so you have to give them a break from the emotional end of things sometime to recharge themselves.
I hope this helps. Good luck Stanley.
2007-08-23 04:01:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
heh, be glad then.
I think other guys are better at hiding their emotions, so not seeing any on them doesn't mean they are emotionless. Many of my friends thinks I'm that way too, but the fact is I just let my emotions out elsewhere, not for others to see.
It will only work if you can find a friend who shares the same interest as you do. Movies, music, many guys likes them too.
2007-08-22 23:23:09 · answer #3 · answered by Hornet One 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its easiest if your part of a club, such as Sports but as you said your not athletic. Are you still in education, because its normally quite easy to find someone with a common interest you yours in university, ect. There will always be someone who shares the same interests as you, its just finding them is the problem. Try getting to know friends of friends, some of my good friends i've met through someone else.
Don't worry too, not everyones obsessed with football/ sport in general.
2007-08-22 23:14:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Choosing a guy as a close friend.He must be the one that can understand your personal problems.And he never,never sell or tell your secret out to the others friends of yours or anybody else.That i will call him a best close friend.
2007-08-24 04:49:56 · answer #5 · answered by A K 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i m a gurl ....i also have a same problem but it is solved ......65%! i think if u want a guy friend ...when u speak to then or chat to them try to talk ...like what they want to talk bout ...well i think u will understand what i mean ....well if they abuse like that all then leave them...i think ur an intelligent person n can be able to know their thinkings.....WISH U BEST OF LUCK
2007-08-30 22:32:25 · answer #6 · answered by ♪Cute Angel♪ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what your asking them for and its just as easy to relate to guys as girls.
2007-08-30 10:33:55 · answer #7 · answered by Airreal K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
soap watcher ran on and on but to the point go out by yourself, hang out at the bookstores, movies, malls find your own freinds
2007-08-30 16:53:34 · answer #8 · answered by jay m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very simple dear just behave like guys , i am sure u will get them very close, be most of ur time in bar or disco
2007-08-30 18:30:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like the only guys you will get to know will be gay like yourself nothing wrong with that though try going to star trek conventions , comic book conventions and quit acting so girly YOUR A MAN RIGHT !!! well act like one
2007-08-30 23:06:30 · answer #10 · answered by papineau1976 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋