she says she is going to school for 8 days and wants me to look after them after they come from school. so it will be 3 hours everyday for 8 days. I am between job right now. so i will be home all the time. she says can i do it as favor and she doesnt have money to pay me. I said I will do it at that time but now I am thinking I feel like she is using me. Am I wrong? ( It's 5 kids)
2007-08-22 22:49:28 · 60 answers · asked by Jiny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell her you're busy.
Is this neighbour a friend or simply just a neighbour?
She's basically just told you that you're babysitting and that is downright rude. Would it have hurt her to ask if you minded at all?
If you want to, then do it but personally I wouldn't do it after her telling you that she wants you to do it and she wants it done for free. She's walking all over you.
2007-08-22 22:58:35 · answer #1 · answered by Shonz 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It all depends on whether she's ever done you any favours in the past, how good a friend she is or has she just started talking to you because she needs this favour. I have 6 kids and personally I would never dream of asking any one except my mum to look after them all and that's only because I know they jump when she tells them to do something. Also she knows I would do anything for her.
I have certain people who take advantage of me and get me to look after their children for them, on top of mine but are never there to return a favour.
If you do do it make it clear to her that it's a one off otherwise she'll be asking all the time.
One of my son's friends ends up at my house regularly overnight coz his mum goes out and just doesn't come home and she just now assumes I will look after him.
Be strong if you don't feel comfortable with it tell her soon so she can make other arrangements.
2007-08-26 15:17:23 · answer #2 · answered by mum26boys 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This does seem to be a bit excessive and cheeky.
You should not be expected to do this for so many days without something in return. I know that it is nice to do a favour, but this is asking a bit much of your good will.
Is the point of her going to school going to help her with a job? If so, she will need to think about child care then and if on a permanent basis she would need to pay for child chare. I would have thought she should have offered to pay you sometime in the future when she does have money.
2007-08-22 23:09:42 · answer #3 · answered by Beanbag 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OOOOOOOO you might regret that after the first day. I'm sure right now it's a one off favour until the next time she needs a favour at what point can you start asking for pay, you could be making alot of money from her. Don't let her take advantage she'll get into the habit.
2007-08-23 04:10:39 · answer #4 · answered by truth_and_time_tells_all 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever people say you should decide what to do on your own. Because nobody can know what exact conditions you and your neighbour in. She is going to a school perhaps she is trying to find a better job so she can set a better life for her and her children. So it is not wrong to give her a hand since it is a limited time. But if you feel that you are being used just say no.
2007-08-23 00:13:27 · answer #5 · answered by Ardelia 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yea she's going to use the hell out of you. she may say 3 hours but it'll be more like an all week long kinda thing these kids will be living at your house eating your food and breaking your things and there mother, well I dought you'll see much of her at all. This lady has 5 kids she'll say anything to get away from them for as long as she can. Tell her you have gotten a job and have to work and can no longer help her. Go out and look for that job you may not have to lye to her after all. Good Luck and Best Wishes
2007-08-22 23:04:02 · answer #6 · answered by tawala 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I very often look after my neighbours 4 kids while she is shopping, at the docs or whatever.
When it got too much i had to tell her i couldn't keep doing it, i have 3 of my own to take care of.
I sometimes felt that my house was a creche and that i was an unpaid childminder.
Tell her no.
You have other things to do.
She should have sorted out child care before making school arrangements.
2007-08-22 23:01:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is not using u. its a matter of 8days and i think u can afford to risk it for 5 kids. the kids are fun to be around. once u get close to them u can never leave them. remember every good deed erases a bad one. so if u have done anything wrong till today all will vanish. money comes and goes, so never care if she doesnt pay u wid money but will pay u back wen u are in difficulty. tht is human nature!!!!
2007-08-22 23:30:22 · answer #8 · answered by papz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey.....
Ok i guess ur friend told u in the begining itself that there were 5 kids... so its not like u just happened to know they r five of them. So in that case u werent used..... u knew what u were gonna get urself into. Ok maybe u didnt think abt it from all corners..... but now that u know u dont want to do this anymore..... Y dont u talk to her and tell her u cannt do this anymore like u thought. And just tell her u r uncomfortable abt the whole thing.
But if she didnot mention there were five of them... then definetly she used u..... u can tell her u are not available for this service now.
Sometimes its nice to do favours..... just make sure these favours are at ur reach, later dont say oh i thought i can do this.
Take care and have fun.
2007-08-22 23:01:27 · answer #9 · answered by DU 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its understandable for having 5 kids and going to school, really not too much money to spare. But taking care of 5 kids is no easy task too. If these kids are nice and quiet enough, maybe I will try it out for a day or two and give her time to find another alternatives. Telling her I have errands to do before my next job.
2007-08-22 22:56:59 · answer #10 · answered by Ai_22192 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋