Ok so Im a compleate Idiot! I know, I know its all my own fault but Ive missed my period {well last month it finished today 23rd} and today im doing a pregnancy test but my heart is racing and terrified I know it was my own fault. Also my mum got me the mini pill to control my periods and Im suppose to start them the day I start my period and I think she will catch on! Im only 17!
If my mum finds out she will kill me and its not the case of she will be upset but she will get over it becasue she wont.
Im so scared and I think the idea of abortion is so scary {free in uk} I dont know what to do please give me some advice.
2007-08-22 21:56:58 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I have a job in an office and my boyfriend loves me alot and say its my decision and he will stick by me with whatever decisions I want. He is very Mature and looking for a job.
I have a dad and a biological dad to tell and all my life family make those little joke like "If you ever get pregnant before you're 35 I will kill you!" my mum had me at 16 and it was hard for her even though i was raised by a wonderful father.
I personaly dont think I can look after a baby I have money and a house but i cant have an Abortion because i couldnt live with that, knowing I killed what could have been something I love so much.
2007-08-22 22:59:14 · update #1
Thank you so much everyone you dont know how kind you are. Each one of you has made me feel so much better and stronger. x
2007-08-22 23:17:23 · update #2
first find out for sure you are before you panic. seventeen is very young to become a mother so think very carefully before you act. alot of clinics that do abortions have counsling services there you might want to talk to one of them before you make a final decission. this is something you will have to live with for the rest of your life so dont jump. consider all options before making a final choice. Your mother might not be as bad as you think i got pregnant very young and thought mine would kill me and she didnt she wasnt happy but in the end was very supportive. now im older and i cant immagine what my life would have been like had i not had her. good luck to you hope it works out
2007-08-22 22:05:16 · answer #1 · answered by cookemlccooke 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, your mum has no rights to be horrible to you as this is your own life and unless you are dating druggue, alcoholic etc. , then she should support you. That is why you probably ended up pregnant- cos your mom does not want to talk about sex and stuff and make sure if you enjoy sex, she can give you the best advice. Its like I would rather drive my daughter to the nightclub and pick her up instead of being so strict that she would sneak out on her own and then get into trouble. Of courser, you mom should not encourage you to sleep with boys very early on as it is a great responsibility and when having sex even with protection you can always get pregnant if something, so it is hard. But, she can not look down to you , cos she did even worse(when she was 16). Everything that happens with children is almost parent's fault - too strict or too soft, abusive or neglective.
Consider all the options and then decide what you can manage, not others. Just make sure you do not have to regret it for the rest of your life. There is nothing wrong to be a young mom as long as you do not give up on your education. Do a test and talk to your mom after you have made your own decision and also talked to your doctor and maybe had some advice on what you are entitled if your mom goes insane(Shelter or something - there is lots of help is you are a mother). Good luck, But I suggest that you do not talk to your mom before you have made your own decision. And let your mom know, cos if you will do abortion, because yet again, your mom is like some sort of angry witch who regulates you r life, she will lose her chance to support you once again. All the best and am glad your boyfriend is supportive!
2007-08-23 06:15:30 · answer #2 · answered by Lona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take the test now. Avoiding the knowledge will not help, it won't just go away. It's better to know as soon as possible. You are not too too young to have a baby, by the time you have it you'll be 18. Just don't panic, your mum is your mum, she may get angry but at the end she wants what's best for you and she will help you out. Don't do anything stupid like having an abortion in an office and not a good hospital. Also, it depends on teh relationship you have with teh father of teh baby. Do you reckon you could get married and live together? Anyway, remember that what you do with your body and your baby is your choice alone, not his, and not your mum's.
2007-08-23 05:08:36 · answer #3 · answered by cpinatsi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let's be calm and do the test first. if it is negative, then fine. else, better start having a good talk to that guy. the best solution is to get married. whether you are too young, not ready, etc, they are not important anymore. once you two want to get married, the next thing would be to try to convice your parents to arrange for it asap. well, abortion would away be an easy way out, but to me, it is definitely a no, no. best wishes.
2007-08-23 05:09:58 · answer #4 · answered by LKMG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abortion...... No please..... Do not kill your child (if ever you are pregnant)..... He might be a bright and talented child...... (If ever you are pregnant)...
Well, if you are really pregnant, we have nothing to do about it... because it is already there..... And you're mother........ probably she will be upset but not kill you... and besides, if your mother really loves you then she will not kill you and your baby if ever you are pregnant........
AND IF EVER... Go to the father of that child..... Seek for help, financial and moral support..... If you had sex with him, I'm sure you really love that guy...... and if that's the case, if you really love the guy, both of you should work for your child........
That's all and good luck with your future
2007-08-23 05:10:56 · answer #5 · answered by chrisbel r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take the test first before anything else, then, check it again! because some pregnancy test is not accurate. if it turns out to be negative... good for you, if its positive... welcome to the world of motherhood, try your best to be a good mom, remember that creating a problem just to cover up for a certain problem would only make things worst. Goodluck!
2007-08-23 05:13:56 · answer #6 · answered by Kate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, just take the test and then decide. No use in getting all worried until you know for sure.
Just think it thru befor you decide anything so you don't regret anything. Good luck.
2007-08-23 05:00:44 · answer #7 · answered by 354gr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When was the last time u had sex? i am asking because if u did it 2 days ago u can still go for the contraception pill .
2007-08-23 05:02:44 · answer #8 · answered by es12us 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋