I am a housewife to a rich up and coming corporate lawyer...?

Question

I didnt go to college, I married this smart handsome man when I was 19. We've been married for 7 years. I came from a very simple family, my parents are housekeepers and we really didnt have a luxurious lifestyle.

However, as i said, I married this young corporate lawyer. He comes from a very rich family. His dad owns a toy factory, while his mom was a senior accountant in a large auditing firm. He was 26 when we married.

After marraige, ive lived a life of luxury. We live in a 15 bedroom mansion. We have maids and butlers, but we dont have children. My husband has given me everything I want. It has been a fairy tale

My husband has always been respectful of me, but last week he requested that i join him and 2 other couple friends he has in a sexual activity, he called it an orgy. It shocked me. I said no.
For 3 or 4 days he hasnt spoken to me. This is the first time he has ignored me. Should I just let him bring me to the orgy? Is it immoral? will i go to hell?

Answer 1

Go to the orgy. That is not being unfaithful so you will not go to hell. It's just consensual sex with the knowledge of consent of you and your husband, so it's not immoral. The rules are you don't have to do anything you don't want to. Let your husband know that you have thought about and maybe it will be fun, but you are not going to anything with any of the other guys unless they are good looking and the vibes are there. Also, the first time, you would rather just watch and for him not plan on you doing anything. He will be delighted and of course that will be fine with him.

At first you will all just talk, maybe have a drink and play a few kissing games and the next thing you know you will willingly be having sex with another guy. Also, if you prefer, the first time, you want it to just be you and one other couple. Your husband will agree to that.

Answer 2

I wont comment on immoral or going to hell, thats a whole different conversation...Nothing good can come out of you and your husband going to an orgy, it will only create doubt, questions of inadequecy and of course you will start to question who eachother is, is there unfaithfulness etc and you will only look at eachother different and its different for women, you could maybe like it or enjoy it then after it you will feel bad, dirty, resentful etc and it could ruin how you feel or look at eachother and potentially the relationship and even if it doesnt he nor you will ever look at you the same plus when you are truely in love, no matter what your sexual fantasies nad desires are you wouldnt want anyone to touch, or have sex with the person you are in love with, plus God forbid you have children or an ugly fight comes up he will bring it up..........Me, I love my body, and i would assume my hubby does to, if he ever asked me to do that id take it as a hint that he doesnt care enough about me or respect me and sure as hell doesnt love me. Talk to him, be understanding tell him you will think about it and all but you just dont think its right for you but that youd try other things...

Answer 3

Aah yes, the rich husband from the rich family complete with maids, butlers and a 15 bedroom mansion to boot.

Sure is a life of luxury, but it's all come at a price hasn't it?

You have everything you want, except a husband who is faithful, ha! I say ha! again.

Answer 4

First year lawyers at large law firms are now being paid around $150,000 in base salary. To command that salary, you would need to be a top graduate at a respected law school, and you would be expected to work well in excess of the standard 40 hour work week. The salary for an in-house corporate lawyer varies based on many factors, including years of relevant practice experience, areas of specialization, region of the country, size and industry of the company. Companies generally don't hire lawyers who are fresh out of law school. In-house lawyers typically receive a few years of training at law firms. In-house lawyers act as executives who have legal training - so they ARE businessmen. The top inside lawyer at a company commonly receives total compensation similar to what the other top business executives are paid. $300K in salary is not uncommon at large companies - and salary is not the only element of compensation. You should consider salary, bonus, stock compensation, retirement pay, insurance, other benefits and perquisites provided by the employer. When you roll all of that together, top in-house lawyers can make far more than $300K. In-house lawyers' hours tend to be more predictable than law firm lawyers' hours, but it is not a 9-to-5 job. Some in-house lawyers trade off a lower salary for fewer hours, no billable time pressure, no client marketing, closer working relationships with the client, a sense of more integration into the business, and more balance in their lives. Top in-house lawyers do not necessarily work fewer hours than do lawyers in law firms.

Answer 5

Do not throw your beliefs out the door just because your husband has asked you too. It seems like you have low self esteem since you say you come from a very simple family compared to your husband's. Don't do something you will regret just to please him. He has given you everything like you said but he is your husband why would he disrespect you and ask you to have an orgy. I think he has either already done it without you and just wants to bring you in on it. Because that is not something you just ask.

Answer 6

Never let him force you to do anything you don't want to. Immoral? According to me yes but someone else can say no. It's up to you. If you feel that you cannot do anything in your relationship which seems improper to you then don't do it. But if your husband had known you well and respected you he would not have asked any question like that. Appearantly he does not respect to you or to your feelings at all.
Try to speak to him. If it fails hand him a letter explaining how much you feel sad because of his behaviour. Try to tell him to be more rational and responsible in your relationship.

good luck

Answer 7

whoah there girl!
no you should not be forced into going to this orgy just because hes ignoring you!
if you said no it is because you are totally against it and he should respect your wishes.
tell him that you respect your marriage vows,especially the forsaking all others bit.tell him that if he wants an open marriage then you can choose yourself who you would like to sleep with but you didnt marry him under the open marriage agreement.

forcing you into doing anything is abuse,it is no better than rape.think about it that way...if you go to this thing then you are allowing yourself to be raped against your will and your husband has allowed it.

if you do this your marriage will suffer and so will your sanity.

if he wanted you to sleep with a dog next while he taped it,and he ignored you because you wouldnt do it,would you reconsider that?HELL NO.

be firm in your beliefs.

Answer 8

Your husband seems to be wrapped up in some perversion lifestyle and no telling how long its been going on.Lady noone can tell you what to do its your husband but it is immoral and not being judgemental cause I dont have that right but if you are asking is it ok with God,No it is not.but you know some people will do anything for and to keep the lifestyle they are acustom to.Its sad.

Answer 9

you will not go to hell, though your husband has shown absolutely no respect for you. If he is into affairs it appears that he is not happy at home, and there maybe a total lack of communication between you, if I may suggest, you should seek some guidance from a professional person for the both of you

Answer 10

Don't lower your standards just for him, if you don't wish to go then don't. But it tells you another story on how he has been unfaithful to you and has been having sex with others. Only you can make the final decision here, but also remember if you end your relationship, you are entitled to a fair bit of monies. Good luck.