close friends for years and he's liked me since then; he's the "shy type" yet comfortable telling me things and never had girlfriend.
Beg of this yr, i fell for him deeply and we "got together" (gave him his first kiss, cuddles, holding hands, 1st base - innocent).
BUT we decided to stay friends and not rush things. After this, he was going through a hard time with tragedy and we haven't really talked.
about a month ago we texted, he heard about a guy liking me and just was asking about him (i think he wanted to hear my reaction) and after i said this line - don't know why:
(i'll try w. someone else, its too bad he's far away) that's when he started acting like an A S S and telling me how to play the game and that i should be with other
guys so they could get with me - very rude.
Someone told me it's because he was jealous and was so hurt and sad, HE THOUGHT i had moved on. The truth is, i never stopped loving him
but i don't want a relationship. If he "didn't care",why would it matter this be such a big deal to him?
2007-08-22 21:41:12 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we're in college btw...sad, huh?
WHY WOULD HE BE JEALOUS? Unless he does care and love me...
and i thought he didn't care...i thought he didn't like me anymore - WE'RE BOTH ON THE SAME PAGE - WE DON"T WANT RELATIONSHIPS RIGHT NOW BUT IS IT POSSIBLE THAT WE CAN STILL LOVE EACH OTHER?
...and there is no other man. i think also "FRIENDS" are a big factor to all this misunderstanding - they feed ideas in our heads and by the time we talk, there's already notions and he gets insecure...
EXTRA MONEY QUESTION: after this "episode" he sent me a final txt saying, "i don't want you to wait around for me anymore because i want you to be happy. You're grown enough to hear this, we're still friends, k?
what's this??
he's definitely not the jealous type...it's just we haven't talked or seen each other in a while...i think we're just afraid of losing each other...
2007-08-22 21:41:39 · update #1
Seems to me, he loves you and wants you but thinks you no longer loves him or wants him. His later text message is him being an adult after the little comments he made before. Good luck!
2007-08-23 00:59:46 · answer #1 · answered by Knight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breakups can cause a lot of misunderstanding, especially when other people get involved. Let the dust settle, and try for a friendship again. Let him know that he hurt you when he got nasty with you. Let him know that you were just teasing when he said that about the other guy. Tell him that you have not been looking for a relationship with anyone because you have not been ready for one.
2007-08-23 04:55:44 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps, he is jealous, but he already said that he didn't want a relationship.
If it's meant to be, then you two will get together. Obviously, this isn't the right time.
Stop reading into the small stuff. If he wanted more, he would tell you...He's a guy and they're usually upfront when they want to be with you.
2007-08-23 06:17:56 · answer #3 · answered by darkening_hope 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably is jealous. he probably still likes you. If you like him, ask if you can start over again? No harm right? Play it by ear. It sounds like he does still like you. Guys arc up and get all funny, and even act like jerks when they think you like someone else...
2007-08-23 04:52:06 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps you want to stay as friend not him.
2007-08-23 04:55:30 · answer #5 · answered by miraclebeliever99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋