well i HAD this scholarship to play division 2 baseball but lost it in the recent weeks because of some issues with my scholarship and what i agreed to when i signed my letter of intent. now i'm back home. prior to my departure i had spent my last night with a group of friends i consider my main group and i love each and everyone, very emotional night. while i was away across the country at the college i was to play at, i wrote a long, emotional email worth 6 pages. only 2 answered back, 1 of 2 people i care about THE most just saying they were busy and they'd tear up later but ended their short message noting another one's email address and how sexual it was out of fun like "HEY LOOK AT ____ email address! woo!" the other was someone who truly half assed their response and didnt mean anything.
im back and sure a couple of asked if i was ok, but none of shown up to see me in person and when I, MYSELF, scheduled something, they didnt seem excited to see me after a month.
2007-08-22 20:44:15 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
it seems i'm always the one to schedule a get together and such. im tired of being the bigger person to reach out and keep touch. its amazing that even me being gone, NONE had replied to my heartfelt email. how are we supposed to maintain contact if we cant even reply? i was bummed... was i expecting too much?
what about not even trying to see me as i returned home and am obviously broken hearted that i had lost my scholarship?
your inputs and thoughts on what i should do are desired.
2007-08-22 20:46:51 · update #1
bump bump bump
2007-08-23 09:51:32 · update #2
People change a lot when they go to college... they find new friends and they grow up more. It's easy to lose touch with friends. I only stay in contact with ONE high school friend. The rest? I have no idea where they are aside from what facebook tells me. This is a new stage in your life... and you'll know who is your true friend. Don't be so depressed about this. Go out there and start this new chapter in your life. Meet new people and make new friends! Keep in touch with those that reciprocate your emails/phone calls. Other than that, just move on, hun. It's hard growing up, hm? :) This will probably happen again when you graduate college... lifelong friends are hard to find! I only have two.
2007-08-22 20:51:47 · answer #1 · answered by Cochy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you probably did expect too much. I really reserve the title "friend" for a handful of people - the rest are just acquaintances, pleasant to see now and then but they really don't share my innermost thoughts.
So I think you're in the same boat as everyone else - true friends are rare indeed.
As for your email, I don't know. Sometimes it's really hard to tell whether an email is really effectively communicating our feelings. Maybe the recipients didn't read into it as much as you thought they might.
These people are going through changes in their own lives (I assume they have recently graduated and their minds are too busy with all the changes in THEIR lives.)
I would continue to cultivate the ones who asked if you were OK, forgive the ones who neglected you (for your own peace of mind - doesn't mean you have to have them in your life), and be open with the idea of making new friends. You're at a time when a lot changes.
BTW, I'm sorry about your scholarship. I hope you do continue with college. Don't just forget about it.
2007-08-30 11:39:59 · answer #2 · answered by pufferoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. Out of all my friends it seems like I'm the one that keeps in touch with everyone. And there are times when I feel like that they don't want me around even if I hadn't seen them in such a long time. The truth is however, some friends you will lose touch with especially if the desire to keep in touch isn't both ways. All I have to say to you is to keep trying, you never know if they will just suddenly up and call you so you can go hang out or whatever.
2007-08-30 19:20:31 · answer #3 · answered by koneko_bombay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is probably just really nervous, after all she IS having a baby and wants to make sure the baby has a dad. I think that if you just give her space things will work out. You may really be nervous and uncomfortable with the idea of them getting married and stuff, but you can't really stop them. I think if you just be happy for them because your friend has love, she might open up more. She might've not told you also because she was worried that you would freak at her. Just give her time. Let her make her own decisions. Hope everything turns out ok!
2016-05-20 22:16:58 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this reminds me of those tales about people (generally rich or powerful) who want to find out if their nearest and dearest really really love them.
they go away and then come back in disguise and hear stuff they never expected to hear from their friends and relations. some good some bad. that's life.
so you found out earlier than you would, that some friendships are just that shallow.
ask yourself instead who you should have put your effort into building a friendship, instead of the party boys.
2007-08-22 20:53:05 · answer #5 · answered by lsl4x 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it comes down to that there are a lot of horrible, idiotic, mind-numb, superficial people out there that are not worthy of being friends with anyone in the first place. there are good people out there but they're hard to find. This, coming from me in a cynical mood though!
College def. is a different environment in which we need to adapt while our conceptions are constantly challenged.
2007-08-22 21:02:40 · answer #6 · answered by maba 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all of my life, I have only had one friend that I could count on no matter what happened. Sometimes we just expect others to be as sincere as we are. It is, sadly, just not that way.
2007-08-22 20:54:45 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would say they are really not your friends. You need to move on with your life and put the past in the past. Start over you can do it.
2007-08-29 15:52:05 · answer #8 · answered by DH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋