We've been dating 2 yrs, recently he told me he has no feelings for me & rather we stay as good friends. I really love him & thought he was gonna propose than ending our relationship. When I told him I might be pregnant he was really happy & came to me in the middle of the night. Later on I checked & dr say I wasn't. When I told him his attitude changed yet he kept saying "Sometimes I have feelings for you, but when I think about our arguments it's too painful" I know he has feelings for me & I realized that I kinda push him alot when I ask him "where are we now?" coz he tend to avoid this question by saying "maybe" & never a direct answer. I love him but everytime I tell people we on a break they kept saying he probably have another girl. I really hate that! I love him but I don't understand him. Recently I went to dr for ultrasound coz I had stomach pain then they say I had a miscarriage & it coz my stomach to bloat like I'm pregnant.
2007-08-22 20:41:53 · 10 answers · asked by silver 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I haven't told him about my miscarriage coz I really don't want to hurt him & I blame myself more that this happen. Plus he's very religious & he really hates himself for taking me before marriage. He's already avoiding my msg & calls coz he knows I'm just harrassing him about our situation. But now I really want to connect to him spritually more than physically. I want to prove to him that we may have our differences (he's ukrainian, i'm chinese) I believe that Christ put us together coz he believe in us & I really hope that we would have a good future together.
If you guys have any good suggestions or what you think I should do to mend our relationship, pls let me know . thanks.
2007-08-22 20:48:09 · update #1
To me my dear,your man does not seem to be serious or is it that you put him under presure or what.If he is not meant for you,let him go befor he uses you and dumps you.To me you seem to be a young beautiful lady and i can asure you that their is a guy out there who can give you the love that you deserve.Find a serious man honey
2007-08-30 19:59:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you're acting like a stalker. If someone did this to you, you would be right upset. First you lie and say you are pregnant, then you say you're not. Then you deliberately get yourself pregnant when you know you are on shaky terms with the man who would be the father. You are being selfish and immature. Would you have liked to have your own father be out of your life because of a choice your mother made. Time to grow up, get some counselling, and get your s**t together. Yes he likes you and has feelings for you................he likes you for sex, and has horny feelings. You are using each other, and you have already become pregnant once. How soon are you going to be dragging a child through this drama.
2007-08-30 15:01:09 · answer #2 · answered by always b natural 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he told you that he'd rather you stay good friends, you should follow that directive. Be glad you have a good friend but go on and date other people and look for your romantic life elsewhere.
He will eventually find another girl friend and you will just have to accept that. He is not on a break with you if he wants to be good friends.
It is worse when you are having sex with him. He sounds like he has no problem having sex with someone but he does have a problem having a relationship with the person he is having sex with. So that leaves you in a very bad position. Don't gamble on getting pregnant. Don't make your life worse because you are playing games with a man who doesn't have deep feelings for you.
I realize you are really really attracted to him and in love. But that doesn't mean it will ever be a good thing for you to stay involved with him. You are forcing the involvement. He was honest and told you he wanted to 'stay good friends'. You can't count on him.
2007-08-29 21:00:45 · answer #3 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he do not want to be in relationship with you. I'm sorry if hurt your feelings but you have to let him go. I know how a lot going for yourself so do yourself a favor and live your life and be happy that you're not preg.Now you can get yourself together and make things happen for you. He don't seem like he would be around to raise the baby any ways. Let go.
2007-08-30 18:03:46 · answer #4 · answered by queen B. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you two really need to have a talk. Also sounds like you are pressuring him to the point of him wanting to leave.
You really need to tell him about the miscarriage asap. Maybe by dealing with this together can you two find it to understand each other better and resolve the small petty issues.
2007-08-22 21:22:46 · answer #5 · answered by riding128 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take your heart and stick to it, yet guy a is the winner to me. stability is important for long term relationships, and why cant you create adventure with guy a. element of a dating is the adventure. if issues artwork out then you and guy a can return and forth and do issues adventurous mutually, yet have that stability that each and every person couples want
2016-10-03 02:50:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't take this the wrong way, but find a counselor to talk with. You and this guy have a heavy relationship, and a counselor could be more help to you.
2007-08-22 20:51:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe talk to a professional..
2007-08-30 16:57:31 · answer #8 · answered by BigWashSr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What
2007-08-30 16:51:43 · answer #9 · answered by x3blackcats 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him go before he presses harassment charges on you..
2007-08-30 09:43:23 · answer #10 · answered by Calico L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋