thank you to those who answerd honestly.some was very helpfull...the trust is there.but not as it should be.it has happend that i caught him lieing or not tell me things or telling another woman he loves and mis her..says shes just a friend and shes married.the lies well he says he was wrong and that his sorry.i believe him and trust he wont do it again but the insecurity abt wot his prominsing is knocking on my door and i dont want to open it but damit how can i turn a blind eye to that.or should i.did i open the door.how do i ignore.im i overreacting.im i looking for something thats not there.im i fighting a losing battle.im i pushing.i cant ask him this cause im not sure if his honest or not at the moment.maybe he is maybe its not him its me.i dont know!
2007-08-22 20:33:43 · 12 answers · asked by musicslave 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't get all bent out of shape over nothing. Given the opportunity, almost all men will cheat, it is hardwired into their brains; but, with the other women, it is only sex. He loves and married you.
He is doing the best he can; he is trying to be good, so cut him some slack. If you cannot accept the fact that men are going to be men, you need to get divorced and never remarry.
2007-08-22 21:05:30 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My ex left me for another woman, and she was an abusive sort of person, and I have never ever been that way. What's more she cheated on her husband whiling getting involved with my husband. So, I understand how crazy it all is while the foolish break people's hearts. Well, you got too comfortable? Something had been missing a long time for her and it was hard for her to tell you and she knew she coudn't change you I'm sure. Men are impossible to change, so she got involved with someone else. The marriage probably won't work, then she'll wish she was back with you, and then what? I know of two couples that did this and he tried to get back with his wife, but she wouldn't take him. So, what you need to do is get serious about your faith, and pray, learn to pray. James 5:16 says, "The fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much." So, go from there and God will speak to you, and guide you.
2016-03-17 04:57:27 · answer #2 · answered by Beverly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-02 02:28:30 · answer #3 · answered by Stacee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, and I ask this often, he broke the vow to forsake all others, what makes you think he will keep his promise to never do it again? the only way to repair it is for him to never ever speak to this woman again, and for him to show you he can be trusted for the rest of the marraige. if he screws up again, dump him... and that will be that, no more worries anymore! and, it's not you, it's him. he basically has to start all over with you. =(... good luck! I had a similar problem w/ an ex interest... he cheated, and I told him he had to earn the trust back...he felt that he didn't have to do that...but, really, he has to earn the trust back! You know, I really disagree with almost all of Kelley Anne's answers here in yahoo, lol!
2007-08-23 00:05:53 · answer #4 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Though its really hard and takes time to repair or redeem a lost trust, it can be repaired by not doing again the thing that cause the trust to be lost. Honesty is the very key in gaining again the lost trust.
As to the trust in yourself, you can repair it by doing all your best. What ever happens, at least you've done your part. Do your best and let God do the rest.
2007-08-22 20:55:15 · answer #5 · answered by dats p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very difficult to forget, even when you have forgiven. If you feel that insecure, why don't you hire a private investigator, or get some PI equipment to check up on him for awhile until you feel secure again. Otherwise you will never trust him again.
2007-08-22 20:39:14 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know honey, I am in the same boat as you.. I guess we stay hoping they will change, I guess other than love we have kids with our husband like in my case and they adore him they think he is a super hero I can't compete with that and so I stay with my cheating husband, my husband he does well for a while and then all of the sudden he goes in this mess around sprees I always catch him but for what? I am still here, still here for my children, they have being trough enough I left one time and they were very sad, still on therapy for that.. I am now raising his daugther one he had with another woman, this woman is horrible she didn't proctect her little girl from her child molesting husband, so my husband got custody of her she lives with us, guess what? after all that he cheated on me again.. So besides my two boys now I have this little girl she depends on me, I take care of her as if she is mine, what am I to do? just wait I guess, wait till my kids don't need me anymore.. I am going to school because someday I know I would be able to claim my life..he will be old and lonely, what about you honey? what keep you there with that cheating man he will never change.. if you don't have children then it must be love, there is no time limit for love if you love him you would have to accept his ways, if you love him more than you love your self you will stay.I feel your pain.. keep your head up, I will pray for you..good luck.
2007-08-23 02:08:55 · answer #7 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't turn a blind eye to that, nor would I put up with it. I would be checking everything, his email, his IM's, My Space, phone records, bank accounts, I would have him followed when he goes out and I wouldn't sit and let him get over on me for one second. If I found out he was cheating I would divorce him.
2007-08-22 20:40:00 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him the benefit of the doubt... he's sorry for his actions and i think he means it... let him prove to you that he is sincere that he's sorry... don't first give him the cold shoulder, although i know its hard to accept his mistake. give him a second chance.. and the only way to hnow if he's honest and sincere enough.. surely he's going to do evrything to make things right as they are... in the meantime... just go about the thing u've been doing... and don't lose trust in him yet... not until he proved his trust to us...
2007-08-22 20:44:48 · answer #9 · answered by skeptic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey first of all your not overreacting if you marrage is not working you need to sit down and talk about what you have both done and fine a sulotion to your problem if he is cheating and you fine you cant talk to him properly your marriage is not going to work you need to tell each other the truth and try to push though hard times make it clear to him that you want to know whats happaning and if you think he is not telling the truth he is not trustworthy you need to end it sorry, and it is not you its him!!
2007-08-22 20:50:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋