All my husband wants to talk about is me having sex with this friend of mine while he watches. He doesn't want to be involved just watch. He also makes comments about watching me get a lap dance from a stripper. I'm not entirely opposed to this, but I am afraid of what else this could bring into the relationship
2007-08-22 20:26:54 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I really want to make his fantasy come true, but is that enough of a reason to do this? I am straight but I am curious about being with a woman. He finds it sexy, but it worries me about our marriage.
2007-08-22 20:33:31 · update #1
You would be commiting adultery if you do and you would also be committing a homosexual act. He is totally disrespecting you to even suggest this.
2007-08-22 20:34:53 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 3⤊ 6⤋
He's very carefully thinking of ways and making suggestions for you to start out being with another woman , then moving on to him being involved and then moving onto bigger things like swinging clubs and parties .
The stripper might be your safest best no emotional entanglement but remember clubs have rules.
Are you ready for this? Is your relationship strong enough ? How is the jealousy normally if you catch him perving other women and his towards you perving other guys?.
Most couples get into this just for the excitement of the 3some but it tends to go further and as much as you say no I dont want it to become a swinging thing it will.
If your not 100% sure this is what you want then dont do it try some other way to liven your sex life up its not worth the hassle it'll bring , it will complicate your life , bring in trust issue's of you wondering if he cares for the 3rd party more then you , and never ever have sex with the same person more then once that is your dead end right there.
Check out some swinging sights or sights about this subject look deep into it find what other's suggest and dont jump head 1st it is not the be all and all , and unfortunetly for newbies this is how it starts out.
Be sure your 100 % into it and strong within yourself any doubts stay out.
Good luck.
2007-08-22 21:51:26 · answer #2 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Most men have this fantasy, although the majority never actually try to make it a reality. I wouldn't give in to his request to watching you have sex with your friend unless you feel like your marriage is rock solid. Perhaps though, you could indulge this fantasy that you share by telling him little stories about your fantasies with other women, or watching porno movies together that feature threesomes or girl/girl? I think the stripper suggestion he has is actually fairly harmless. It's 3 minutes with a total stranger writhing on your lap that you never have to see again and if you feel uncomfortable, just don't buy another dance.
2007-08-23 03:21:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is most men's #1 fantasy. At least he's not asking to join. If you feel comfortable and would like to experience new things, go for it. I don't know how your sex life is, but maybe this will enhance things in bed. I don't know if you ever watch porn with your husband, try watching a lesbian porn with your husband and see how this makes you feel. If it turns you on, go for it. The best of luck.
2007-08-22 20:45:59 · answer #4 · answered by Butterfly Girl 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
My different view ! Aside from issues of morality and religion...I think it boils down to 2 things. His motivation and your relatonship. I think it is possible to have such an intense soul melded relationship that one might want to explore the limits within....knowing that each loved only the other...and wanted to see the other pleased out of love......in theory, reach a place of liberation with no concerns about fidelity, trust.....perfect peace knowing nothing can hurt it ....doing anything both agree on that hurts nobody....
2007-08-22 21:42:13 · answer #5 · answered by mysihba 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
if your curious and really want to do it, then do it for yourself and not your husband. who knows, you might really like it. youvmight even want your husband to join in but lay the ground rules before you go there.
2007-08-23 00:55:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything that you aren't comfortable doing. You may regret it later. If your husband loves you , he will understand
2007-08-23 04:51:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
my husband has made the same comments to me, so dont worry, I think its a pretty normal fantasy.....BUT ITS A FANTASY........If you are going to do it, do it for yourself, not him, or if you do it and dont like it you will always resent him
2007-08-23 03:59:47 · answer #8 · answered by Cortney S 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Bad idea from every angle...not to mention just plain wrong. I agree with sweet suzy (the 1st answer).
2007-08-22 23:00:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
I agree with sweet suzy 100%
2007-08-22 21:20:30 · answer #10 · answered by heads 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
LIFES SHORT DARLING SO GO FOR IT, JUST GET DIFFERENT BRA PANTS ETC THEN YOU USE IN LIFE SO IT SEEMS LIKE A BREIF FAST THING IN THE PRIVACY OF YOUR LIFE,, SOMEDAY YOU WILL GIGGLE AT THIS, BUT,, DONT OVER DO IT, THAT CAN CREATE PROLEMS,,, GOOD CUMMING LUCK LOL
2007-08-22 20:53:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋