my boyfriend and I have been together about 5months now we both love each other...i had decided not to have sex with him for the 1st year but somehow everytime i meet him i keep going one step closer to having sex with him (he doesnt push me into it at all its hard for me to stay in limits)...what shall i do??has anyone else gone thru this?
2007-08-22 20:20:43 · 14 answers · asked by kera 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is quite a challenge :) The only way to stop yourself from doing it is to set limits and follow them. When things get to a certain point, get up and do something else with him like watch tv or take a walk. It's not going to be easy when there's so much attraction between the two of you! Just remind yourself of your personal goals and why you want to follow them. It's great to find a guy that respects your decisions. Feel free to ask him to help you by having him not cross a certain line... like no heavy petting and stuff. You decide what your limit is at this point in time and be strong.
2007-08-22 20:26:27 · answer #1 · answered by Cochy 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Good for you and it sounds like you have a man there that is worth holding on to!
It is well worth hanging on to and enjoying sex with the right man - it is a unique experience that is so very easily squandered these days - a gift to the person that you love that means so very much.
You have the rest of your life to perfect it and get it just right - but you only have the one shot the 'first time' - make sure that you don't look back on it with regret.
Your sacrifices will be repaid a thousand times!
Good luck to you both for your future - it's getting off to a great start!
2007-08-22 21:05:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody I think goes thru this. But why put a 1 year limit on it? Why not just say you will wait till your married? It can be difficult to abstain from sex. But the more you do with each other in the touchy feely catagory, the closer to sex you will be and the harder it will be to stop going further each time! Thats why you stick with hand holding and a smooch or two! It is very frustrating to get worked up and stop going any further time after time! It is hard to have self control!
2007-08-22 20:26:11 · answer #3 · answered by tpettee 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You've waited this long and gotten through the tough peer pressure years. Stay on course, I believe you can make it until you're married. It's your choice, but I think it will be more rewarding for you on your wedding night.
However, you definately want to make sure you massage the goods to see if he's even "Mr. Right." Marriage is supposed to last a lifetime, with that said, make sure you have a long and grand future. Good Luck!!!
2007-08-22 20:59:51 · answer #4 · answered by Kimberly Sue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll give it to you straight. Sex is great. Really great. However, I value it like you do. I don't like to live with regret and I'm thankful for growing through my experiences, but sex is a gift and meant to be treated as such. It is most glorious in marriage. You've waited this long... this guy has stuck around for this long... why blow it when you're so close? You'll have acheived something so many of us sell ourselves short on. I say stick with your standards and keep your virginity until the day of your vows. Build up the excitement... and when the big day does come... don't be afraid to show your passion and excitement. And hold onto that for the years to come!
2007-08-22 20:33:53 · answer #5 · answered by Ariel Eldad 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
What is it with all these people saying to stay a virgin till you are married? You would think they all walk around with chastity belts on. That being said, do what you want to do, you love each other it isn't a bad thing to express that through the making of love, it will bring you even closer together.
2007-08-22 20:36:04 · answer #6 · answered by grouch2111 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your boyfriend is a lucky man it may not seem like it but you to are lucky he loves you enough to respect your wishes and not make you uncomfortable with your decision. Now this sounds funny to say to the woman you need to take a cold shower and plan the wedding before you burst or do something that both of you will regret
2007-08-22 20:57:38 · answer #7 · answered by heads 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait till you are married....make sure he knows how important it is to you to remain a virgin before marriage.
If you feel like you are getting too "frisky", STOP, tell him you need to leave the room for a moment to "cool" down and get back your senses. If he cares for you and respects you, he will understand and take extra precautions as well, but remember it is harder for guys to curb the "urge", than girls, so don't rely on him to say STOP or you won't make it till marriage!
2007-08-22 20:30:50 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. CT 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh you have waited this long...wait a little longer until your wedding night! It will be soooo wonderful if you do and you will give yourself a precious gift that most of us rob ourselves of. If you are serious about waiting...however long, don't put yourself in a position to be tempted. Don't be alone with him. Have bounderies about touching. Try to do things where you will be with other people.
2007-08-22 20:32:44 · answer #9 · answered by hooahwife 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
do nothing... he can't force u to do anything he wants.. no one can... its good to note that ur bf isn't pushing the issue at least u know that he respects u so much that he loves u... do nothing... let time do its course.. enjoy each others company... and maybe just maybe.. if ur ready.. then it'll just go smoothly..
2007-08-22 20:27:10 · answer #10 · answered by skeptic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋