My Husband wants to stay together he says he needs counseling and wants to go to couples counseling,but this man has lied to the point where I am emotionally drained he even went so far as to have his friends lie for him only they are about as smart as he is which isnt good.My thing is he lied alot to be with this other woman and that to me says he wanted to be with her he did anything to get out of the house to see her and disrespected not just me but our babies gone for days at a time no phone call or anything I did my part so why should I stick it out with him,he still resents his ex wife for what she did to him she treated him like he was beneath a pile of dog crap now he finally admits that he needs help and I dont understand just what am I supposed to do I have done my part and I have paid for what she did to him many many times and they were divorced 4 years before I met him my heart says leave what should I do?????
2007-08-22 19:28:52 · 5 answers · asked by CaliMa 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Also may I add that he decided he needed help AFTER he got busted i confronted him many many times and he denied doing anything so then I purchased and downloaded Webwatcher and caught his A S S redhanded and I logged into his myspace page and his jaw dropped.So he lied until he couldnt lie anymore and myself and the pther lady both confronted him and all he could do was look stupid.
2007-08-22 19:33:51 · update #1
typo other
2007-08-22 19:34:11 · update #2
OUR BABIES ARE NOW 8 MONTHS OLD AND I AGREE WITH ALL OF YOU POSTERS THANKS ALOT.
2007-08-23 05:39:29 · update #3
Personally, I wouldn't wait around for the next set of lies! If he goes by himself and proves to you he is seeking professional help, the best I would give him is a maybe. This is after HE moves out! I have a feeling you don't know the full truth about him and his 1st wife, unless you actually spoke with her yourself. His actions have spoke for him already-loud and clear!! You deserve better than this out of life!! Dysfunctional is not healthy for your children, they soak everything up like a sponge. They are the most important things in both of your lives, for them-make the right decisions. They see, and hear everything-believe me, but you cannot control how they truly take it into their little minds and conceive it.
2007-08-22 20:10:34 · answer #1 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are like rehab, you can go but you're not going to stop until you are serious and ready. When it gets to the point that you have to buy devices to catch him cheating, or even catching him in the first place is a huge red flag. Marriage isn't perfect. It's not what you see in TV and movies. Its hard work. Infidelity happens. Everyone says "Ooohh I would leave them in a heartbeat". But once yu have established a life together, created a family, invested time and its not so east to shut the door. HOWEVER, you can't be a one man band either. To deal with infidelity over and over again is blatantly disrepectful, and he really doesn't care. Home is comfortable...a cheater always needs "home". He'll say anything so that you will maintain that haven for him. Once it gets to this point, its pretty bad. I say walk, because there is a good chance its going to continue and you dont deserve to have your self-esteem and confidence brought down by someone who doesnt really care.
2007-08-23 02:51:24 · answer #2 · answered by jane d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your heart,If he had no more respect for you and your children than to leave you guys for days at a time,he is not going to change.Your just going to end up getting hurt more and more and he is using his ex-wife as an excuse for the things he does,But noone can tell you what to do because it is you that has to live with him and when you have had enough you will make your decission.Follow your Heart!
2007-08-23 02:37:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt believe a thimg he says to because he is a big liar and cheat also just get read of him before he does it again and again you deserve better in your life than a cheater and also a liar
2007-08-23 02:53:10 · answer #4 · answered by harold gardner1946 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the only reason that God gives for divorce. Cheaters never tell the truth if they don't have too.
2007-08-23 03:31:21 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋