everyone keeps saying hes not ready wait for him. I need to know how can we agree when we WILL be ready i really want to have a baby he said we would but then i ask him to not "be safe" and he says NO so how do we get to that point
2007-08-22 17:58:12 · 7 answers · asked by Tifferlily 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I answered you last time and my answer hasn't changed, the fact that you are pushing it so hard suggests that you don't understand the signifigance of it all and are, as a result, not ready to be a mother. stop pushing or you will mess up your relationship.
2007-08-22 18:03:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
O.k. I think that you need to relax a bit. When he says that he is not ready, I am sure that he doesn't mean that he will never be ready. Why don't you ask him this question? Or ask him when he might be ready. I am sure that he already knows how you feel. Take it easy, it will come, soon enough. I suggest thinking about your relationship otherwise, are you happy other than this detail? It really sounds that you may be pressuring him into having a child. Are you worried about something else? Do you feel secure in your relationship?
2007-08-23 01:16:46 · answer #2 · answered by Brooke S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pressuring someone is NOT the way to go! He is not ready so if you can't wait for him why don't you just go find a willing donor obviously you'd be raising this child ALONE either way due to the simple fact that YOUR MAN DOES NOT WANT A CHILD RIGHT NOW! Grow up and wait! He will let you know when he is ready! If you force him he will leave you. Stop trying to control his life. Just because one person is ready does not mean that the other is.
2007-08-23 01:10:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really do have to wait until he is ready or move on. If you force a man into fatherhood they usually resent you for it and it makes matters much worse than they have to be. Give him some time. Let him know how bad you want to be a mother and see if he would be willing to "practice" taking care of another baby. When I wanted a baby my sister let me stay with her for 2 wks to watch her kids to make sure i really wanted 1. Is he scared? Has he told you why he wants to wait? It is all about open communication and compromise.
2007-08-23 01:14:02 · answer #4 · answered by momof3boys 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first answer is right, you shouldn't plan to bring a child into the world, when you know your partner isn't ready.
Talk to him. Ask him why now isn't the time. Ask him what he needs for it to be right. Ask him when it will be. And if not happy with the answers, it may be time to do one of two things - re-evaluate what you want from your relationship, or end it to hopefully find someone who wants what you do.
2007-08-23 01:08:19 · answer #5 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very frustrating. Guys are really scared of being dads, even if they are already (mine is scared now with our 2nd). This can really get you depressed and anxious. I seriously suggest buying a puppy or some kind of dependent pet. It will partially satisfy your need to nurture. Let him surprise you when he is ready, he may be waiting to tell you on a special occasion.
2007-08-23 01:30:18 · answer #6 · answered by *Cara&Brian* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do not bring another baby into this world who is not wanted by his/her father.
2007-08-23 01:02:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋