You met someone, made a new friend, and later this person tells you that they had a sex change.
Would you still see them as the person they ARE, or as the person they USED to be? Meaning...if they look like a guy, but used to be a girl..would you still treat the person as "one of the guys" or would you start acting differently around them, because you now see them as a "girl"?
Same goes for girls that were born as men. If she told you that she used to be a man, would you try to make her "not be a sissy" and expect her to behave like a guy, or would you still treat her like a girl, and for example: hold doors open for her, lift heavy things for her, ect?
This is for a project I'm working on in college for our equality alliance. This semester's focus is on transgender education. I am also a transsexual myself.
2007-08-22 14:27:57 · 7 answers · asked by I_color_outside_the_lines 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I had a friend at work who was transgendered. Other people had gossiped about her to me before I ever met her, but I tend to reserve judgement about people until I have met them and gotten to know them. After awhile, I made friends with her. I never tried to make her act like anything other than who she was. She used to call me to ask for advice. Some of it made me uncomfortable, but she needed a friend and I legitimately tried to give advice, though I could never put myself in her position.
2007-08-22 14:45:43 · answer #1 · answered by Candidus 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It would take an adjustment period for me, but I think that since I had only know that person as the gender they were when we met that I would continue to think of them as that gender.
In my book, transgender or not, she is still a lady and I would treat her as such. Or he is still a guy and I would treat him in the same manner as I had always treated him.
Honestly it would be a little odd at first and I would feel a bit awkward because I would be concerned about saying something inane as am occasionally wont to do. But once I made the mental adjustment I would continute to treat them just as I had before.
2007-08-25 23:28:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened with me twice, with friends of mine. One, we were all shocked, because she looked so feminine (albeit rather tall and angular). The other, my friend and I were like, "Well, that explains why we think she looks a little off." But in general, I tend to see people as they are now, not how they used to be. I try to give them whatever help they need whenever I can, too.
2007-08-23 09:23:39 · answer #3 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From personal experience, I found it impossible to see the person as the gender they had been born. I could only see them as the person they were.
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2007-08-23 19:29:53 · answer #4 · answered by Danger OReilly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would treat them the way they were when i met them because they chose to change you shouldn't treat them as they were you should treat as they are now
2007-08-22 21:34:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as they don't push it on me or try to give some stupid story why they did it I don't care at all.
2007-08-22 21:35:09 · answer #6 · answered by tercentenary98 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
id be glad they were honest about it, and id see them for who they are, bacause they are not that person anymore...
2007-08-23 11:05:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋