What's a suitable age for truly knowing your sexuality?

Question

I can say with confidence at 15 years old that I do like guys and not girls. I doubt it's going to change. I'm reading on here that as a teenager, many people are confused about their sexuality (with the hormones going crazy and all). When can you say you were 100 percent sure of your sexuality?

Mr. Jello, here's a little something I'd like tell you.
"Never underestimate a kid."

For one, I can't take you seriously since you have a box of jello as your avatar. It shows that your mentality isn't much past that. I don't have a job-- but I have fixed over a good 30 computers with my knowledge of hardware, viruses, and spyware. I am better than any GeekSquad agent you'll ever meet. Although I am not certified as anything, doesn't mean I can't have a great knowledge or expertise in an area. And I don't take care of myself? Well you know nothing about my life. I'm responsible for myself, Mr. Jello. I'm the reason that anything actually happens in my life. I hit puberty a few years ago... you act like I have no self-control. Well, unfortunately, you are wrong there to. I took this on a personal level when you said "I'm not laughing at you." because you know everything prior to that you said to be a jerk.

Answer 1

i started questioning my sexuality at 15 and i hid it until i was 16 when i was sure but i still didn't really tell anyone. I came out later that year a few months after by 16th birthday to my best friend and hey lets say that we're way more than best friends now...so you should feel free to question your sexuality don't let anyone tell you how you feel...and when you know you just kinda know and the realization might not come for a while but if that's the way its suppose to be it will be just be patient and act on how you feel age shouldn't be factor.

Answer 2

I'm not sure you ever can because sexuality isn't such a concrete thing. I knew I wanted to have sex with girls when I was around ten and that hasn't changed. But in that time I've also become attracted to men in a way I wasn't then. There are BDSM things that turn me on that didn't when I was a young teenager and there are fantasies that were really hot for me when I was younger that I don't really think about now. Sometimes I find I'm more attracted to women than men and sometimes it evens out. Depending on what part of me is up some things can turn me on a lot that repulse me at other times.

But that doesn't mean I don't think you should respect anyone who says there orientation is whatever when they say it is. I tend to hear the "it's a phase" stuff from homophobic straight people who are trying to convince young people they're not queer. The twelve year old who says he's gay IS gay just like the twelve year old who says he's straight IS straight. If that changes later that doesn't make that any less true.

People change over a lifetime and sometimes that affects sexual orientation. All this only matters in a homophobic, biphobic and transphobic society like ours.

Answer 3

I think for most people it's when they hit puberty or teen years. But a lot of people know when they are five years old or so too. You know whenever you start being attracted to other people and it's the same sex. If you are truly attracted to that gender, it's not a phase (like trying to be cool or rebellious).


Also, I don't think it's right that people underestimate teenagers or kids. When you get older, they seem so small, but when you are that age you feel just as real as adults. And lots of teenagers are smarter and more productive than adults. so age has nothing to do with it. haha it annoys the hell out of me.

Answer 4

In a way any age is suitable as people realise at different ages - some may realise at 7 or in thier teens or a lot older, I don't think that there's a specific age when people know though
I was 17ish

Answer 5

I think it depends on your environment, when you finally get puberty, and there are probably other factors.
I'm fifteen, and I am still unsure, and there may be people younger than me that are, and people older than me that aren't.
Sexuality is mostly a gray area, and it can change. You don't really have to be sure you like this gender or that.

Answer 6

Dear friend why do you need to define yourself as gay or straight. most of us have some feelings for both sexes. but a preference for one. Throughout your life you may enjoy the company of all diff rent types of people. Don't exclude one whole gender by saying you are gay. maybe some day you will want to say it but most of us are more opportunist and would enjoy a person we have close at hand who we view as attractive and who is willing to share an experience together.. Enjoiy all people some more then others but don't close yourmind by saying you are gay or straight.

Answer 7

I really think it depends on the person. I'm almost 16 and I know that I'm gay (and out). For me, I knew that I liked boys at about age 12 (ish) but I have heard that some people dont realize until they are in their late teens. I think that because everyone just assumes that people are straight, even gay people think they are at one time, so I think it just depends on when that person realizes that they are different.

Answer 8

I think it depends on the person... it's like you knew inside when you were young, but once you hit puberty, you start to find your true self =] I think you're 100% sure at 14...

Answer 9

Often times u can never be 100% sure but I'd say 15+ one can have a good about who they like and why.

Answer 10

I was around 15 when I realized that about myself too, I wasn't ready to be open about it, but I definitively realized it by then.

It all depends on the person though.