my boyfriend hit me while we where drinking?

Question

ok so we been together for almost 4 years .he gets really pissed if i wake him up while he is sleeping ..so we where drunk and he was kinda passed out and i will admit that i was trying to get him annoyed or get a rise out of him .i kept snatching the covers off him like 7 times after he kept telling me to stop .he gets up and gives me 3 light punches on my shoulder .it didnt bruise and it didnt hurt at all but im upset ..i havent picked up his calls all day today and he hasnt even said sorry ..he says that its my fault because i kept f*cking with him ..he hasnt ever hit me but im upset that he wont even say his sorry ..im i in the wrong ?i dont want to break up with him but i dont want to just pick up the phone and talk to him .his gonna think everything is okay and he can do that again ..if we just started going out i wouldnt take this but 3 years is kinda long so i dont know ..any advice would be good .

Answer 1

If he's doing this to you before you're married, what would stop him from opening a can of "kick your butt" if/when you ever decide to get married? If you don't think it'll last until marriage and beyond, then what are you doing with him?

Answer 2

Sounds to me that your Both better off not being involved in an Adult, Mature relationship with each other. Neither one of you has any respect for one anothers raw emotions... He hurt your feelings and scared you emotionally by doing what he did, but did he not have self control over his own reaction? He could have hauled off and hurt you, but he controlled himself and made a point to his disapproval of what you were doing to get your attention. You on the other hand had no respect for his personal privacy, comfort and peace of mind that he in-trusted in you to respect and care for while he was trying to sleep.

Was there anything said or done immediately after the incident? He might not even know that he upset you. Maybe if you own up to your indiscretion and bad judgment and take some responsibility of fault in the situation, he will also.

Your not 12 years old anymore.... your cognoscente of the ramifications of your actions. Be more sensitive to other peoples personal space when they are not fully conscious and can not make quick rational decisions.

Sorry is just a word, Actions speak louder than words. Anyone can say anything, does not mean that they are sincere. Maybe next time you will think twice before you initiate something like this again. Once the action has taken place, it can never be taken back by simple words. You are the antagonist in the situation. You started the whole event to occur. Chalk this up to a learning experience.

Answer 3

Ok, I'm going to get thumbs down for this but whatever. look you were trying to f*ck with him he punched you lightly on the shoulder (as you said) he didn't whip your a** or pound on your face. That's not an abuse of power because he wasn't trying to really hurt you, you probably could've inflicted just as much damage on him. If my husband snatched the covers off me & kept f*cking with me I would punch him too, wouldn't you have too? I think you are taking the "he hit me bullsh*t too far" There are women out there getting the sh*t kicked out of them by their old man & you know that if a girl says some crap like this everyone will always take their side. You were not abused, get real, get over it.

Answer 4

Hmm, I'm not sure.
Really, though, no one has the right to hit you. Even if they're drunk. And especially if he was drunk, he should have said sorry. Even if you were bothering him, he has no right to hit you.
3 years is a long time, but you never know.
Ask him to apologize. If he doesn't, well, I don't know. Try talking to your friends or your mom or something.

Answer 5

It is hard to give advise on this.All I can really say is I know a lot of guy's, if they were passed out drunk and somebody kept f*cking with them.It would have been a lot more than 3 light punches.It sounds to me he really loves you.

Answer 6

When your drinking and you want to argue learn to lay down and go to sleep and argue in the morning when you cant remember what you where arguing for anyway. It always works. You wont have a drunk fight that way. Good Luck.

Answer 7

You are no in the wrong, what he did was not right and the fact that he hasn't even said sorry makes me uneasy and he is not even my boyfriend. I think that you should not pick up his calls or even talk to him until he says he is sorry. I hope that everything is all right and that this kinda helped.

Answer 8

he obviously didnt have any intention of hurting you, and he was maybe too drunk to remember. plus with guys sometimes we dont feel like we need to apoligize, especially if it was the other persons fault. you should probably apoligize, then he will most likely say sorry for hitting you. but us guys need our sleep and you did it 7 times. lol your in the wrong.

good luck.

Answer 9

I'm only responding to cheer on some of the other ppls responses.
Terratad, hands down you said it the best
and all of those who said "grow-up and lay off the alcohol"

Answer 10

You know I don't think that anyone has the right to hit anyone. But I myself have been I you situation. Just talk to him and tell him how you feel. Not talking isn't going to help.

Answer 11

Okay, people who hit people who wake them up aren't really what I'd call the most social... Especially if they're in love. If I were you, I'd demand an apology, and if he doesn't give you one, it's time to find someone who won't hit you when you're playing.