I don't know what to do, I want to save our marriage! I love him so much! We've only been married a little over a year. He says he just isn't happy anymore! We are now expecting a little boy due Oct. 4... I want this all to work out!
2007-08-22 13:21:46 · 26 answers · asked by angelalexsgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Take some counseling classes*
2007-08-22 13:25:23 · answer #1 · answered by J 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe separate and give it a little time. He may really come around once the baby is born. But I'm not sure I understand why he's not happy. It's only been a little over a year. I feel very sad for you. You should not be dealing with this now. Was your relationship stable & good before you married? What does he say about the baby coming? Does he still love you? Your marrage is worth saving if he's willing to work at it. You certainly can't do it alone. I would get a lot of family and friend support. You really need it and I wouldn't let him walk away so easily specially when it's only been a little more then a year married. Marriage is very hard and comes with a lot of good and bad times. That was in the vows when he said I do. So he shouldn't be able to just walk away without trying to repair the marriage he chose to make a comitment to. For him to leave is the easy way out and he should be the man of his house and father figure to his beatiful son he helped create. Best of luck to you and your family.
2007-08-23 01:13:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why does he want a divorce? Is he cheating on you?
Tell him okay, go ahead and leave and see what he does. Stop being clingy and needy and become distant and unconcerned. Find something else to do. Don't call after him, don't look for him, when he comes home act like you hardly notice and don't ask him where he has been. He is too sure about you. It might be the hardest thing you ever did but when he is not so sure about you, he will become the insecure one. He will come around to find out why you are not insecure anymore.
You will be amazed how well this works, if you can be strong and hold out. Give him no attention. You can do it.
2007-08-23 03:47:31 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well there's not much you can do if he doesn't want to be with you anymore. Sometimes you just have to let situations like this run it's course. Have you ever considered that he may have found someone else who's probably the source of all this callousness he's now exhibiting? Just let him be, you could try talking to him again, but all the begging and pleading in the world is not going to change anything cause once his mind is made up, that's it. And if you're thinking that using your expectant baby as bait to reel him back in may work, don't cause he'll only resent you later for it. Let him be the one to realise that giving you up will be a mistake, let him be the one to apologize, let him be the one to take responsibility for his actions by admitting he was wrong if not, you're going to hurt in ways you've never imagined especially now that you're trying so hard.
2007-08-22 21:27:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's a LOT of stress you are both under. A baby on the way is clearly something of joy but also a time of doubt and stress. Why doubt? Well, I know what I'd be thinking: can we afford this baby? can I take care of this child and my partner? are things moving too fast? what if I am not a good parent?
so many things to think about can easily overwhelm a person. find out why he feels he needs to leave. it's a cry for help and you need each other now more than ever.
2007-08-26 19:54:21 · answer #5 · answered by brilliantyetconfused 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about your problems.
I know you are on an emotional roller coaster right now but you MUST follow a few basic rules.
First of all, he needs to go. This will be best for you and especially for the baby. Make sure you get him for all of the child support you can.
Next, look to your family for support during these times. Don't be afraid to move back home if you can.
Love is a two party verb. If you care for him but he doesn't care for you ... no love there. People use this word incorrectly.
Be practical about medical insurance. If you are on his and the baby will be also, take this into consideration before jumping into a divorce.
Good luck.
2007-08-22 20:32:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You poor thing, I'm really sorry to hear that shame on your husband for wanting a divorce.When i found out i was preg.we had been married for 9 months. We wasn't getting along to well but when i told him i was preg. he picked me up and swung me around and said i can't believe it, he put his hand on my stomach and after that we were find that was 28 years ago.The first year is the hardest only because you two ain't use to being around each other 24/7.The baby will wake him up and don't worry he 's not going anywhere.
2007-08-22 20:47:55 · answer #7 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a tough nut. In general, I would not expect a marriage in this state of disrepair to survive, but clearly you should make some attempts; start by attempting to determine what more specifically is making him unhappy about things. Then you will be in a better position to judge whether the marriage is salvageable.
2007-08-22 20:28:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Omg, this happened to me. I left him, after about 4 months he came back to me saying he was stupid and he missed me and all of that. I loved him VERY much before I left I did everything I could to save that marriage, but in the end all it took for him to want me back was to act like I didn't give a damn anymore. Give him that attitude and i'm sure he'll see things differently.
2007-08-22 20:35:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
OMG my heart goes out to you!!! just do everything you can to talk and communicate with each other! because the best time of the two of your lives is about to happen in OCT!!!! You need to ask him what is making him not happy anymore. The BEST of luck to ya girl!!! Take care of yourself and the little one!!!!
2007-08-22 20:40:16 · answer #10 · answered by sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why does he want a divorce? The whole "he just isn't happy anymore" is crap. Suggest marriage counseling to him. And if he doesn't want to go, you go anyway. Maybe they can give you a more detailed plan to help both of you acheive happiness. If you are uncomfortable with a counsler, try talking to your religous leader(minster, paster). Remember God doesn't give us what we can't handle.
2007-08-22 20:31:17 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋