My friend and I have been friends for 6 years and we dated for about 2 months last Nov. and Dec. and he decided that he didn't want to remarry (he's quite a bit older than I am....I'm 27) so we decided to just be friends again. I've wondered why he's never made an effort to introduce me to his friends and last night I asked him when I was going to meet them. He said that if he brought me around, that would look like we were dating. I said it wouldn't and he would introduce me as his friend. I could tell he didn't know what to say and so he finally said "Hmm...I'll have to think about that." Of course, I know that means that I won't be meeting them, but is that something that is a dealbreaker in terms of the friendship? If he's somehow embarrassed by me (for whatever reason), then why are we even friends in the first place? These friends of his, some are my age and he talks about them all the time. Can the friendship be salvaged at this point? I almost feel disrespected by him.
2007-08-22 12:51:12 · 1 answers · asked by First Lady 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Either you accept the level of friendship that he is willing to give you, which does not include being introduced to his friends, or you do not. It depends how much you value what you have together. To me, it seems petty to insist on being included when he obviously wants to keep these friends separate. Compartmentalizing your friendships allows all sorts of freedoms that an interconnected web does not. Surely you have friends outside your relationship to him. Let him have his privacy. He'll introduce you in his own time.
2007-08-22 13:08:03 · answer #1 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋