My uncle and aunt are about to get divorced. They have been married for almost 24yrs and have 3 boys. The youngest is just heading out to college. My aunt had an affair, which had been going on for at least a year, and is now moved out. My uncle didn't ever beat her, cheat on her, etc. My concern is that she is going to be getting 50% of everything, even though she is the one who had the affair. I don't know if they have a prenuptial agreement, but I was wondering if there was anyway to help my uncle keep most of everything. He was supose to be retiring in 1.5yrs, but now can't because she is going to take half of his retirement. What advice, arguement in his defense, etc. can you give me so I can help this wrong situation become right?
2007-08-22 12:47:02 · 5 answers · asked by Lissa Ann 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In a divorce, it doesn't matter who did what in affairs, it's usually split 50/50, that is unless they had a prenup or he is rich enough to hire a top notch lawyer. I know it's not fair for your uncle to loose half after he was faithful but that's the way the law works.
2007-08-22 13:04:45 · answer #1 · answered by Needtoknow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. It's none of your business.
2. It's up to your uncle and his lawyer.
3. It was going to be half hers whether they divorce or not because that money was going to have to support them both until they die anyway. Nothing's changed just because of a divorce financially for your uncle. If he doesn't still have enough money now, then he didn't have enough before he decided to get divorced.
4. She stayed with him for 24 years and accumulated and contributed to the household so she deserves her half.
5. This is not a wrong situation, this is a normal situation.
An affair is not a cause, it's a symptom. Obviously there were issues going on in their marriage that your uncle chose to ignore and so the wife had an affair to deal with it. It's really none of your business.
2007-08-22 12:53:22 · answer #2 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The best advice is for you to stay out of it. It truly is none of your business and you do not know all that went on behind closed doors. Everyone paints a bad picture of the other spouse when going through a divorce and a rosy one of themself. Offer compassion without judgement and that's it. He has to deal with the rest of it on his own.
2007-08-22 13:09:55 · answer #3 · answered by James Watkin 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sadly...there isnt alot that can be done. Thats the deal when you get married...50/50.
2007-08-22 12:50:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He can ask that she have to pay him because SHE is the one who cheated. He should also say that he now has to get an STD test to make sure he doesn't have anything and that SHE should pay for it.
2007-08-22 12:51:30 · answer #5 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋