Scared incase I die alone.?

Question

Im 28 and gay I live in Scotland. I'm not the most attractive guy around, but I have had my fair share of Boyfriends. Most of who cheated on me. I'm not a bad person, I'm clean, not rude and get on well with all walks of life.

If I could take a pill to make me straight I probably would. I sometimes hate being associated with camp steriotypes.

I have been beaten up a few times because of my sexuality but I never flaunt it. I beleive the people that flaunt it are the reason people like me get beaten up.

I dunno. I'm upset and alone.

Will I die alone?

Answer 1

Wow... this is creepy. I was thinking the same today... I'm 24 and I was also thinking "I'm not going to find anyone who I'd like to share my life with. Soon I'll be 40, old and ugly, and I won't have anybody. I'm going to die alone and pathetic".

But you know what - that is not attractive! We need to pull ourselves together. Sure, life isn't easy for ANYONE - we all have it hard in a way or another. Actually, if life was easy, what would be the fun of it (I'm not talking about people with serious problems like hunger - that's a completely different issue).

I understand the problem of Scotland. I live in Portugal and it has some homophobic issues as well. It is getting better, but homosexuals here are too... flaming for my taste. Not only that, but because of the mentality here, they all hang out in specific closed bars that makes it sound really promiscuous. I'm really just looking for someone who really means something.

So, if you are feeling sad, it's simple to solve it - raise your head, smile towards adversity and see life for the wonder it is - a really tough journey where your spirit will determine the outcome! Face it head on, believe in your own will and believe this - a nice, clean guy who's had his fare share of boyfriends can't die alone, it just doesn't make sense, does it?

If you feel alone, just IM me. I'll give you some lifting tips for your spirit so you can smile and chase after that rainbow!

Answer 2

You are probably right, but flamboyants gays do a lot for us as well soooo.

With the internet you can live anywhere and be connected to everyone in the world. Yeah you could move and make a few straight people go I told you so or you can just suck it up and not give a ****. There are tons of chat rooms, etc. where you can stay connected and not feel isolated from what makes you comfortable.

I think you are suffering from the self loathing attitude because you are tired of the same old thing. Just let loose, take a trip for a while, and don't let all this stuff drag you down.

The only reason you are getting beat up is you are an easy target is all. Surround yourself with friends, move, or protect yourself (pepper spray, baseball bat, bull whip). Call the police if you feel threatened and if that doesn't work then go over their heads. I live in a very rural area and although I don't feel threatened, living somewhere where you feel safe makes a huge difference.

I doubt Scotland is that isolated but probably it is somewhat. I would stay put and just let them languish in their own hatred.

Answer 3

You're 28, you haven't even lived half of your life. You still have atleast 4 more decades to find someone. It's not like time is running out quickly or something. You'll find someone decent in good time :)

And for the beating up part, you should report hate crimes to the police since monsters like that should be in prison. No one under any circumstances should be attacked for simply being who they are and in the UK you're protected by Hate Crime Laws.

*Edit* and that guy at the top is right!! You need to travel because your accent will give you an advantage over other guys here :P Come to America!!! :D

Answer 4

Life is always up and down , there is no change. Being straight does not make things neccessarilly easier, or even rich for that fact. Life may hit its bad spots and trust me i know but you just have to get on with it and be grateful there is another day. Sure we may die alone , but we are remembered and have someone around that remembers and does care no matter the case. I go to temple everyweek and give offerings to the monks at the nearest Thai or Lao temple. Ive also been a monk myself also in my youth. No one is never alone. We are always looked over by some higher power rather we are good or bad. We just need to know that things change day to day and there is always some shining light.

Answer 5

You're not the only one to have that concern, guy. I live alone, so the only benefit of friends is that they eventually miss me and come to discover my body. I thought I had it made when I tried to latch on to a married couple, a paramedic and an RN, but they wouldn't follow through. So every ache or pain scares the daylights out of me. But the sun always manages to come up the next day.

You're probably suffering from depression. You should see your doctor for a check up and maybe an antidepressant.

Other than that, just keep your social life active, join several clubs, church, etc. The people in your life don't all have to be gay, you know.

Answer 6

Huh, ok, why the 21st? Why not the 12/12/12? With all due respect, the world was supposed to end back in March. Before that, the moment the clocks struck 12 on 1999/2000. It didn't happen. There isn't really anything we can give you to help you with your anxiety, except tell you to wait it out and see that it won't happen for yourself. I suggest in the meantime that you go to your doctor and ask if there's any help he can give you with this anxiety. The Mayan calendar could have finished there for a number of reasons. To assume we have all parts of their calendar is ridiculous, just as is assuming they could have predicted anything. We can barely predict the weather, and look at all the technology we have.

Answer 7

Young man... you may not always be able to find exactly the person you want... but you can ALWAYS find the person who wants YOU.

Loosen-up a little; expand your parameters; look in places you've not looked before. Most ALL older gay guys would dote-on a younger gay dude, such as yourself.

Take a look for some older gay guys (silverdaddies). They will appreciate you and give you attention like you may have never yet experienced.

Answer 8

My goodness - you're only 28 years old and have your whole life ahead of you. I'm sorry that you've experienced discrimination - you sound like a caring and sensitsive person. Don't give up - there are lots of wonderful people out there and I'm sure you will find someone you can share your life with.

Answer 9

Most of us die alone although some have family around us. I know that this may seem harsh but dead is dead. It is the living alone that is hard. I hope that you find that special person but it is hard. All I can say is that if you wanat a friend, you have to be a friend and that you have to kiss a lot of frogs before one turns into your Prince Charming.

Good Luck!

Answer 10

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Best of luck.