Just needing to vent.?

Question

Last night my husband wants me to scramble him some eggs. And I'm all excited because we're newly married and I've been practicing on making omeletes and wanted to try it out instead....Well, he says to me I didn't ask you to do what you wanted to do...I want my eggs scrambled...So we get into this arguement over all things "Eggs!" So, I tell him my feelings were a little hurt because I was just trying to suprise him with something new! And he tells me he doesn't understand that and if he tells me he wants scrambled then that's what he wants..ok then on another note,,,, I have this real issue because he is a manager at his job and his co-workers call and text him all time of night! One person in particular is this lady..She calls and text him sometime at 1 in the morning! And I tell him that I feel disrespected because why would she feel like she could call him so late when she knows he's married! I'm just venting and thought I'd share......

Answer 1

Next time he asks for scrambled eggs do it then walk out pour the eggs over his head and lap and say there you go sir would you like sauce and bread and butter with that or would you prefer toast?

Answer 2

The eggs I could argue either way. You knew he asked for scrambled so maybe that's what he should've gotten. On the other hand he could've fixed them himself. Or how about this, when he asked for scrambled maybe you should've said hey sweety I just learned how to make omelets would you like to try one? If he says ok great if he says no then go with the scrambled. the phone calls and texts, that's bs. They need to stop unless it's an emergency. My dad has been a manager and a supervisor for 40 years and the only time he gets a call is when it's an emergency or his assistant isn't sure how to do something and the only time he gets a call at 1 am is when the alarm goes off at the store.

Answer 3

Tell him that an omelette IS scrambled eggs, just in a neater form and shape.
Tell him that you have his cell phone after 9 p.m. and you will answer it for him. If he's in a data processing job, then he can keep his cell phone - there may be a computer operator who happens to be a woman and she does have crises to deal with at one in the morning. But if he's a manager of a gift card shop and the person who is calling him at 1 about business is a woman, tell him you are going to be the assistant who handles his calls and you can tell her it can wait until the next work day.

Answer 4

I'll agree with one and disagree with another... If he wants his eggs scrambles, then scramble them... the skank needs to stop texting... the next time there is a text at 1 am, I'd get the phone call her back and in the most sexy voice say, "I'm sorry, my husband is a bit busy right now, if you know what I mean, but I'll make sure to pass on the message to him in the morning... " Oh and I would sigh at the end... LOL....

Answer 5

April...

It's truly sad that your new found marriage is becoming a new found nightmare...! Unfortunately, most all people never truly know the one they marry until they live with them...

Your husband's actions certainly are not providing the ingredients of a happy relationship. As his work position is a position of power, it would seem natural he would play the same role in his personal life as well. Obviously that seems to be happening even now...

Yet, a real man will distingquish and separate his personal life form his work and provide for his married life independently so. Obviousy, that seems not to be happening even now...

Your alternatives are very limited, April, and you must ask of yourself where you want to be five years from now and is it possible to be there...

If you cannot reason with him well enough for change then it is obvious his power syndrone problem requires professional help and I rather doubt he will find that entertaining either... Instead, it may well lead to abuse...!

As for the late calls, it is not unusual for night shift personnel to call a manager if he had recommended it. However, constant calls may well have more reason than he leads you to believe...

Talk to him, April, and state your case before his ways become the only way. Otherwise, you will be his servant as well as his wife...

Meanwhile, DO NOT get pregnant...that will make matters worse, I assure you. Correct existing problems before beginning others...

Good luck, April...

Answer 6

I'm sure you're just excited about being married and starting a new life with someone. Just keep in mind that even though something is exciting for you to learn, it might not be for someone else. Maybe your new husband isn't fond of omelettes? Not everyone likes them.

As for the employees calling and texting frequently, that's common for managers to have to put up with. Especially if it's a retail business. A lot of managers work 10-20 hours more a week then they're paid for. Now if the text messages and calls aren't work related, then he needs to put a stop to the ones that make you uncomfortable.

Answer 7

The best way to handle this one is to have guys do the same thing to you.. Like this he can feel your hurt first hand.. Some times in life we don't know how it feels till we feel it for our own self's. Don't tell him how would he feel because that never works, it just them angry and that is not what your trying to accomplish. If you don't start teaching him that there are certain things that you just can't put up with, believe me he will start to push the envelope even more.. Right now he is testing you and like a kid is seeing how much he can get away with.. Remember to feel the burn he must feel the burn. Don't let things get broken, prevent it now. What your husband did about he eggs is mean and cruel, he could have said, I am sorry honey i don't like eggs like like that...

I say that only because there are some people who can't stand the yolk. About that woman, dang, i don't mean to put distrust in your heart but your husband is the one that has allowed that to happen and he thinks he can use manager as an excuse.. NONONO!

Answer 8

ok first off it must be the weather because your not the only one going through this my husband has a girl at work that is also married and though it was ok to text him at 12:30am with ???!! and that was it when I confronted him on it he said it was something that was dealing with work and I deleted the first one so not to cause a problem. it's crazy I confronted her as well and told that there are boundries and that a 12:30 text message is a booty call and that he is a married man with children and when he is home that is our time and she told me that she was very sorry and that it was purely platonic. my husband and I have been together for 10 years and married for 9 at the end of this month. I hope that helps to know that your not alone...

Answer 9

You need to stand your ground right now that the marriage is fresh. You do need to set ground rules. There is not question that it is disrespectful. I definitely would have some words for my husband if some woman was calling at 1 am. I am sure he wouldn't like it if it was you who was receiving the call. This woman is not respecting your marriage! Your husband should know better. Respect and trust are key in a marriage.

Answer 10

OK Just make what type of eggs he wants.
I think this after hour business stuff needs to stop.
Unless it is an emergency it can wait until morning. You need to ready the policy his company has on calling and txt. Check to see if it is part of his job to take calls that late at night. You need to put your foot down
Start early now.