Being a typical 'confused teen" i'm not yet sure of my sexual orientation. I find Certain celebrities like Zac Efron and Alex Pettyfer extremely attractive but i'm not sure if i'm gay or straight. I feel gay people should have as many rights as anyone else. Can someone give me some tips to help me determine my sexual orientation. I'm not really sexually atrracted to either sex unless i find them exrtremely appealing. Help me!
2007-08-22 11:29:31 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I don't know about anyone else, but that's how it started for me (me finding out). I saw a Calvin Klein model and thought that he was pretty hot when I was 13, but nothing sexual about it. Then I started losing interest in girls, but didn't have any interest in guys either. But slowly I found guys hotter and girls less hot and then when I was 15 (took a while) I realised I was gay :) I prefer guys (obviously) but I can also appreciate a hot or attractive girl, just that there's very little desire to sleep with her....
2007-08-22 12:20:56 · answer #1 · answered by Christian 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ay 15 or 16 you don't need a label. Why put yourself in a box with all the expectations that entails? You are a sexual being, beginning to explore and understand your sexuality. So explore it. If you find men attractive, fine. If you find women attractive, also fine. If you find them both attractive, still fine. This does not mean you are gay, straight or bisexual, it just means you are human.
If you find you need a label later on then you will know which one suits you. No-one else can do this for you. In the meantime, have fun and find out. It is all part of growing up.
Remember, however, that at your age sex is illegal - even consensual sex. There will be no problems if you do it with people your own age but an older man or woman will be in very serious trouble if they have sex with you. Please be careful.
2007-08-22 11:43:39 · answer #2 · answered by tentofield 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't EVER see what she looks like. For some reason women build up this image of the other woman in their minds. You have to know if you are prettier or is she prettier. Let me tell you, that is a total waste of time and something you need NOT do. You can NOT compare yourself to other women. You are being totally insecure right now. You are letting this other woman have control. You are the WIFE, she is the OTHER WOMAN. You have all of the control. So take back control. All women are pretty in their own way. She is pretty, you are pretty. There is no need to compare because there are probably things about her that are better but don't forget YOUR qualities that give you the upper hand. I think you need to give your husband a break. I know this is hard to do. But, he could have been just having one more fling before getting married. He may have been drinking, she may have pressured him. It was a mistake. As long as he is sorry and you feel like he is committed now, forgive him and let it go. How do you think the other woman will like that one. :) But, since you know he has this in his past, you have to be watchful of his future behaviors. He better be willing to be totally 100% reliable and reachable. You have to make the rules about what you want in the relationship. You are in control. I say give him a chance, but be extremely watchful. And DON'T think about the other woman. It will only haunt you. You need to build yourself up and realize you are a pretty darn good woman yourself!
2016-05-20 02:33:16 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who knows? Everyone is different and you just need to let things sort themselves out. The fact that you are a 15-year old only attracted to extremely good looking people suggests that you may be a bit conflicted about your feelings--most guys your age are pretty sexual. Congratulations on being open minded--that will undoubtedly help.
That said...statistically I think the chances are high that you are gay. I think it's somewhat less likely that you are bi, but of course you are a person, not a statistic.
You are young--enjoy yourself, have fun, and experiment.
2007-08-22 11:48:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel... I felt like that around 13-14. Now I'm 15. If you really want to determine who you are-- look at it the opposite way. Could you ever see yourself dating a girl? Do you find them sexually attractive? I don't at all... but I do like guys. Although I may not be 100 percent sure, I deep down know think I am. I know I don't like girls, but I like guys. At the end of your question I'm seeing you may be just full of lust-- only like people that are really appealing. Give it some time. Maybe your bi.
2007-08-22 12:25:03 · answer #5 · answered by Random person 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know when your 15 like me choosing yor sex is very hard but you know what it doesn't matter which ever sex you feel comfortable go out with go out with because right know we are in a phase were we don't have to know if were gay or straight like me I had that sme qustion running throw my mind i right now am bi becuase I have a great sexual attraction to women and men email if you want to talk :)
2007-08-24 01:34:12 · answer #6 · answered by tims122000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had an extremely attracted to the guys, and no other feeling to the girls, then you're considering as a gay guy. This is very simple, it nothing to be confusing.
2007-08-22 11:49:45 · answer #7 · answered by Nam D. 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're bisexual, if not bicurious..
What I keep telling people like you, in this situation, is to experiment. But not sexually. Practice being physically and emotionally close to the sex you think you prefer more.... But don't pass up experimenting with both.
Being bisexual doesn't mean you like bothes sexes equally.
I'm bisexual but I only very rarely find girls that fit my physical and personal type.
2007-08-22 11:36:53 · answer #8 · answered by Ethen 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2007-08-22 11:38:48 · answer #9 · answered by inactive account 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yeah, im a bit confused atm too. i say im bi so i can keep all my options open. not do anything drastic yet. im 16.
and i dont know who those people are that you just said, but gays should have as many rights as others.
just experiment how you want and see what you like. you have to figure it out and decide for yourself
2007-08-22 11:35:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋