Do women ask too much from men in romantic relationships?

Question

This is from another poster.. very interesting and I agree:

"Who knows. This is probably why a lot of men use women for "one-night-stands" or for sex. It's easier for a man to simply not put up with her drama, emotions, gossip, non-stop-talking, jealousies, and insecurities that all come along with being in an "intimate" relationship. It's unfortunate if the woman wants the intimate relationship and not just the sex, while the man just wants the sex. But in cases where the woman doesn't mind -- then who's complaining?"


I agree... Most women are very difficult in relationships. I have never had a long-term girlfriend because once the relationship gets serious.. the woman becomes a full-time job. Its just too much sometimes.

Why do women ask so much from men? Why are you almost never satisfied no matter what? Why don't you realize that this is BAD and should be changed?

Men ask a lot? What? Like what? What do men ask for.. besides sex and kindness?

Answer 1

I should copy this answer that I post so that I don't have to rewrite it all of the time.

Men tend to see women as they are or as the person they present themselves as being. Men don't tend to mind if the woman changes to become more than this over time, just as long as the woman they knew at the the beginning still remains a part of her in some way. So, when the woman changes so completely from the woman she once was, or the man finds out that the woman he thought she was, the woman she presented herself as, was mostly an act, then he becomes frustrated or angered.

Women tend to see the man as what he could be or as they wish him to become. So women tend not to see the man as he truly is at the time, but what he might potentially be, and this view of him continues until he either becomes that or not. Since they never accepted the man for his true self but rather for some illusion of him, then they are constantly and continually frustrated and angered when he presents himself as something other than this.

Answer 2

1. Not a Christian- We don't have to agree on every single thing, but she needs to be a believer in Jesus before I'll really consider a relationship 2. Smoking 3. Ultra feminist- By this I mean the man-hating kind. Also any that thinks that only women suffer from stereotypes and "oppressions." 4. Too controlling 5. Being a doormat- I don't want a woman I can walk all over either though. 6. Too emotional- I know most women are more emotional than guys, but too much is a bad thing. 7. Too needy- I don't mind doing things for a woman, but she's gotta know how to do some things herself. 8. Conceited- This shouldn't be a problem with Christians, but, unfortunately, it can be sometimes. 9. Clingy- Give me a little space. 10. Thinks I should pay for everything- Women make money too nowadays. I can put up with a little bit of most of these things. People aren't perfect. But, there's a limit to everything.

Answer 3

Interesting question. Most people have completely unrealistic expectations in relationships.

I had a conversation with my husband earlier today in which he brought up the fact that relationships work better when each person focuses on what they can give to or do for the other. It's about GIVING, not getting.
Most Americans are so self-centered in relationships it is all about what the other person has to offer ME, rather than what can I do for the other person. That's why so many marriages end in divorce, and why so many people simply don't get married in the first place.

As someone who has been married for 20 years, I can tell you, there are going to be times when your needs in a relationship are not being met, even when you are bending over backwards to meet their needs. It's not a 50/50 proposition...You give 100% and your partner gives 100%. Any less and the relationship is doomed to fail.

Answer 4

i agree and disagree.

I dont think ALL women are like this. but then again, i know some are.
i think it works both ways too. some men are very demanding as well, but i wont deny it, so are women. i think the reason is selfishness. some people (SOME) dont see it as a partnership, i think they see it as a way to make themselves feel better, and they feel it is the other persons responsibility to do this.

my boyfriend doesnt see me alot and people say "hes no good, get rid of him, or dump him because hes never there". this is simply not true. they dont see how hard he works, he goes to uni everyday. he works two days a week, he has a very close nit family and goes and looks after his grandmother once a week, he tutors a boy in highschool, and when he does see me, he is the BEST BF i can ever have. ok hes not there all the time, but he looks after me, never treats me bad, never talks to me bad, looks after me when im sick etc etc. i give him the respect back, and dont expect to much of him, he is under enough pressure at it is.

people need to stop thinking about themselves and look through the other persons eyes every once in a while.

Answer 5

Realize that this is not necessarily most women... and actually some MEN ask or expect too much from us... I think the reason that you haven't had a long-term girlfriend is because you're really just anticipating it becoming into a full-time job... You guys can be just as much of a full time job for us too. What should a women expect from a man?? And what exactly do you expect in a relationship with us?

Ex: Can we have close guy friends? Do we have to call in every night? Can we hang out with the girls and party??

Answer 6

Because some women are never satisfied. No matter what anyone does, especially her partner, she will always feel that her happiness is in the hands of others. It will not be until the people in her life give up and get out of their relationships with her that she will realize how much she took and how little she gave.

Answer 7

Here's my problem with men in relationships, they want us to be calm and settle down and not go anywhere and not dress in revealing clothing, but they still want to be able to go out to strip clubs, look at naked women and go out and have fun.


It's so annoying. This is why I'm single. They are all perverted assholes.

Answer 8

Yes, western women have unrealistic expectations of men. Men have unrealistic expectations for attractiveness/thinness in women. This is not true of all women, but the percentage is high, like over half. I wish women (even the ones that aren't this way) could see that this hurts them, too.

Answer 9

oh crap. You can't seriously believe what you just asked. Men like one night stands and short term relationships when they are not ready to commit, not because women ask too much of them. I have dated both kinds of men, the one that was ready to commit and the one who wasn't. Night and day. Mr Commitmentophobe calls last minute for dates, doesn't really care about me just talks about himself all the time, wanted to have sex on the second date and was never reachable. Mr ready to commit: calls when he says he will, very caring and into me, books dates at least days in advance, and we talk about things we don't like instead of say, pulling attitude problems, blaming the other person or just not returning calls. It is really an issue of maturity and some men are still just boys and mature women don't do well with boys in relationships

Answer 10

perhaps they perceive that they are doing so much for their man but he does not appreciate it, & the relationship is unbalanced. (sometime this REALLY does occur, sometimes it's a misperception).

just my opinion about why it might happen in some relationships.