i am veeery shy, some jokes people make at my school seem to me pretty stupid and yet everybody else seems to laugh. i cant focus on anything because im constantly thinking of how i look, what my posture is etc.. so when some1 asks me something they throw me completly off balance. people make me nerveous. i know im not stupid so why dont i get their jokes... it takes a lot for me to be entertained so i try to smile so people dont think im boring. i know im not boring because i talk to myself... whenever theres a mirror my confidence grows.. i am also very lazy which makes me even more unfocused. HELP i just dont know what to do anymore.. i dont think i care about anything other than myself and my own needs...i know im fun because when nobody is around thats the real time i let my true self out. i wish i was like that aroun other people but im too busy worring about what their opinions of me are and that stops me. please help me out. any suggestions??
2007-08-22 11:23:29 · 8 answers · asked by sharon51591 2 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
and i dont think of myself as ugly i am pretty confortable w/ how i look.
2007-08-22 11:29:10 · update #1
Let go about worrying about what others think of you. Get involved in social activities... and don't worry about not getting peoples jokes... some people have really stupid jokes!! =) Though I can see you are trying to make it seem as though you "only care about yourself and your own needs" I think you are actually concidering your own needs less and less if you are worried about how people feel about you. You shouldn't be forcing yourself to smile so that people don't "think you're boring"... you should be smiling because they actually MAKE YOU SMILE!! Think about things that you like to do? or are interested in... don't change yourself for others... as you mature, change things about you because you WANT to make those changes for yourself. For me, when I graduated from H.S. I went away to college... it was like a fresh start for me... I was able to "re-invent" myself... nobody knew me... and I could be me without worring that the people who have always known me would be talking about "how I changed" or worrying about what they thought of me... how I did it is not for everyone... but nothing is wrong with you... you just need to find out the best setting to allow you, to be YOU! =)
2007-08-22 11:35:13 · answer #1 · answered by GenesisM 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the ONLY thing "wrong" with you- is that you've made yourself the "center" of your Universe. And the bottom line IS, -you're NOT. Turn your eyes "around"- and stop dwelling on YOU, & START looking at the World around you... There are a LOT of people in the World who NEED what YOU- have to offer... Are you going to BLOW your life- trying to find out what entertains YOU, while blindly walking past others with outstretched hearts??! Shyness is no excuse. -Nor is complaining about all the stupid people in the World (& there are a LOT- of THOSE). It's up to YOU- to climb OUT of yourself- & "get out there" & MAKE something of your life. Time is short. And worrying does NOTHING but waste it. ... Good luck! :)
2007-08-22 11:42:56 · answer #2 · answered by Joseph, II 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 12:33:40 · answer #3 · answered by dyett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to relax more when people talk to you, if people are going to take the time to takl to you, then they want to interact with you. no need to be shy, just be yourself and have a laugh. if you dont get the joke, just say "i dont get it" or laugh anyway simply to laugh. i find the most agreeable person is a person wh is just themselves around people. if you focus too much opn how you look and how your acting, you may come off as unnatural, relax more i think.
2007-08-22 11:30:52 · answer #4 · answered by nnatindahat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we are pretty much alike. all my life i've been getting too much attention about how i look...people would stare at me in awe or lust...would say things that are flattering which usually embarrasses me. sometimes i feel i do not deserve what they say about me or how they see me. Deep inside i grew resenting it and loving it at the same time....but it makes me lonelier...because i know beauty fades in time...and without it...i'll be nothing...cus i've learned to believe that it's the only thing that matters about me...it's the only thing that's good about me...it's the only thing that people appreciate about me... Now my biggest fear is old age...i'd rather die than be old and ugly! It scares the **** out of me and i feel i'll even be lonelier when i grow old...without all the attention....i'll only fall in the pits of a sad sad...intollerably sad existance! and i just can't let that happen....
can you imagine .... not being able to look at yourself in the mirror anymore? when all your life it's the only ******* thing that makes you feel good about yourself...and life? *** !
2007-08-22 13:50:19 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Slide♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'i know im fun because when nobody is around thats the real time i let my true self out. i wish i was like that aroun other people but im too busy worring about what their opinions of me are and that stops me'
Ha, im tellin u, u can be urself, i did at school and i dint care wat ppl think thort of me, they accepted me cos they r my friends, this is wat im normally like round my friends 'http://bebo.com/bethjaneciz ' (watch the videos, im the blonde one) lol its really quite fun being ur self :D
people wont really be looking at how you look like you do. its just paranoire thats taking over. just relax and be yourself :p
2007-08-22 11:42:34 · answer #6 · answered by Janey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah sharon, see? You already have a fan: Me.
You can do your own thing and feel fulfilled, and like me, you don't find 99% of the stuff people laugh about funny.
(unless its about babies getting run over - har,) jk
In the end, if we can't love ourselves first, we can't love others.
Keep bein' your own person and good luck!
2007-08-22 13:40:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No nothing wrong with you.
Everyone goes through what you are experiencing, it's just that they don't talk about it.
2007-08-22 17:31:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋