My bestfriend "amanda" and I have been bestfriends for about 6 yrs now. me and her are soo close. but she also has this other bestfriend (also my friend, but not bff) name "sasha" who we've known for about 4 yrs now. The three of us claim each other as bestfriends right?.. well when its the three of us hang out i feel like the third wheel. me and "sasha" are "sopposedly close" but we're not. "Amanda" and "sasha" have their own "sayings" and talk about things i have no clue what there're talking about. They call each other's mom's "mommy" and stuff like that. and i feel that i've know her mom longer so why don't me and "amanda have that same closeness as they do? it annoys me when were hanging out because its like iam not there. This has happend sooo many times. Now its to the point where i try to avoid hanging out with "amanda" when she's with "sasha". And I don't wanna say anything because i don't want them to put their attention on me just because i confronted them about.
2007-08-22 11:21:36 · 8 answers · asked by fallbaby07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you helped me answer my question so i'll help you :]
I say talk to "Amanda" about your feelings. Say "You know, I've been feeling left out and alienated because of this new friend of yours. I don't have a problem with you having other friends, but I want to feel included too, and I don't feel that way right now."
If it really is a huge issue, you might want to really think hard about the entire friendship. Is "Amanda" worth it? And if you have to, just flat out ask, "Do you still want to be my friend?" Tell her that you do want to be friends, but put her on the spot. If she starts to beat around the bush and such, just say, "Look, when you are completely sure of your answer, call me back." Sometimes, you have to just have to get down to the bottom line. That's what I had to do.
I hope I've helped, thank you for helping me earlier :]
2007-08-22 15:04:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me a few times, so I know how you feel. The best advice I can give you is to find some new friends to hang out with. You dont have to completely ignore "amanda", but just have other people there for you. You should have to be around her if you feel uncomfortable. You should be having fun, right? So meet some new people, and try making new friends :)
2007-08-22 11:47:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you jealous? or do you really feel weird about the situation. maybe you should get to know sasha more and talk to amanda
2007-08-22 11:30:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try bringing another one of your friends with you
that you're close with
the next time you all hang out
and when amanda sees how much attention you're giving
to your friend,
she will try to talk to you more
when she sees you are not giving her the same amount of attention that you used to
2007-08-22 11:27:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been friends with girl for along time and if she has a boyfriend and spends time with him and than try to invite you out with them and you feel like a third wheel than dont go out with them.
If you and her are friends than she will find sometime for you and her to hang our together.
best of luck
2007-08-22 11:27:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been there done that i think you should tell them look i feel like a 3rd wheel here an maybe make some girl time with your friend that might help
2007-08-22 11:26:12 · answer #6 · answered by panthor001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to go out with my brother and his gf - just three of us and I felt same ( My brother told me to stop being stupid!)
Why not see if he has any friends for you! Double date.
Good all round.
2007-08-22 11:26:43 · answer #7 · answered by samw1984 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get new friends!! get over yourself
2007-08-22 11:33:39 · answer #8 · answered by mommy 4 · 0⤊ 5⤋