Is being [unhappily married], considered a good excuse to get a divorce?

Question

Should being in a unhappy marriage situation for like about 13yrs, be a good excuse to get out of a marriage relationship?

Thanks guys for your honest answers. I do find this somewhat confusing at times. But, at least I try very hard to be as happy as possible, even when the wife in general is nothing but hell on my shoulders.

Answer 1

Depends...
on how long you have been unhappy & on why you are unhappy.

The difficult part is honestly & opening yourself up to answer these questions without prejudice.
A lot of time, couples go through stages/phases when they think they are unhappy in their marriage when they are actually unhappy with some other aspect of life or they are having a difficult time adjusting to a life change.

Having been married for 13 years you need to think thoroughly, deeply and intently about your unhappiness. It may be truly because your marriage makes you miserable or it may be that you are dis-satisfied in other aspects of your life & are allowing this dis-satisfaction to funnel through the ones you love.

I wish you the best of luck, but if it is your marriage that makes you unhappy, by all means...leave, live, love & enjoy!

Answer 2

Depends. What efforts have been made to try to make the marriage better? Have both parties given 100% towards making the marriage an enjoyable relationship? At one time, these people loved each other and got along so I would assume that that affection could be rekindled. If there has been infidelity or one is doing unlawful activity, then a divorce would most likely be in order, but to just be "unhappily married" would seem to imply that each party to make more of an effort to repair the marriage if they tried.

In other words, you drove it off into the ditch, you should try to get it back on the road before you just leave it sitting there stranded.

Answer 3

yes being unhappy with your marriage is a good reason for divorce .
I just wish I did that with in the first 5 yrs .
I waited 10 yrs trying to make it work and that was a big wast of my time, I feel like I gave up 10 years for nothing.

Answer 4

If you have been married for 13 years and have tried to make it work- but haven't been able to - then I'd say it's OK to call it quits. It is a long time...

( I am old-fashioned and think people should get married when they are at least 30, because by then they know what they want and what they can expect from a marriage.)

Don't get me wrong- I don't think people in abusive relationships should stay and be miserable, either. I guess we all have to make tough decisions sometimes..Good luck!

Answer 5

Yes- You have to remember that you only have one life to live. You should always want to make yourself happy. Don't ever put yourself threw unhappiness because your married. If you have kids you can still be with your kids and get a divorce. Staying and tryong to work it out in a unhappy marriage will cause more problems.

Answer 6

Before get divorce,the couple,(man and woman),need to find the possibilities to fix and solve: any problem ,which is causing the divorce.If they do not find the solution,they can get counselling help.Never there is an excellent excuse to get divorce.Faults in the marriage are from both sides.

Answer 7

first of all, i think u should consider the reasons why u are not happy. I f there is infidelity involved then u have to see if your marriage can with stand this type of problem. are u part of the problem. i believe that after so many years of marriage you can fall out of love and begin to find things that you are not happy about. take sometime out for you and your spouse and see if you can rekindle the fire that you long for, if not go to counseling and see if that works. all i can say is TRY! TRY! TRY! those are alot of years to throw away.

Answer 8

What have you done to make yourself happy? Have you tried anything to improve your situation or simply just sit around thinking I am unhappy? I believe people should not leave their marriage until they can honestly say they have done everything to save it but it did not work. If you both can leave the relationship in that way then you both can move on. Especially if you have kids! You owe it to them!

Answer 9

I believe it depends on the circumstances. Has the couple tried marital counseling? Are there children involved? Has there been any violence in the marriage? Any adultery??

To me- adultery or violence is an automatic out.

However- if there has been no cheating or violence and the couple hasn't given marital counseling a chance and they have children, then I say you need to at least try. After 13 years what can they lose from trying counseling?

Answer 10

I think it is.

As long as you've done everything possible in attempt to save it, and nothing is working and things aren't better between you two. Then yes, I think if you're not happy..then what the hell is the point to live a miserable life and marriage? it's not fair to either person(s) in the marriage.