Do you think if you've made love a lot during dating period, it is more difficult to have a long-lasting happy marriage? Is it true or not.. any personal examples?
2007-08-22 11:10:38 · 20 answers · asked by YucaKacamata 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Pre-marital sex doesn't stop people from building relationships, falling in love and getting married one day.
Having a happy marriage is based on your ability to find a good partner and stay committed to having a happy marriage.
2007-08-26 15:32:16 · answer #1 · answered by zupermodel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Making a marriage last and happy takes work. Sexual compatibility is a benefit, but within a marriage, it is simply not the same as within a dating relationship.
One thing: One partner could feel love while the other just feels excitement and no real love commitment.
Second thing: Sex makes babies, often unplanned. When you get married because of that, then there is blame and guilt enough to pass around for over 30 years of an unhappy marriage.
Something to think about. C. :)!!
2007-08-30 06:11:32 · answer #2 · answered by Charlie Kicksass 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I had intense pre-marital sex as well. It doesn't hurt your relationship as long as you really get to know the person you are marrying. It's good in a way, that you can have such a great sex life because you will learn what your partner likes in the bedroom and, you already know what limitations, if any, they have.
Be warned though, as you get married, have children and, work a full time job, sex does tend to slow down, or it goes in cycles, where you have it alot one week and not so much the next depending on outside situations.
Make sure before either of you say "I DO" that you study the rest of the vows, you know the ones that say "For Richer or for Poorer, In sickness and In health.", and most importantly, "Till death do us part." When you get married you should get married with the intention and, not throw in the towel at the first sign of a problem such, as a lack luster sex life.
Good Luck with you life...and potential marriage.
2007-08-29 07:22:12 · answer #3 · answered by massgolfer0606 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship is built around sex, then the marriage is not going to last. Divorce will happen if either partner thinks that the marriage will last so long and then to the next partner.
Some people think of pre-maritial sex a test drive for marriage. It is not.
2007-08-26 12:18:03 · answer #4 · answered by Jo Ellen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the success in your marriage depends on how well you know each other and how forgiving and compromising you are. When you marry someone, expectations and responsibilities are higher than when you date them. I'm afraid shagging around won't be enough to get you through...
If you know someone well and you're compatible intellectually and emotionally; and you have the blessings of your two families then hot sex is the icing on the cake but the cake comes before the icing where marriage is concerned.
Try to base your marriage on compatibility in all areas and look at hot sex as a plus.
2007-08-23 02:45:39 · answer #5 · answered by supergirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having an intense sexual relationship prior to marriage does not guarantee having a loving, long-lasting marriage. Marriage has more to do with compromise, honesty, and commitment that it does with sex, even though that does play a significant part. Just because you excel in that one area doesn't mean that you will be successful in the other areas.
It does show that you have a strong attraction though and that's always a good start.
Good Luck!
2007-08-22 11:18:43 · answer #6 · answered by philosophy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. Ive been with the same man for 8 yrs and the first yr we had awsome sex. It was 4x a day and we were so inlove. Now yrs later we still have great sex but all our arguements over finances, kids, and general everyday things out weigh the sex. Great sex doesnt gaurantee a great marriage. It helps but there are so so many other prioritys in a marriage.
2007-08-29 10:03:11 · answer #7 · answered by cocoa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, how would you feel about your relationship if you WEREN'T having sex? that's the question. if you can make it work without sex, then sex is not an issue. if you can't make it work without sex, then you need to work on the "without sex" part. a happy marriage takes more than sex. yeah, sex is great, but it's not everything. you have to have love, honesty, compromise, sincerety, forgiveness. without these things, sex is just sex. if sex is all you have, you need to quit thinking about marriage, and think about what it would take to get the things you need for a happy marriage into your relationship. (for the record, if you enjoy having sex with your partner, the probability of you enjoying sex during marriage with your partner is significantly more than if you were marrying only for love and not the enjoyment of sex.)
2007-08-28 09:41:54 · answer #8 · answered by flgalinms 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as its not the only thing ruling your lives. Put as much passion in what marriage is all about as you do your sex life and there could be a very happily ever after.
2007-08-29 06:10:04 · answer #9 · answered by rainydaze 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a problem only when the other person wants to know how many and who you have been with. That is your past and they should not feel like they have the right to know those things.
2007-08-29 01:11:21 · answer #10 · answered by aloneathome 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋