I am seeing an older man (20 years older) who has been seperated from his wife for over a year. We have been intimate several times and he has told me that he wants to see me have sex with another man (a large black man) and he doesn't want to divorse his wife until he knows for sure that i can go ahead with his fantacies. I feel i am just being used. What do you think?
2007-08-22 10:58:28 · 31 answers · asked by love 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I really don't think this is a real situation...Sounds like you are bored and are making this up.
2007-08-22 11:02:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think your being played darling. He will never leave his wife. And trust me when I say that he doesn't give a damn about you if he wants to see you with another man. Besides what does a black man have anything to do with the question being asked. I think that you strive for drama...thus dating a married man. And I also think that you are very naive to believe in the first place that he would leave his wife for you. Your just a piece of meat to this man....nothing more.
2007-08-22 18:07:44 · answer #2 · answered by twinspulstwo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, you are in control here. This is totally your decision. If you are the type who can mentally and emotionally detach yourself from sex.........then you are the type who can swing, swap, and have threesomes. If not, I would suggest you leave this man alone.....ASAP!!!!!
I dont think you are being used at all. You can only be used if you allow someone to use you. I have to agree with the other respndants here......if you want to have a threesome then by all means have a threesome.
However, my concern would be if you are taking this relationship with him seriously. This is not a relationship I would take seriously at all. He is only thinking of you as a toy, and you should think of him as the same. Which is why I said if YOU want to sleep with two men at the same time. Go for it!!!! Just remember the relationship is not to be taken seriously.
2007-08-22 18:28:01 · answer #3 · answered by T J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think any man that wants to see his wife or girlfriend with another man is strange. That is just my opinion. If you are into pleasing him and into the same fantasies go ahead - but I think he sounds a little crazy. Who or what else will he want you to have sex with?? Plus - he is still married.
2007-08-22 18:05:40 · answer #4 · answered by Babycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is men like this who give older men a bad name! There is nothing wrong with love between people of different ages, but from his side, it doesn't sound like love to me! It sounds as if he is trying to use you to fulfill his fantasies, because his wife won't do it. You don't mention love at all, but if he was in love with you, he would have divorced his wife a long time ago, and would want you to be faithful to him, as he would want to be to you. nothing about this relationship sounds as if it could lead to any happiness for you, unless you are wanting the same fantasies as he is. I would try to find someone who treats me with a lot more respect than he is showing to you. You deserve a lot better than this!
2007-08-23 08:21:16 · answer #5 · answered by sparrow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right 100%.You already answer the question.Move on,get out of that pervert,crazy man;before is too late.Get this honest advice from a yahoo's member.This sicko man never will get divorce.Think good,well,before is too late.Find a single man,who will love you indeed,never using you.Move on,good luck.
2007-08-22 18:13:29 · answer #6 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your friend has some serious issues and needs help. It's bad enough he's interested in someone 20 yrs younger (you didn't give your ages) but his whole fantasy is a bit much.
If you feel you are being used why are you with him? Leave this freak!
2007-08-22 18:04:41 · answer #7 · answered by rcButterfly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definetly being used. Unless you want to have sex with a large black man I would say no.
2007-08-22 18:04:36 · answer #8 · answered by verrico98 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep, your feelings of being used are correct. Next he will ask you to have sex with two large black men because that's ANOTHER of his fantasies. Get rid of this manipulative lying loser.
2007-08-26 14:07:48 · answer #9 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...I think you should stay away from this man. There are many men out there...that have respect and honor toward there woman. Go for a younger man....Good luck!
2007-08-22 18:05:04 · answer #10 · answered by LeeLynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you even need to ask?
Yes!
Yes!
Yes, you are being played, and being used.
Find a man that IS available.
Bottom line is you are sleeping with a married man, and he is treating you just like the other girls that sleep with married men.
2007-08-22 18:02:52 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋