2007-08-22 10:48:34 · 8 answers · asked by Sakic fan 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
good question
because
-if u dnt accomplish what u dream of...what u set ur mind to do...what u think u should do
-if u dnt become the person u wanna be
ur self-confidence will b low and u will not bare to live with ur self... u will not b satisfied
now imagine if all these dreams are perfect and tthe person u wanna become is perfect...imagine how ur self-confidence will b low if ur not that person....now just to know most of the planet r tooo far from that perfect person
i guess thats the perfect reason why u shouldnt b a perfectionnist, why u should accept ur mistakes and ur faults
once u do... u will love urself and think of ur self as an effective person and ur self-esteem will b high
if u dnt...well u will never b perfect...and remember ur self-esteem will not b perfect at all
dnt u c many over achievers with low self-esteem
well guess what its because they wanna b perfect
2007-08-22 10:58:59 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it ruins lives. You're uptight, emotionally on a string, physically tied up. It's really hard to live while you're fighting insomnia, severe heartburn or ulcers, headaches and/or migraines and a host of other physical ailments which mirror the uptight personality inside. That's just you.
What about the people around you? You pick at them. You follow their money expenditures, living with them is hell because you want the house in perfect shape, and the person you'll likely marry will be sloppy. And when you have kids...
Be a perfectionist on the things that matter. Love your family to the max, and do whatever you can to improve your relationship. Be a perfectionist about your health. Exercise, eat well, and get annual checks. Your relationship with God is important, too.
Other things aren't so important. With work, do "just enough." With housecleaning, it doesn't have to be perfect. Do what you consider essential and leave the rest. Use the extra time on your family.
If you're a perfectionist in everything you do, you'll have no time for others in your life. Perfectionists can't sit down because they see so many things that need doing. Where's the daddy who plays marbles on the floor with his son, or has a tea party with barney and mickey and your daughter?
Perfectionists miss a lot of life doing extra perfect jobs that nobody will notice or appreciate. Why waste that time?
TX Mom
a perfectionist
2007-08-22 11:05:08 · answer #2 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be you. What one person defines as being a perfectionist another will will define as being sloppy.
It is you who need to live your life. The general rule is that if being a perfectionists starts causing issues (like the pencil on the desk has to be placed to millimetre precision (OCD)) in life then you need to back off; if it is causing no problems and you are a happy well balanced person then why worry.
2007-08-23 01:53:53 · answer #3 · answered by ktrna69 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question and didn't now it. Because you pointed out you don't want to be a perfectionist, that means you admit you have a flaw, and therefore you are not a perfectionist.
This sounds like a clever attempt for attention or to take someone down with you, eh?
2007-08-22 11:00:31 · answer #4 · answered by wk_coe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone can be a perfectionist who seeks to find perfection in everything or every person he deals with;..if he has that irrational mentality that tells him perfection is possible for man...which, sad to say, is not.
A perfectionist is just an imperfect illusionist who wants to sound super tucked to amuse himself and try to impress others with his radical views on the slightest error there might be. On his mind, everything is presumed erratic unless it's done by him.
Perfection is only of God.
2007-08-22 14:20:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most 'perfectionists' arn't really that at all. They're Egotists.
2007-08-22 10:54:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
because your fighting an uphill battle. you will NEVER be perfect. no one will, so dont waste your life trying. just do the best u can.
2007-08-22 10:56:00 · answer #7 · answered by nnatindahat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you aren't that good at it.
2007-08-22 11:12:51 · answer #8 · answered by Greenie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋