Is there a free program or a way that will enable myself to find what my husband has been doing online.
I know he has MSN Messenger and Yahoo Messenger along with MySpace and I have the information to gain access to his acounts but I want to know what he has been doing in the past.
Im here alone now with two children and I want to show proff to my lawyer of what he has done so its not a she said he said issue.
Myself and my children thank everyone who helps us.
2007-08-22 10:42:05 · 19 answers · asked by zaqw12345 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, most states are a "no fault" divorce now, so this won't help much.
2007-08-25 15:29:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, I am a computer forensics analyst and here is my 2 cents:
1. Stay away from key loggers, 99% of anti-(virus | spyware | malware) picks up on it and he will know you are watching him.
2. If he has half a brain,, he is clearing out his cache (temporary files), history, and MRU (Most recently used) lists when he is done (heck in Firefox, it is as simple as hitting Ctrl+Shift+Del).
3. If you suspect he is chatting with the mistress, then you can set the IM program to save a log of all chats (it won't prompt him or anything). Problem is, again, if he is smart, then He is using a web-chat client (Yahoo has one, so does MSN)
4. The only way you are going to get anything conclusive is if you pack the computer up and take it to a court-approved computer forensics firm in your area. You would no believe the stuff we can dig up. Deleted files from years ago ... every history index, chat log, and visited web site. It is not cheap, it is not a guarantee, but if you want to nail the bastard, evidence chain of custody must begin NOW. Tell him the computer died and that you will pick it up the next day. My firm (In Ohio) images the hard drive in about 3 hours and then gives the system back to the user.
Good luck, leave the bastard.
2007-08-30 15:30:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are many free key-loggers available on the Internet that will give you a readout of everything he types into the computer. This will be very painful for you once you read it in black and white. I would suggest that you not go this route. There is no need to put yourself through the agony of 'finding our for sure' Your lawyer won't need proof. All your lawyer needs is enough money to get you out of your marriage. If you insist on spying on your husband, go to www.familykeylogger.com ...but I again advise you that taking this step will cause you unnecessary grief. If you don't trust your husband, then the two of you need to find a way to re-build that trust. If you want out of the marriage, then get out. Don't teach your children how to do things behind peoples' backs...
If you're looking for files of conversations he has already had, they will be stored in the message archives listed under the 'contacts' heading of the messenger. This will only work, however, if message archiving is activated. To do that, you need to go to messenger preferences, and check the box that says 'yes, save all of my conversations'
2007-08-30 05:53:36 · answer #3 · answered by bg4gb 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey first of all if you are having those thoughts at all then 9 times out of 10 there true!!! LEAVE him forget him and find happiness's for you and your children, trying to find out what he's doing is just gonna stress ya and those kids even worse just leave start a better life!!
2007-08-29 22:04:47 · answer #4 · answered by ~FliZo~ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go to Google and type in key logger and it will bring up a program you can take on a trial basis, which will report back to your email address, as to which sites your husband has visited.
2007-08-22 17:54:13 · answer #5 · answered by Live_For_Today 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should be able to veiw the archives in the messageners if he hasn't deleted them.
I would check with your lawyer about online stuff being submitted into court
2007-08-22 17:53:51 · answer #6 · answered by his wife 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you really want to spend the rest of your life living this way; spying on your husband. If you cant trust him maybe you should be with someone else who is going to make you happy.
2007-08-30 16:22:08 · answer #7 · answered by mayrad 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A private investigator could help, a lawyer could help, a computer consultant could help. You just need to gather evidence - divorce lawyers know about that. You should have a good divorce lawyer - good luck!
2007-08-26 14:05:35 · answer #8 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
"Free" program? No. But if it's worth it to you, you'll pay a knowledgeable computer person to search the computer for any clues that might remain. They may or may not find anything; it's your call to decide if the investment is worth it.
2007-08-22 17:52:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
this is the problem now a days with divorce. stop playing games and move on. why would you want know anything that happen in the past. leave it there. live in the present. your are going to end up shooting yourself in the foot. and he will get your behind. grow up. GodBless
2007-08-29 00:25:05 · answer #10 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Galfriend let bygones be bygones rather focus on your future with the kids. Good luck
2007-08-29 08:21:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋