ok i kinda asked this question already but that didnt really help make a decision. my ex bff talked alot a bs and said some stuff online about me that i never thought she'd say. i tried to call and talk about it but she denied even when i have proof. If i do let her come to my birthday party i know 100% she'll want attention, im not saying the spotlight should always be on me but it is my birthday. she's done it before i dont think i can trust her but i did already invite her. if i dont let her come i have no idea what to say. shes always so dramatic and mean to everyone, but sometimes she acts all cute;i dont want drama, and i dont think im being immature.
should i let her come?
if not what should i say?
2007-08-22 10:23:24 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
so you dont think youre being immature, but youre referring to someone as your "ex bff" ?? please...
2007-08-22 10:27:22 · answer #1 · answered by dayofthephoenix99 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should let her come. She's the one being immature--not you. If she really is your "ex BFF" (emphasis on the ex) I'm assuming that you've cut her out of a lot of parts of your life, and not having her to your birthday party would be another part. It's hard to accept, but sometimes we fall out of friendships, and this may be one friendship you're falling out of--and that's okay, judging by her behavior. If she had apologized, okay, good, but she denied it and lied to you about something she did that was very wrong, and that's pretty inexcusable.
If it's too hard to do in person, maybe you could e-mail her and say something like "I know you told me you didn't say those things, but since I have proof I believe that you did, and what you said really hurt me. I need some time to cool off, so I don't know if it would be a good idea for you to come to my birthday party".....
2007-08-22 10:31:43 · answer #2 · answered by xo379 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ugh, I used to have a friend like this...self-absorbed, always taking an opportunity to put me down if it benefited her in some way, drama queen... Actually, funny enough, the last time I ever spoke to her was at my birthday party, like 3 years ago. She had pulled a particularly un-funny prank in order to get attention from another party guest, and I just couldn't believe my "best friend" would deliberately hurt me like that. In retrospect, the prank wasn't that big of a deal, but in her case it was more of a last-straw situation, where I was so close to ditching her already just because of her other annoying behavior. For instance, I got engaged once when I was 22, and I couldn't wait to call her up and tell her how my BF had proposed to me, and all she said in response to the news was, "Yeah, well, I'm going to go to grad school." Another time, when the same BF and I ended our engagement and I moved out for a while to try to sort things out, she seemed overjoyed to hear the news that the engagement was off. And then, when the BF and I had patched things up and decided to give living together another try, I told her at her housewarming party that we were moving in together and she said, "AGAIN? I thought it was a total failure the first time around," right in front of the other party guests!!! Anyway, cutting her off was the best thing I ever did, and I think that if this "friend" of yours makes you that miserable, you should cut her off too.
2007-08-22 10:35:10 · answer #3 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want her to come to your party? If not then call her and tell her she isn't invited because you are afraid that she will cause trouble. Sounds to me like you need to maybe sit down and talk with your ex bff anyway! If you two are truly friends then you wouldn't fight over having another friend it's kind of trivial don't you think? Good luck in whatever you do!
2016-05-20 01:49:19 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say uninvite her, tell her that you were hurt by her recent actions and you need some space to decide whether you want to continue being friends with her. Additionally, its your day, why would you want someone else to take the spotlight off you?
Moreover, what I cannot understand is, why would you want to have such a person as a friend much less a best friend? What is the definition of a friend? a friend is basically someone who is there for you, who will not intentionally hurt you.
Your so called "best friend" seems very needed and eventually if you allow her she will drain you, sap every emotion from you. Let her go and get a friend : "a person whom one knows, likes and trusts, one who supports, sympathizes with.: American Heritage Dictionary -friend.
2007-08-22 10:40:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. She is your Ex best friend. Who cares if she comes. Hope that she doesn't show up and go on with your life. If she is spreading rumors about you and talking bad about you, then you don't need her in your life anyways. If she is your ex best friend then she really should have no interest in coming anyways.
2007-08-22 11:20:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you let her comme to your bth party, i think you should have a good conversation with her,Tell her How you feel eveytime she ack like that, don't call her make sure you tell her on her face, and if she don't listen to you, you should tell her that she can't come to the party straigh up.
2007-08-25 10:09:27 · answer #7 · answered by Sane 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have already invited her, it would be in very bad taste to un-invite her now. You are stuck. Next time, think before you speak!
2007-08-22 10:27:08 · answer #8 · answered by nurse ratchet 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could be creating drama by not letting her come but then again its your birthday
2007-08-22 10:26:26 · answer #9 · answered by Alissa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ex seems to negate the bff idea
2007-08-22 10:26:31 · answer #10 · answered by civil_seismic_eng 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the term "EX" is usually used to refer to something that is in the past, not the present or future.
2007-08-22 10:26:10 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋