Okay my boyfriend and I have been together for a year. Todays my birthday and he got me nothing. Not even a card. He said he just couldn't think of anything to get me and that he'll make it up to me later. Should I be mad or am I being petty?
2007-08-22 10:19:09 · 15 answers · asked by Princess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
this is in "Marriage & Divorce" because why?
You stated "boyfriend"
2007-08-22 10:29:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Of course are you allowed to be mad about it, not many women would blame you! I would not only e mad about it, though, I know I would feel hurt, as if I was not important enough for him to take a few minutes out of his day to go and buy me something. What a lot of men do not seem to realize is that for most of us, it is not the price of the gift, but the fact that they took the time to think about buying us one. Let him know that you feel hurt by him not buying you a gift, and explain that your birthday is a special day for you, and getting a gift later, or him "making it up to you later" just is not the same. Perhaps he just didn't realie you would take it so hard. happy birthday, and I hope he comes home tonight with at least a bunch of flowers! Apart from not getting a gift from him, I hope you had a wonderful day.
2007-08-23 04:12:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be mad if you want to, but it won't get you anywhere. Is your bf normally loving and caring? Does he get your little surprises when it isn't your birthday? Do you love him lots for other reasons? If you say "yes" then let today go. Let him take you out to dinner or something instead. (That's a gift, too.) Some guys aren't big into birthdays. Let him make it up to you later. If you decide to marry this guy, make it clear before the wedding that YOU like gifts on birthdays. (So he'll be clear that it's expected ahead of time.)
2007-08-22 10:28:47 · answer #3 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all.....it's every human beings right to have their own feelings about something. You shouldn't APOLOGIZE or ask if you have a "RIGHT" to be mad! They are your feelings and of course you have a right to feel whatever you are feeling!
Yes, I would be very upset!!! Couldn't think of anything? What kind of weak a s s excuse is that? You had a whole damn year!!! To me, that says "you are not important to me and I don't even value you enough to take 5 minutes out of my day to buy you a card." That's horrible and if he can't even be bothered to be considerate of you on your birthday of all days, then I wouldn't hold my breath that he'll be a considerate partner for the long term!!!!
2007-08-22 10:41:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First! Happy Birthday Princess!!!
It is completely understandable to be angry about this, especially if this is the first birthday you are sharing with him. It seems to me that he didn't put the same value on your birthday as you do. Making up for it later is NOT the same as celebrating the day you took your first breath. Sorry, but to me there would be no way to make up for it. It could be that he is lazy, but really on that special person's birthday, you want to make them feel special. If this day was special to you, then yes you have every right to be upset that he didn't couldn't think of anything nice to do, or.......really anything, (it is not even about getting anything, but celebrating it.) If today is just like any other to you, (which I don't think it is) then just go with it. But ask yourself something, what if he can't think of anything on Christmas?
2007-08-22 10:55:40 · answer #5 · answered by Seasidelover23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have more questions for you than answers. Is he broke? No money? Maybe he couldn't get you what he thought he wanted and didn't want to go cheap.
Are you hard to please? Have you ever expressed disappointment or displeasure in the things he has done for you or the gifts he has bought you? If so, he may have wanted to avoid the pain of your rejection.
The hard one.....Do you love him? Or, do you love the idea that he thinks about you and buys you things?
Finally, did you otherwise have a nice birthday? Parents? Friends? Family? Cake and ice cream? I hope you did.
Glad to help.......;)
2007-08-22 10:31:47 · answer #6 · answered by JustAskin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you're being petty. it's your birthday, the day of your birth, telling you he forgot would be better than i couldn't think of anything to get you. being mad is the right thing to do because if you don't get mad now then he's getting away with it later.
2007-08-22 10:35:06 · answer #7 · answered by coldplayfan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not being petty my birthday is today and my partner rang me to tell me he is giving me $100 this afternoon to go buy "myself" something , why is it so hard for men to just get up go out and buy us something ? he says he would pick something I dont like , HELLO I showed him what I wanted circled it in a catalogue its only $35 so I dont need $100 thats just a waste .
Seriously guys why do you do this if you've been with someone for a term of more then say 1 year why is it so hard for you to know what we're into? seriously.
2007-08-22 12:32:57 · answer #8 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you are right in feeling sad....Birthdays are special days; and when we are in a relationship the least we expect is a "Happy Birthday" and a hug...I think you must feel like he let you down....
Perhaps you should keep your eyes open and see how he acts...Actions speak louder than words, IMO. Hopefully he'll try to make it up to you....
Hope you have a nice birthday....
2007-08-22 10:44:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
um, wow, PISSED. i could specific be. As for dealing with it, I continuously locate the superb thank you to get what you truly want out of that's to hold back the fashion (a minimum of in front of him) and play the sorrowful little domestic dog who truly had her thoughts harm. Be sneaky, and make him sense undesirable approximately it, yet no longer consistently, and not too plenty at as quickly as. He ought to get the ingredient and make up for it someway. As for his birthday, now, make plans inclusive of your human beings, and go away his "specific night" as much as him. purchase him a cheapo hallmark card and dont even sign your call, LOL!
2016-10-03 02:06:37 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time it out. When his birthday rolls around, then you will know what or what not to get him.
2007-08-22 10:36:09 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋