My ex broke up with me years ago got with another girl and had a son after that relationship he tried to get back with me I told him we could be friends and see what happens one day while i was out with my gay male friend we ran into him so I introduced them and we went on about our way then I went to see a him a couple months later at a restaurant where my ex and some other people I know work and they all came running to me stateing he was gay I didnt believe them about three weeks after that my gay male friend called me and told me that they were having sex but he was still with his long term boyfriend the one before my ex. I ran into my ex again and I didnt know what to say so I avoided him all together, how am I to feel, was he gay all along?????
2007-08-22 10:10:17 · 19 answers · asked by Liz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I talked to him today and he asked me did I hear about it I told him yes then he asked me was I disappointed in him and i couldn't respond because we are both susposed to be christians in a way i wanted to tell him about my best friend dateing his old boyfriend still but the question came to mind would i be wrong if i told?
2007-08-24 16:39:18 · update #1
There is a possibility that he was gay all along and just didn't know it, or didn't allow himself to believe it. Most people agree that gay people are born with homosexual preferences, and you can't "turn" someone gay, any more than you could turn a gay person straight. Probably he was always secretly attracted to men and just denied himself because he was afraid of how his friends and family would take it. Either way, whether he is truly gay or just bi-curious and experimenting, it is probably a major reason why he can't seem to make his relationships with women last. Just be nice to him, be his friend-treat him how you would hope to be treated if the tables were turned.
2007-08-22 10:16:05 · answer #1 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you say? You could say hi at least,First know it has nothing to do with you. Many men have a hard time coming to terms with being gay.We try to fool our self's by being with a women,we are not sure about our self,wants ,desires and how the rest of the world will act.
So we try to hide it the best way we can.But you can only lie to yourself for so long and then it comes out.
You did not make him gay, and he could use a Friend that can relate to him both before and now.You may have lots of questions ,i have first hand experience if you wish
2007-08-30 03:36:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask for a 3 some
2007-08-22 17:14:10 · answer #3 · answered by Laymo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let it go.... he was gay when he was with you but hadn't came out of the closet yet.... then he moved on and had a child with another woman........ then ended up with your friend so let them be happily gay he will find out sooner or later that ur open gay friend cheated on him....just keep mouth shut.
2007-08-30 16:40:15 · answer #4 · answered by Calico L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody TURNS gay. Either you is or you ain't! Be happy for people. People in alternative relationships deserve love and happiness too.
2007-08-30 16:19:40 · answer #5 · answered by Diane G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously had not fully realized it if he moved on and had a child with another woman. You just say Hi, and you don't have to say anything else.
2007-08-22 17:14:09 · answer #6 · answered by ☆Zestee☆ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have kids or are in a relationship with him anymore...what does it matter. When he was with you he wasn't gay. Now that he maybe...who cares.
2007-08-22 17:14:05 · answer #7 · answered by Windy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was he just using you to get to your gay friend?
2007-08-22 17:13:19 · answer #8 · answered by Mel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only one word: F@GGOT!!!
(Good Riddance to Bad Rubbish.)
2007-08-22 17:19:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say "have a great life". It's not your problem. Move on.
2007-08-27 11:43:53 · answer #10 · answered by hugskisses4707 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋