My dad is racist.
i've always had a thing for black guys but he gets mad at me when i even say that a black guy is hot,
what should i do?
2007-08-22 10:04:20 · 19 answers · asked by Sarah L 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
ha, yea I know the feeling, my grandparents are racist, they're divorced but both of them and their new spouses are racist also. It's hard n to say anything out loud but try to you could be wanting to scream it when he's next to you but don't. And if you ever have a boyfriend who's african american, try not to let him know, at least until your 18. Or if he does find out or yodon't like that idea why don't you just talk to him and see what his problem is.
2007-08-22 10:11:32 · answer #1 · answered by Hazel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends on your family dynamics.
If your dad is usually a pretty intelligent and reasonable guy, you may just want to sit down with him and say, "Dad, I love you, and I'm a little worried because some things you've said/done make me think you don't like black people very much. I want you to know that I think that's a really ignorant way to think, and I've lost some respect for you because of it. I can't change how you think, but please don't talk that way around me any more. I believe that people are people regardless of race. I don't choose friends or boyfriends based on race. I hope you would never let something like that affect our relationship."
If your dad is a very strict or violent kind of guy, or does not respond to reasoning, you may just want to refrain from saying such things until you are no longer living in his house or under his financial control.
2007-08-22 17:20:50 · answer #2 · answered by PurrfectPeach13232 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
have your ducks in a row. be able to react to your dad's opposition with positive things.
some questions to ask yourself.
Does he come from a good family with a strong background? how does he dress? does he talk in slang or plain english? how does he do in school or college? does he have a job? does he have any positive goals for the future and how does he plan to meet them? does he change his goals often? how does he treat his mother? how does he treat his friend and other family? what does he do to unwind?
your dad has problem had a bad experience or two and is just trying to protect you from a heart ache or worse.
(and no I'm not racist but i have many friends that date black guys and I've seen good and bad.)
2007-08-22 17:23:45 · answer #3 · answered by jgrey1goose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change the way your dad thinks or feels. For the time being (while living in his home) you can keep your feeling about blacks to yourself to avoid a fight. Maybe when your dad is in a good mood & little by little you can talk to him about how racism is senseless and ignorant, maybe he will come around, but maybe not. But when you're on your own, then he can't dictate your life. But the only thing you can control are your feelings and your actions. Don't allow his negativity or hatred to poison your mind. Good luck, I know this is difficult for you. 2D
2007-08-22 17:10:50 · answer #4 · answered by 2D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you wait until you are 18 becasue there are many cases out there right now where black men and getting into trouble because someones parents were racist and took them to court.
2007-08-23 10:19:35 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Goodlookin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about you talk to your dad. You should be prepared to tell him why you may be interested in a black person. Are you just trying to be different? And your dad should tell you what his objections are. Only then can you protect your ties to your family. Obviously, you have to make up your mind, whether your (maybe short-lived) curiosity is worth to jeopardize any perceived or existing family harmony. Throwing stereotype names around is never helpful.
2007-08-22 17:15:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't do anything. While you live in his house abide by his wishes. When you move out do whatever you would like. If you break his rules the consequences will only be BAD don't try it.
2007-08-22 20:05:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're marrying a respectable black dude though do whatever you want, go an marry him but if he's ghetto he's gonna be cheating on you.
2007-08-22 17:09:02 · answer #8 · answered by Derek 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
MY DAD IS THE SAME AND WHEN HE SAYS SOMETHING RACIST I CALL HIM A RETARDED OLD FOOL !!! YOUR A GOOD PERSON FOR NOT FOLLOWING IN YOUR DADS FOOT STEPS TELL YOU DAD THAT ITS 2007 AND TO GET A GRIP OF HIMSELF !!
2007-08-22 17:13:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Think for yourself. You should live your convictions Because you leave here one day by yourself. There is no changing him now.
2007-08-22 17:14:39 · answer #10 · answered by Sugar 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋