this man is not from my country i even dont know him much but he says he loves me n dis n dat
2007-08-22 09:42:18 · 20 answers · asked by fkmsfgm 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hey my sister.i am a muzlim too.i didnt expect even hearing this from a muzlem sister.u wanna ruin your life with your own hands?yes?
dont even think oabout it anymore,for god's sake.
stick to your husband and dont trade him for any ****.ok?
ALLAH protects u
2007-08-22 09:57:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Something is missing from your marriage, and that is why this "new guy" is making you tingle....But be careful! You are a married lady and you have children, so you cannot just go ahead and do whatever you think will make you feel better...
I'd ask you to go to your doctor and have a physical check-up.
Something may be wrong with your hormones, and that is why you might feel depressed. Find out if something physical is wrong with you, and start treatment if necessary. If everything is OK physically, then perhaps you should go to therapy so you can find out WHY you are feeling so sad.
Please do not pursue this fantasy with the other man....You could get really confused and then you will be sorry !
2007-08-22 09:57:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this guy wants to be more than just friends, so I'd avoid him. Tell him you're married, and not interested.
If he really does just want to be friends, I guess it's only a problem depending on how strict your faith and your husband are.
I've had friendships with Muslim women before, and it was never a problem for most of them, but most of the Muslims I have known come from pretty liberal families, so I don't know if they represent the majority or not.
2007-08-22 11:06:19 · answer #3 · answered by Adam S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as-salaam aleikum sister,
what about if you had never met this friend of yours? Would you still be depressed in your marriage? What is missing in the marriage? have you communicated these things to your husband to try and work things out to where you can be happy?
or are you depressed now that you met someone and it looks like the grass is greener with your friend and you are depressed thinking that you can't be with him?
sister, if you are having problems in your marriage you MUST communicate your feelings with your husband. It takes two to make a marriage work, and you have to let him know you are not happy so that he can make the move to work on the marriage.
marriage also takes compromising on both the husband and wife to where both can be happy.
you do not just go and start looking for another guy for what is missing, that is the easy way out.
Go and speak to your husband and go attend marital counseling to see if you can work things out.
If you have really tried in your marriage and the both of you cannot be happy together, then make istikhaara to see if divorce is the next step.
But don't EVER divorce because there is someone else you want to be with... if you have to divorce it should be because you cannot work out the marital problems.
2007-08-22 10:45:06 · answer #4 · answered by Twizzle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in an American point of view if u want to be friends be Friends but nothing more. but dose not Muslim tradition forbid it. i thought u were only allowed to be around family that is male, and no strangers. and aren't women beg there if u walk around with out a male family member or even look at someone. excuse my arrogance if I'm wrong or if u r in a different country. but that's all i know. i think it would be a bad idea.
2007-08-22 10:02:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know a whole lot about muslim's, but isn't it true that the problems when the husband finds out about your other friendship a lot more harsh than others?
Unless your wanting out of your marriage, I agree with the other person. Your married, don't let this other guy start trouble.
2007-08-22 09:49:17 · answer #6 · answered by Leann ~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with being friends. Lots wrong with going beyond that. Here is the test for you. If you have to lie to your husband and family about this other "friend" then you shouldn't be involved in any way with him.
2007-08-22 10:10:18 · answer #7 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what to do, tell him to leave you along. Don't answer his e-mails, phone calls etc. As the matter of fact, just block his address and phone #. It's not about religion, Muslim or Christian, it's about morals and honestly even if you didn't have any religion, it wouldn't matter. My fiance and I don't believe in opposite sex friendships, period.
2007-08-22 09:56:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have a loving husband, and three children, tell that other man you are married and to leave you alone!
2007-08-22 09:51:35 · answer #9 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. Nothing wrong with having another friend. Make it clear you are ONLY friends. The guy sound a little nuts.
2007-08-22 09:54:48 · answer #10 · answered by Solid man 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋